Why are women so self-conscious about breast size?

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I don't know how to post myTakes on my phone, so this will be like a question. So, I am a woman with a slim pear shaped body, so I am curvy everywhere except I have small boobs. Growing up I had to deal with a lot of comments on that and I have also seen lots of girls being self-conscious about it, many with a similar body shape as i do.

Honestly, i would be happier if they were like a cup bigger as it would compliment my figure better, but no more than that. And I don't see why I should focus on the one thing that is not socially ideal about me. (Even that is arguable because my breasts have quite a nice shape, it's just being a 32B in size that isn't ideal). Usually women who have naturally big boobs are either fat or have an apple or inverted triangle bodyshape, which means they don't have slim feminine shape everywhere else. So, they don't have it all either. Only 8% of women have hourglass bodies, and i guess society would find flaws give them something to be insecure about too.

Also, I just find it ridiculous how some men make jokes on women's bodies. Like: Dating a girl with a flat chest/ass is like dating a guy. I could say many mean things about the majority of men if I wanted as very few actually look like they could be models.

So girls, stop giving a f* about stuff like that. As long as it doesn't affect your health you're fine. People have different preferences. Not everyone likes big boobs or asses or whatever is popular.

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Ok coming to the topic of breasts, I think almost so time have at least one thing they dislike about their breasts: size, shape, distance, areola, sag etc things. I also have things that I hate about mine. But here's the thing: what's the function of breasts? Aesthetics, a suitable bra and flattering clothes are good enough to make them look good. Getting your partner to ogle them? Trust me he's just happy that he's even getting to ogle some tits. Breastfeeding? Your baby sees nothing but food (and yes small boobs can produce enough milk). The last one is all that matters as it's literally the primary function of boobs. The first two, well some assholes will always be there what can you really do?

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

I used to be self-conscious about my boobs when I was a teenager because many girls used to always tease me about them being small. I had one girl tell me that I'll never have a boyfriend because I'm flat lol and another girl told me that she doesn't understand why I wear bras when I have nothing.

Well, I'm a 32B, and it might not show up as much when I wear loose shirts, but they look amazing when I'm naked in my opinion. They are perky, don't cause me any discomfort or pain (unless they are sore from my period) and I've never had a man insult my boobs. Always been women. The guys that have seen it in the past all loved my boobs. So, I've learned to ignore those girls and start loving my boobs the way they are. Yes, sometimes I do wish I had bigger boobs or think that my boobs are too small.. But my fiancé reminds me everyday how much he loves them and finds them sexy :) which shows that even smaller boobs can be seen as sexy.

And yes, I agree. Everyone have different preferences and not everyone is into big boobs.

Bandita · Accepted Answer

I thought you were asking a question. My ex had your body and 32B as well. She was 1.50, very short. I loved her body but I don't think she ever believed that. She was happy with her boobs, though. A man that jokes like that is a jerk. My current girlfriend is tall and slim with 32B as well and she is comfortable. I think she used to be self conscious about being so skinny. You're fine with your body as is. I've only had experience with cup B girls and giant D cups. No in between. I liked the smaller ones better but it's fun to have sex with D cup girls too lol. All in all, everyone has a different body and we must appreciate it. I myself am very self conscious on being so skinny yet my ex said I was "aesthetically pleasing" and my current girlfriend thinks I am "beautiful" lol. It makes you feel better.

I know you are here encouraging people and not looking for encouragement, but go on girl! Pear shaped bodies are awesome and so cute/sexy at the same time. :)

pajamasam · Accepted Answer

Its probably the same reason guys are insecure about their penis. Because some people have bigger ones, Why isn't mine the biggest?

I have never in my life found a woman unattractive simply because her boobs weren't big enough. I've been with girls with A-D cups and while I like nice boobs its never been a deal breaker for me.

I'm sure ivd probably made mean jokes with friends in private before and that's not okay, but I don't feel that way. Boobs are boobs and come in a wide variety, why get all hung up on one type or size? Why not be open to any type of boobs thay come into your life? That's my philosophy.

