What’s wrong with Resting B*tch Face?

Question

Yeah... I have RBF. It’s just a face in neutral mode. Not a smile, not exactly a frown (not an intentional one) But apparently some find this unattractive even tho it’s a natural thing. Some people say “just smile more”. But why? Telling someone who isn’t in the mood to smile is telling them to be fake for the sake of attracting other people. It’s kinda silly to me. (This was inspired by a question I saw and the responses were a bit dumb in my opinion)

TallJamaican1991 · Accepted Answer

I'm not the type to smile often. So, I've been told by people to smile more. But, I'm the type of person who does things as long as there is a reason for it. Resting bitch face on it's own isn't a problem. The assumptions people make when they RBF are the problems. They assume you are unapproachable, and regardless of whether or not that is true, they should take the time to get to know you before making that assumption. It's an assumption driven by this unrealistic expectation placed on people to be happy looking all the time. They must have forgotten what world they live in. It's hard to smile 24/7 when bills are due, there are always threats of war, and you never know when a doctor miggt diagnose you with something dreadful.

yeeeeeeeet · Accepted Answer

People read too much into body language, there's nothing wrong with it per se but people try to guess your charactee based on it

ZiZi_Bell · Accepted Answer

It all just stems from people being way too nosy.
Usually it's guys thinking they have the right to tell us how to be more attractive to them. Or it's women that are so self conscious they'll do anything to make themselves feel better.

Just live your life. If anyone tells you your RBF is a problem and that you should smile, just double down on the scowl and whisper "No" in the creepiest voice possible. They'll either find it hilarious, which could be a good sign, or they'll leave you alone, which is also good. Lol

VaIiant · Accepted Answer

People read into body language and facial expressions, by having an RBF people assume you’re making that face at THEM, and get butthurt.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nothing, you do you lol if someone has a problem with your RBF, then great for them  Also if someone tells me to smile I get fucking angry haha

Selena2418 · Answer

Two things. 1: The Extrovert Bias. 2: Animal Instincts. I experience the extrovert bias a lot because of my RBF and the fact that I have introverted tendencies. Some extroverts (75% of the world are extroverts) feel uncomfortable when they are confronted with a lack of social engagement equated joy. For some, if people aren't fully smiling, laughing, or engaging them in conversation then they can become quickly uncomfortable since extroverts get their energy by engaging with others. Introverts get their energy from. within and find engaging with others draining of their energy. The animal instinct reasoning - different facial expressions send different messages to others. For example, when someone shows their top teeth this is equated with joys and friendliness (non threatening).. showing both sets of teeth is the opposite (threatening) like the phrase "bearing all the teeth). When people have RBF, it sends mixed signals that make people uncomfortable. The facial muscles aren't presenting signs of contentness/joy and agression/threat consistently. This instantly puts some people on edge because the subconscious message is a mixed bag.

Anonymous · Answer

It's alright, I have it too. Last time someone asked me this I said: "My resting face looks like I was possed by Hitler." Everyone says it's unsettling because I have the features of someone sweet but my expressions are intense and intimidating naturally.

But I can't help it, I'm just always thinking and neutral until someone talks to me. Then I turn into a nice fairy princess or living Kawaii plushie. I'd say ignore all the people who try to make you smile and look nice. If that's your face, then that's your face. There isn't anything wrong with it. I always look like these pictures on the regular without trying to.

Mishthefish · Answer

I hate it when people tell me to smile 😑 I don’t have a natural smile on my face and I’m sure as hell not going to smile just for your pleasure person !!! I totally get where you are coming from and I really don’t get how there are actually people out there that smile 24/7 😂 it must be tiring. To answer your question > there is abonothing wrong with a resting bitch face. If you have a resting bitch face you are a normal human being that is tired of everyone’s shit

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Its funny. You would think that the guys are GaG would tell you to smile more.

I think when you make a post like this, you kind of expose a lot of traditional requirements that men have for women.

"Hey baby, why you looking so pissed off? Smile!"

:D

ChronicThinker · Answer

I think resting bitch face is either completely unintentional or the person has some inner bullshit rising to the surface and bubbling up into their face.

However, I don't give a shit because I just avoid bitchy looking people because... why wouldn't I? I don't give them shit or get on their case about it. If someone looks stank to you just leave them be and live your life, you don't know them.

ManFrom1982 · Answer

Okay. There's being fake... and then there's genuinely adjusting your attitude. Sincerity is the point, not selfishly moving from whatever mood you feel like one moment to the next and expecting the world to revolve around that. This goes for both genders, people that want a long term partner do not usually want to be partnered with someone who has a generally negative attitude about life most of the time, and yes smiling often is usually an indicator that you don't have said attitude.

