How to stop being “cute” and start being hot/sexy?

Question

Everyone calls me cute... it’s annoying

EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

Cute is like sexy but with respect because it's not meant to make you sound like a slut. Cute is superior to "hot" or "sexy." Believe me when I say, cute is not meant to make you sound like a kid or like a guy doesn't think you're mature. It's a "that's incredibly hot but in a way that makes you seem like a sweet and sincere person rather than a flaky slut. If a guy calls you cute he might not be interested in sex but only because you don't seem like the kind who simply wants sex (which quite frankly isn't a bad thing).

BirdFly · Accepted Answer

Why would you ever want that? You have something precious like cuteness but you want to be hot? Just because of the popular culture controls your brain and say being hot is better?
Look woman. Everyone can be hot with attitudes and trainings but no one can be cute with training. They can try but it will look so fake. You better keel your cuteness. Because decent boys don't care about having a hot sexy girlfriend. They prefer cute girls.

loveisbeautiful · Accepted Answer

I'll never understand why people take the word "cute" as a negative thing but the words "hot/ sexy" as a great thing. Honestly, I think the definition of those words depends on the person saying it and their tone of voice. Truthfully, maybe back in the 1940's sexy had better meaning but in this day and age, being sexy isn't nesscesarily a good thing. So, I'm not sure why you'd want to strive for that.

dancing_in_nebulas · Accepted Answer

*How I picture the asker Lol adorable...

hahahmm · Answer

If a guy is into you, it’s the same thing really... but you probably need more trappings like:
Wear heels instead of flat/flip flops.
Show some leg or thigh.
Put a lot of effort into your hair. Even tho guys don’t really care about hair detail they do notice that you put in the effort & confident & attractive women tend to put in more effort.

Always wear clothes that fit. That means not too tight & not loose. It’s just right. AND shows some hip/butt curve and the size of your waist. Cute tends to hide in huge sweaters/loose fitting stuff. Hot does not.

Don’t go too crazy tho. If you show a lot more skin than the average woman you can easily come across as desperate for attention. Guys have GREAT imaginations. You don’t have to show a lot to be seen as hot/sexy.

DryJake2015 · Answer

It's cute that you wanna know how to not be cute. xD Like most everyone says on here though, cuteness is never negative. If they are trying to use it as a negative term then they need a broader/more accurate vernacular. You're probably cute as in a genuinely nice girl who knows how to act civilized. But many cute girls have that hot/sexy side tucked away for later if you know what I mean... xD Also, If you don't like it when people call you that, you'll have to either somehow change their views of you, or sincerely tell them you don't like it. If they don't listen to you, then that's how you know they have low levels of respect for you. Best of luck!

snowangle · Answer

#1 is confidence. #2 is appearance.

To build confidence, it depends on you and what makes you feel sexy and confident. For me, it's taking dance lessons. But it's whatever will help you carry yourself with that sort of sexy attitude. Oh and don't giggle or blush when someone says something suggestive; say something witty or suggestive right back at them!

And then appearance is self-explanatory. Get in shape. Dress to flatter your body. Learn the best ways to style your hair. Get good at makeup.

This is a journey I'm also undertaking for myself lol, so good luck to us! 👍

Miristheiss · Answer

Sorry but being cute is a good thing. If you are cute than there is nothing you can do. Most people like cute. You can be sexy in the bedroom, you don't have to ooze sex every second of the day... with random strangers. Cute usually has a lot to do with a happy, perky, fun, friendly personality, a girl who is silly and can laugh at herself.

I know you don't want to hear it but I think you're blessed if people find you cute. I'm sorry you have a little hang up over it.

WrathXXI · Answer

Cute, in my opinion, is better than sexy. Sexy is only about physical attraction and desire, where as being cute is both aesthetic and behavioral. It means that they aren't just looking at you, but are genuinely interested in you.

xxashiaskxx_ · Answer

Whats the context of the word cute being used like your attractive or you cute like a child or puppy? How do guys treat you? Do they ignore you? Are you often in the friendzone? like getting rejected alot? Or do you get a lot of attention? Like guys asking you, out complimenting you?

SmartGirl92 · Answer

First off, there’s nothing wrong with being cute. But if you want to appear sexier, try dressing more scantily clad. Or doing your makeup in a provocative way. Like the classic winged liner & red lips. That’s like the signature sex symbol, pinup girl look.