Maxiebleu · Answer

If I’m being dead honest, I have pretty much always be insecure about my breast sizes. I am a 32B/32C in juniors (PINK side, also depends on what bra I wear). I would be much happier if I was a cup bigger or even a 34A, just enough to look cute in clothes like lingerie and bikinis. I find it difficult for me to look and feel attractive to guys because of my small boobs. I know there’s “boob guys” and “butt guys out there” and luckily I have someone who is both (mainly a butt guy) but he likes my small boobs even though I don’t. I don’t know how to feel confident with them especially wearing lingerie. I’m average shape but I definitely don’t feel proportional with my boobs. This is not only a personal issue but society always says that bigger boobs are better and prettier so i grew up on that sadly.. and I wish I could change how I feel about them without getting surgery for implants.

Apope16 · Answer

I think it is like dick size for men.

I consider myself a boob guy. I prefer bigger boobs. But I would say what is more important for me is 2 things:

A) The character of the woman as a whole
B) The shape of the boob and overall beauty. I like a nice round or perky boob. But I date flat chested women that are beautiful for other reasons.

In the end, there is not one single thing that makes a woman attractive. I have found that as I get to know a woman I notice sexual things about her later on that I haven't noticed before. So I meet a woman. I think nothing of her. Then over time she makes me laugh and seems genuine. Then all of a sudden this flat chested girl I ignored suddenly has a cute butt. She suddenly has nice eyes. I all of a sudden am curious what small boobs look like.

Nothing replaces a woman who has a good heart, can make you laugh, and is loyal. Its fucking precious.

hannahde97 · Answer

I have the same 'issue' as you but I don't really view it as a problem. My breasts are smaller and not proportionate to the other curves I have but I still like the way they look and my body overall. I think guys exaggerate what exactly they like because a variety of looks can be attractive to a guy. I just own it and if my breasts are why they don't want to be with me then it's their loss and they are so dumb anyways haha

paul4fun · Answer

I totally think it's a tool used towards pressing insecurities. I'm a fan of all kinds of women. Size , shape , personality, ethnicity. I dont have a typical "type" . I like big breast and small ones. I think shape and look of breast is more important than size. I also think there are far so many more important factors that make a girl appealing over breast size.

BlessedDaddy · Answer

You are absolutely right. Your opinion is truly the only one that matters. And everyone, even the guys are insecure. They don't get home and think about anyone but themselves. The bigger the ego, the more insecure.

Did you know: When someone wants to gain confidence, they don't start by praising themselves, they start by not putting themselves down all day every day. Once the self lothing and negitivity are absent. That is when you give yourself a chance to start to believe the praise.

"Accept what life offers you and drink from every cup. All wines should be tasted; some should only be sipped, but with others, drink the whole bottle."

You are someone's bottle.

sagevalentineee · Answer

The grass is always greener on the other side. Large, eye catching breasts sag without a bra and lose their shape very quickly. Smaller breasts are often perkier, and with a better shape, but less eyecatching.

I've always liked mine, and I agree we should stop trying to be so self-conscious about breast size. I would say most guys have a preference, and the preference seems to be pretty split between the two. So girls actually have nothing to worry about.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm insecure about my boobs.
mainly because growing up all the boys would tease me about how flat I was (not bully, wasn't mean) and would tell me that me not having tits ruined my attractiveness kinda. When I was a kid and in my early teens boys would always talk about how girls without big tits were worthless and small tits were gross. I've heard grown ass guys saying that women with less than a C cup aren't real women. It's also really obvious that guys mostly like bigger tits. Plus small boobs look gross to me, and just don't look good even with clothes on. Big or medium size tits just make everything look good.

I fake it anyway, hate me.