Believe me, if you don't care to work on adjusting your attitude for someone else's benefit (and thereby your own benefit) then you are not up for the requirements of a serious relationship.

hnw627 · Answer

some people think people need to change to fit their preferences, which isn't right at all. i don't see any problem with having a natural RBF but some people just don't like it for whatever reason. it's wrong of them to as you to change but people will be people, unfortunately.

Benedek38 · Answer

When people tell you to smile, they are not telling you to force a smile, but to try and loosen up a bit.

And if you think RBF is bad, you haven't seen my neutral facial expression. I was compared to a "hatchet killer" several times throughout my life.

My best suggestion is to just roll with it. Try to have a good time, and if someone insists that you should smile, tell them to fuck off.

Saray · Answer

I dont have that resting bitch face. Mine is more , dont fuck with me and i'm good. I rarely smile , why the hell should i smile 24/7 , if i did that would be called a psychopath , and if im not , im the grudge and so on... Just utter bs , as a girl if u smile you're flirting , if you dont , you're a bitch... Its just idiotic , make a face fitting to the situation and you'll be good off in todays society.

abc3643 · Answer

First, you should call it by it's real name - the name first used - Bitchy Resting Face - because that is more accurate.

It does suck. My wife has it. I thought she was constantly angry or disappointed in me. Then, she discovered BRF and told me about it. Ever since then, things are much better.

Knighted2170 · Answer

I never really got this to be honest.
A person can't change their face. At least not without some surgery. It's their face. Their bone and muscle structure. It's thousands of years of passed down genes that fought and survived.
If you don't feel like smiling, don't smile. If you're not feeling it, it will show up in the photo. Personally, I like the natural look with genuine feeling. I find it much more appealing if you aren't trying to impress me.

Burgerboy21 · Answer

Resting bitch face is by no means repulsive to me. In fact it's a bit attractive in my opinion. But I'm also extremely intimidated by anyone with a resting bitch face. I guess I just get this feeling of being harshly judged for my positive/silly demeanor? (Deniceor?)

TazWax · Answer

I have one too. When people tell me to smile more I tell them I do when I feel the need to. Once I was in a 711 and this man asked me what's wrong I responded with nothing it's my face she is a bitch 😁 and walked away.

Penelope_ · Answer

People are always telling me to smile and it doesn’t annoy me it’s just strange that so many people say it lol I have RBF and I can’t change that 😂

That1tallguy · Answer

I hate when people tell me to smile, why should I have to smile if there's no reason to smile for. I tell them *sarcastically* sorry I can't keep a smile on my face just to please people.

RainaLee · Answer

Well dang, I have rbf too. People thought I'm in the bad mood. They always asks me if I'm okay, EVERYDAY. That's why I keep trying to smile, eventho there's no reason to smile.

biancahemmings · Answer

When I always see kanye I'm like man does that guy ever laugh or at least smile? .. there's nothing wrong with RBF it's just scary people might get a vibe that you're mean? Or maybe you don't like being social and talk to people a lot that they may avoid you and all that jazz

Rubified94 · Answer

Exactly!! I'll smile when I genuinely feel like smiling, I'm not going to fake it for the sake of pleasing or attracting others. The amount of people who have gotten butthurt over my rbf, when it's just my neutral expression, is hilarious.

Philyouup · Answer

bitchy face is not attractive, Period.,. an involuntary one, is not any more attractive, My base instinct is that in a resting mode, if you face is bitchy, you might just be bitchy.. Intellectually I know that not be true, but still, its very base reaction to a pissed off woman,.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a RBF too. Up until last year, I would forcefully smile all day so people wouldn't think I was rude but then someone told me that I shouldn't have to do that. It's my natural face and I shouldn't be changing it to make sure others are comfortable

Darknut · Answer

As a guy I once innocently walked in a an near empty waiting room... and there sat a gorgeous woman with that face... who knows if im desirable but say hello, just to be polite and she's there probably thinking I'm just sitting here waiting for the mechanic to change my oil and i can leave' made me wanna pursue more tbh

JustAnotherSoul · Answer

Nothing sweetie, rock that resting bitch face, and if people don't like it, then show them your active bitch face and see if they complain then😂😂

Wisock · Answer

It really doesn't bother me. The only way it would bother me is if I was in Dairy Queen and the people taking my order had a RBF and looked as though they wanted to burn the place down. But in every day life, I don't see a problem with it.