Malita55 · Answer

When your look matures. Some people keep the baby face look for a long time. Also, if someone calls you cute, it doesn’t mean you’re not also hot, just means you’re more cute than hot. Start working out maybe? Get some curves and muscle tone. That’s not cute, that’s hot

Buckzor · Answer

Dress provocatively, get one of those bikini models physiques, put out and look "slutty" in a sense. Hot/sexy is just sex related adjectives. Cute/pretty is overall attractiveness. There's a fine line between the two and I have no idea how to explain it.

alexandra_ · Answer

My problem too and whatever I do I’m still called cute cause I’m 5’1... even my boobs are “cute”, I know they are small (32A) but come on you never say cute to big or medium boobs 🙄 you never call a penis cute even if it’s small so why call small boobs cute...

karahiri · Answer

I think showing a lot more skin will disavow people of that idea. But do you want to do that? I get 'cute' a lot too and it can be annoying as hell, but I'm not willing to do what it takes to enter the 'sexy' field lmao.

NicoletteKomotov · Answer

Wear this shelf bra, and necklace in the pics. Attach the necklace with the little nooses to your nipple in the pic to lead the eye to them... Wear high heels, low cut tops etc. They won't say your cute anymore.

serious · Answer

No, please don't start being something else for others, if you are naturally cute, then you should naturally remain cute and I am sure somebody will find you being cute as gorgeous/appealing.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

diablito752 · Answer

There's something to consider. Some guys call girls cute because calling them hot or sexy is too explicit and they don't want to give off the wrong impression. But if you really want people to call you sexy (in general) it's generally about showing skin

Shiraa · Answer

As a "cute" girl myself I can assure you that it is sometimes even better than being sexy. I've had plenty of guys approach me because they thought I was cute and therefore attractive. Just be yourself ;D

Anonymous · Answer

Cute is good. I've been in love with a cute girl for years without her knowing (she's straight and I didn't want to lose the friendship).
She also said she hated being called cute instead of beautiful or hot, she thought I was just being nice when I said she was all of those already... Embrace your cute look. It's a gift

0112358 · Answer

For women, being cute is almost always a -type- of sexy, in a way that is not as true for men. Also if you're cute/hot, people will say you're cute much more as it's more accepted to say.

soul1110 · Answer

Simjply put, "cute" doesn't offer much sexual appeal whereas "hot/sexy" is basically all about that. Not sure if you really want that, though... sure, you'll get guy's attention, but it's usually not of the good kind (see "catcalling").

This isn't to say women with sexual appeal can't be referred to as "cute", but it's just something people sometimes seem to mix up.

TheKing4991 · Answer

Honestly, have a bit of a "bitchy" don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Guys find bitches sexy and fuckable. We find cute girls sweet and dateable

VaIiant · Answer

It’s all about how you carry yourself. Inject confidence into the way you walk, talk, breath. Sway your hips, lift your chin up, smirk a bit. It has nothing to do with the way you look, everything to do with the way you act.

Jjpayne · Answer

its all about dramatic makeup and sexy clothes.

Anonymous · Answer

Man, women are seriously never happy. Call them ugly, you’re wrong. Call them hot, you should’ve said cute. Call them cute, you should’ve said hot. Say they look good in an outfit, you’re just trying to get laid. Say they look ugly in an outfit, you’re an asshole.

Angel-Chan · Answer

Don't change for other humans, stay yourself and also being cute is sexy, its very difficult to find the way to explain it, but it is logic & beauty of you

doitson · Answer

Be more sophisticated and mature. To me, a sexy girl has herself figured out.
Cute = appealing to the eyes and possibly immature
Sexy = sex appeal and the girl is confident and knows what she wants in life.
Beautiful, like sexy but you really know her personality now.

Its hard to express in a message

UptightLight · Answer

Why can you not just accept your bracket and done. They could imply you're ugly and leave you entirely fucked up. This fkg trash scum ungrateful society is why the machines should annihilate the human race. Most pathetic species on earth.

ultimega · Answer

But if that's your personality, why would you want to change it? Cute can be seen as more approachable.

MackToday · Answer

Being cute is a good thing. Means you're feminine and come off as somewhat innocent. Men take women like that seriously. The others are cheap thrills.

LolitaXoX · Answer

I get called cute all the time because I’m 5”2 but I prefer being cute I feel like people find you more welcoming and more people like talking to me haha

Hans222 · Answer

I prefer cute, but I think showing cleavage a short dress/skirt and stockings are much more sexy than cute.