DarkHaired02 · Answer

I preach this post. As a female, myself. I won't lie or deny that Im also insecure about certain parts about me due to the social media as you mentioned.
But I also highly agree that as long as you're healthy you'll do just well.
I understand and not understand on why men have a certain type of ladies' shape or size but whatever it is.
None of us can control some sizes and or shape of our certains parts and it shouldn't be that inportant.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m hourglass and have wide hips and big boobs and I’m also slim. I’m like a size 0-2 US because my waist is really tiny I’m a 23 waist and 32DD bra size and my hips are 34 inches. My boyfriend seems to think I am absolutely perfect but believe me I have had random boys criticise my body in the past and skinny shame me. Mostly people talk shit when they’re jealous. Honestly you’ll never make everyone happy. Even if you had big boobs people would still find something to criticise like they’d say “oh well it’s big but not big enough” or other nonsense. Some people don’t even mean what they say and just talk shit for no reason. I wear loose clothes so nobody can even tell what kind of figure I have and still I had one or two dumb comments. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone because it’s IMPOSSIBLE. You’ll never be good enough for everyone.

TiaraGlitzNeon · Answer

Because women are always shamed for their bodies. By both men and women, but men will make rude and crude jokes about women who don't have the "ideal" or "desirable" body type, flat and skinny women, and fat overweight women are seen as undesirable, so they get body shamed a whole lot. As a result of that, women become incredibly self conscious about their bodies and try to change desperately. I've had first hand experience being shamed for my boob size and being told I was ugly because my boobs were too small. Now I desperately want bigger ones, and that feeling isn't going away anytime soon.

Anonymous · Answer

Several reasons. First, women are never satisfied so there is always something they want to change (that's why women are ALWAYS getting new haircuts, streaking it, changing colors, etc. Women generally speaking do not remain satisfied for long. Most large breasted women wish them smaller while most flat-boards dream of zeppelins. Second, women are competitive with each other, especially about looks. Third, they have no peckers to feel insecure about so they have to find something else to bemoan the size/shape of.

theCobbler · Answer

🤟🤟🤟⚡ A-F'ing-men!
Boobs are boobs people ( especially Men ) put far to value in boobs & the bigger the better ( gross) !
I don't know if because of lock of breastfeeding, lack of growing up without both parents , or just a buttload of ego maniac, Narcissists who are hung up on breasts! ?
Store bought boobs are FAKE.. . how deep is anyone who has them except for cancer patients!!!

I believe this world is turning into one great big SODOM & GAMMORAH !
SAD! Because there's so many other things more meaningful in life !!!

YHL6965 · Answer

Girls, boobs are boobs and most guys are happy when they see a pair of them. Besides, you're so much more than a pair of breasts and I personally worry more about what's inside your heart and inside your head because hearts and brains sell for more. Nobody wants to buy boobs in this economy where plastic bags can be surgically attached to enhance your breasts.

Seriously though, your personality matters much more than your looks. I mean, would you really date someone who would reject you just for your boobs? Probably not. You would probably want a man that cares about more than just your breasts or looks in general.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Well my boobs sadly grew every 3 years. C cup in 2007, D cup in 2010, DD cup in 2013, DDD cup in 2016. And yea grew again in 2019. So after so many sizes, they aren't the perkiest anymore and it starts to suck. I hated having small boobs in elementary. But when puberty hit and i got big boobs, they werent much better. I miss being a C cup but won't get a reduction until i pass G or something

4eyes2mouths · Answer

My girlfriend was very unhappy with her breast size and her nipples (they're inverted) and when we first started dating she would always tell me she hated them. I personally love smaller boobs like hers and while I've never been with a woman with inverted nipples I have found out I really love them. She is special in my opinion and I'm lucky she likes that I like enjoy them so much. We have been together for almost 6 years.

Anonymous · Answer

Both men and women are hardwired to notice breast, likely from infant psychology. Women natural want attention from men and some see this as an easy way to get it. If they feel their breast are undesired they feel undesired. Breast can signal fertility and are a very feminine feature. I appreciate it as part of the form, but have been attracted to more small breasted women. The face and voice get me more. I like how her breast meet her torso, and how the torso meets her waist. I also like how her rear meets the small of her back, but for me its more about her whole build. I will notice larger breast and they can be distracting. However, I don't like fake anything and want small real ones over silicon any day.