100lbguy · Answer

It perceived as you not enthusiastic or moody to many people but it actuality is not is just your natural resting face cuz I get the same way of people telling me smile cuz I have a poker face most of the time.

Scene · Answer

Well, RBF normally makes people avoid you, so i just try to counter it by giving myself a curios gaze.

Oh, and if you're trying to find someone, do smile, but if your not trying to find anyone, then just keep up with the neutral expressionless face.

mrkdvsn · Answer

Where did the term "resting bitch face" come from? I would call it a straight face or relaxed face. And I've been told the same things by other people that you mentioned. I used to get pissed when they'd say "It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile"... AARRGGG

cherryphi82 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it whatsoever. There's however something wrong with people who judge others by it

kaskas19 · Answer

Ugh I've been told to smile more since I have a RBF. It's so annoying. It's probably because it makes them insecure.

victorvolf · Answer

Because smiling makes you appear less threatening. Ok, maybe that's a big word. It just makes you look friendly. Anyone would rather approach/talk to someone who is friendly rather than unfriendly.

zilicadis · Answer

There is really nothing wrong with it. Im a guy, and people tell me that I have it too. I find it funny that people prefer a fame smile, rather than a genuine face, albeit a "resting bitch face". Don't change yourself vecause other people tell you to, if they don't like it they can go f* themselves...

aaronbw · Answer

There is nothing wrong with it. It's simply as you said, a neutral mode for your face. The people offended just need to get over it.

Jon_25 · Answer

I didn't know resting bitch face was seriously a thing, they sounded like they were joking. What's the difference between a neutral and a bitch face?

thebrownsanta · Answer

There's nothing won't with an RBF if that's who you are. However, a smile shows how peaceful you are inside. If you're not willing to smile maybe something is troubling you without you being aware of what it is. You don't have to put on a smile forcefully but when you do clear your mind of negative thoughts you will have a natural smiling face.

hellodaisy · Answer

It’s probably “unattractive” or disliked because you look mean or angry and no one finds that’s appealing to interact with because it’s threatening.

VincentLaw · Answer

When people use that term they're talking about people who look like they're frowning, not people with neutral expressions.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

RBF is less approachable. It sucks for people who have it because a lot of women are actually very approachable once you get past that.

boggboss · Answer

Because no one will like to converse with u if u just look miserable simply put

name_is_eric · Answer

I didn't know it was a thing. "Give us a smile" or "smile more" comments make me, for the lack of better words, cringe.

RajjoPink · Answer

Lol same here. Its your face and what if you over smile... I also have the RF and I love it. I dont smile in my pics but they are nice. lol

Bornetwobee · Answer

I completely relate. I don’t anything is wrong with it. Some people are just sooo nit picky.

CottenBrick · Answer

No one is obliged to find you attractive, and your not obliged to make yourself attractive for others. Just have as much fun as possible and good things will come your way

Unnameable · Answer

Resting bitch face generally indicates that the woman in question is a bitch.

lucidmemoirs · Answer

They're just pointing out that others perceive you as angry and unfriendly. It constructive criticism. I

RobS19771992 · Answer

Nothing at all... my badass girlfriend hoping to be fiancée has a resting b*tch face or so others say but me I don’t see it in badass ;)

OatsnWhey · Answer

Well if you look like a stuck up bitch all the time, then that doesn’t really yield anything but negatives on your end.

6ftallady · Answer

Nothing I think a woman is most beautiful when she relaxed.

TheSikuu · Answer

I have that shit too lol I don't mind it, keeps people away

clampfan101 · Answer

You can’t help what position your face is in when you’re fully asleep. Just don’t drool, and it’s fine. lol

demonics · Answer

Nothing at all. If you're a black chick, you'll have lots of peace and quiet.

Jake-Here · Answer

It's pretty simple, it's not wrong, but the consequence is that people will have a harder time approaching you and being comfortable around you because of your facial expression.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

I lot I hate it I'm more likely to pass you off as a mean person

Steve4783 · Answer

If you have it on facebook etc people will think you are one.

Akterishe · Answer

don't worry if you don't want to smile then just don't smile

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend has a touch of RBF, and she's gorgeous. Big difference between RBF and PBM.

CodyEC · Answer

It's personal preference. It's quite unattractive to those who prefer smiles and happy go lucky bubbly girls.

Wallflower101 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with a resting bitch face.

MontaiL · Answer

It just makes you look like a really braggy annoying person

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

Nothing i have it xx ~ Mrs Manson

JDavid25 · Answer

Ain't nothin wrong wit it..

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