Kidosaur · Answer

Being cute is way more interesting, i prefer being with a cute girl
I was with a cute girl, but damn she knew how to be hot when we were alone, just be natural and want the other person, you will be sexy ;)

TomasLyy · Answer

"Wah wah wah it's so annoying that everyone finds me attractive"

Mekara · Answer

It's a perception thing. It could be something as simple as the way you dress. Or is could be your attitude and character.

jsdfreedom · Answer

@PinkMichae said it best. Being "hot" or "sexy" will get you a guy to go home WITH, but being "cute" will get you a guy to go home TO.

Joshua5000 · Answer

Because saying cute usually doesn’t fall into that category of what some women feel is disrespectful. Men don’t generally want to cause any problems, so unless sexual tension is present, cute may be all you get in my opinion.

OmgItsJoe123 · Answer

I think the difference between a hot girl and a cute one is confidence. Just... please... don't be like those annoying bitchy girls. It is not mainly about sexy clothing, so you don't need to be seen as a potential slut to be considered hot.

WalterWolf · Answer

It's a matter of perspective. The woman that some guys find cute, other would bang... there is nothing bad with being cute, you just need a guy that thinks you're cute and sexy

Logorithim · Answer

Maybe get your hair done differently and dress more revealingly.  I don't think this is necessary though. Flirting well would be much more effective, IMHO.

wankiam · Answer

wear black underwear instead of white cotton then wear a short skirt and show off your panties more. lower cut tops will make you look hotter too. incidentally though many guys like me prefer cute to hot ;)

Metaanio · Answer

I like cute more than hot/sexy, so don't stop being cute.

SeanNotShawn · Answer

Better than being called ugly, you should accept the compliment and dont take it for granted. Enjoy your golden days while you have them, if you even get them that is...

winterfox10 · Answer

It's a personality thing. Cute means that you have an appealing look, but hot/sexy is the way you carry yourself and act. It's a lot more serious and confident.

Varun_Singh · Answer

In my opinion guys call girls cute when they find them hot but would raise eye brows at the match, for eg. I'm 6'3 I'll not call a 4 feet sexy girl hot

ImagineSketchy · Answer

It's all really subjective. Some may find you hot or sexy and others just find you cute. I don't really think it's possible to change to fit everyone's idea of those 2.

SirRexington · Answer

Stay cute. It's more respectable. Being called cute means you are more than a piece of ass to admire.

Jesslin412 · Answer

Stay golden. Stay cute. Cute is a good thing lol but wear sexier clothes and have a personality to match

StickStickity13 · Answer

Cute girls get the relationship, sexy girls tend to be poor partners.

Anonymous · Answer

But I'd much rather have a cute girl that can occasionally manage "hot/sexy" than a hot/sexy girl that can occasionally manage "cute."

OhnoRKagain · Answer

To me for a girl cute is sexy. They can be one in the same. As long as you're being genuine there is nothing more to ask for.

PinkMichae · Answer

I've had that same issue. Just know sexy will get you laid. Cutes gonna get you the guy.😊

Theft · Answer

Wear a really tight low cut dress that comes up just below the bum!! I garontee it!!

performerwannabe · Answer

Be yourself and tell everyone to shut the fuck up. You don't need anyone's opinion, the only person that should like you at all costs, is yourself.

Jessington · Answer

Stay cute. Its more approachable for the decent guys out there. And when you find someone you love. Ask him what he thinks is sexy and do it only for him.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

Exercise, lift weights for a better body, do squats to give your butt a nice shape, change of outfits, different hairstyle, dye your hair.

hellacray · Answer

I'm gonna be honest what's sexy today I consider trashy.  I prefer cute.

Chancetowin · Answer

Maybe you should try wearing sexier clothes or accessories like a choker. Maybe even get a piercing beside your ears. Your attitude as well may change things. It's all about how you present yourself.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I can understand why you're asking this. After all, girls tend to view guys as either "hot/sexy" or "cute," rarely both at once. But to us guys, they're not mutually exclusive.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes cute is better. It depends on what type of guy you want to attract

weaponsdude · Answer

I see you looking my way. I am a solid 4/10. Do you want some candy or something? Why are you looking at me 4?

Meninist · Answer

You need to give off sex appeal to be considered sexy. Cute is just attractive, like you’re not trying to send signals of sex.

drpik · Answer

I started calling my girlfriend sexy a lot more when we started being more sexually active.

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