Apple1996 · Answer

Could care less about my boob size. They are what they are and I ain't getting any type of surgery to change them

Chloeloves11 · Answer

I have B cups and only other female “friends” have made fun of them. I was self-conscious for awhile. Also remember in the 2010s when the big boob skinny bombshell was the “it” body type. Now I think the slim figure with a bigger butt is the “it” body type... I mean just goes to show that things change all the time so I just need to worry about it I like myself or not.

digindeep4u420 · Answer

These comments are because the guy wants you , likes you , and most likely would not leave their bedroom for a week if you showed him.
I dig women with smaller breasts, as you said they keep quite a nice shape. I bet if women quit listening to these young ass perverted teenagers that know everything about sex yet wouldn't know what hit them if a DD hit them in the face, then yoh ladies would have a lot more self confidence in yourselfs / your body... leading to more smiles , cause us guys would love the new confidence that has you showing us your tits just because you like showing them off... can i get an amen!

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason men are insecure about their penis size... because the perception is that the opposite sex believes bigger is better.

The real question here is... why do women who re insecure about their breast size get treated so much more kindly then men who are insecure about their penis size. There have literally been dozens of questions form female GAG users for the sole purpose of hating on guys who post questions about penis size. I have never seen anything negative about all the questions from females about breast size. So, why the double standard?

Desconhecida · Answer

You shouldn't be thinking like that, be proud of your body. You must be stunning.
I used to have the same problem. As a Brazilian woman, my body was shaped like a guitar except I had no boobs. Later, I found out it was a hormone problem, and now my cup is DD.

ZackBan · Answer

See this is something women bring upon eachother. The comparison only exists between women. Very few guys care about breast size or rather even if a guy has his preference he'd never be turned completely off.
So just keep in mind that this is "your" body for starters so as long as you're comfortable that's all that matters. And second if you're into guys then it shouldn't matter what the "standards" are guys will dig you the way you are.

ManOnFire · Answer

It's because breasts can be seen, so they're more paranoid about them. I'm a breast man so I will generally look at all boobs, even though I do usually prefer really enormous breasts, but smaller breasts can be really nice if they have a great shape and really stick out in my face lol.

CindyRuns · Answer

Embrace what you have girl... I'm only a hair bigger than you 34B.

I enjoy the fact that I can get away with going braless at times... I can exercise and not require a sports bra designed by a structural engineer.

Best of all, I'm married to a guy who loves me just as I am !!!

AgedtoPerfection · Answer

There are pros and cons to the breast size debate. Some say,"it's better to want what you have then to have what you want" when it relates to many things in life, including penis and breast sizes. Ultimately, what would make you happy? Not everyone will like augmented breasts. Not everyone will like blonde hair either. My point is that no matter what you look like, the only person you have control over pleasing at anytime is yourself. You want them larger? Go for it! If that will help you feel more feminine, go for it. If it will create a more pleasing physique on you, go for it.

BCA6010 · Answer

It's not just breast size; it's just about everything else under the sun too. More often than not, I find that the women who obsess over a particular physical trait are really using it as a scapegoat for why men don't want to go out with them when the real answer is usually their personality, or lack thereof.

KatherineJ · Answer

Because a lot of people seem to think our boobs define us. That’s obviously wrong!

Bootylicious905 · Answer

Same goes with men with small penis. Lol it's not about the size its who loves it and do you know how to use ur boobs. Ur push up bra. Reveal some cleavage I bet more guys will be looking your way. And most guys care less about it. They love the curves booty.

Ashleyrain22 · Answer

Not really sure. I used to be a C cup but I lost some weight and now I’m a B cup. Couldn’t care less

Reaperbot666 · Answer

media and society have programmed girls from a young age to fit into. one of a few body types that are viewed as attractive. so many grow up insecure about there looks and body.

instead of embracing there individuality and natural beauty. they often try to conform to what the majority view as attractive.

fadingmind · Answer

Lol my breasts are the only body part I’m not self-conscious about.

Zinnia0403 · Answer

Because if they’re not big enough u get teased if they’re too big u get teased

Dargil · Answer

A zillion years ago, there was a cigarette commercial that said: "It's what's up front that counts." It was a double entendre that was applied to women in those days, that her balcony was a measure of her worth. I think too many girls still think that way. Now a days, "Size matters" is getting the same treatment.

SamtheDnDgirl · Answer

Maybe when I was a teen I was insecure about them, but I was insecure about so much. The fact that I was a skinny twig when I was a little girl. The fact that my height shot way up and now I'm 6'2''. But I'm pretty happy with them now (36 C) and how my loved ones like them too.

Hannahm67 · Answer

I love having breasts people consider on the small to medium size because it means I can go braless all the time and no one notices! I have met women who regret getting bigger ones because they hurt and are uncomfy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because boobs are seen as attractive by guys and girls (depending on sexuality) and they are something seen as “sexy” especially big boobs because that’s what society says, but also if your boobs are too big it hurts your back and people say “get breast reduction surgery”. Basically society says it’s best to be a C or D cup, nothing bigger or smaller, and your boobs are deemed as attractive.

continentalbreakfast · Answer

I remember hearing a quote " you don't need bigger boobs, you need to read better books" when I was young so I never thought twice about it since then.

Anonymous · Answer

"Also, I just find it ridiculous how some men make jokes on women's bodies. Like: Dating a girl with a flat chest/ass is like dating a guy"

Please don't generalize and think that ALL guys said what you just said. Beauty is really in the eye of the beholder; that goes for both genders actually.

smb930 · Answer

Well, breasts naturally get bigger when you have sex, and especially when you have children (for obvious reasons).

I have a big head and big belly with small man boobs and no muscle, with a small waistline and no butt. I'm not a handsome guy, so I understand what you're saying. I just don't care what others think.

notatrap · Answer

Because they're on your chest. If my dick was on my forehead I'd care more about the size of it too, but you know it shows the courage of women that don't get surgery or wear boost bras and shit. I respect that.

I-am-a-nobody · Answer

They are self conscious because of the "big breast" drum beat that echoes through our culture. Likewise, if a guy doesn't like gigantic breasts or talk about them, he's treated like a freak of some kind.

likelyOK · Answer

I also desire a cup size bigger.
Often stems from how boobs where the thing in the 90s and there were so much pressure to live up. Butts are a bigger deal now but athletic build is becoming more important. It's a fade of desire.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I use to be insecure about my boobs especially after I lost weight and they obviously got smaller too. But I have learned love them though I do joke about wanting bigger.

Mellontikos · Answer

I will admit that there are a ton of incredibly stupid men who don't know how to shut their mouths. Not every man cares about boob size. I don't care about it at all.

morrowlow · Answer

Women with big breasts draw more men to themselves and that gives them a higher SMV. But women with small breasts don't have that and that makes them sad. It's all about how much power and influence those women can have over men.

Katerina_Belle · Answer

I think even if we had the perfect body we would find something to criticise about!

angiebangie · Answer

I agree! Thank you and well said. girls with smaller breasts usually have great shape, and men are going to think they're beautiful!

RydiaMagnifique · Answer

Because my size is so small, it's barely noticeable. B cups. To my man they're fine, but I wish they were bigger.

MillieBrunette · Answer

Instagram, social media in general, society, wanting to be accepted, thinking that's what guys want. Thinking that's what they are expected to have, pear pressure..

ovalourde · Answer

As an ass/leg man, breast size is not of any real concern to me. And I think most people feel the same.

I think people place a value on it because of porn and media. Most real men want a real woman with curves, regardless of breast or ass size.

But everyone has their preferences, the same as women do. For instance, I was dating a woman who I wasn't attracted to because she was all boobs and no ass. But I stuck with it because I liked her

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

That's what I don't understand about women. Why be insecure about your breasts and be thankful for what you're given. If you're flat chested and you want to have a C cup or whatever you desire go for it. But I'm just fine with whatever the woman has for breasts. I'm not interested in boobs as much as booty. my point is that don't be insecure about what you're born with. Own your body and be proud for what your body is portrayed

Ámayas_20 · Answer

I had a breast reduction and my confidence skyrocketed, everyone has insecurities and boobs are associated with being a woman so plenty women want bigger boobs, plenty are happy, some want them smaller.

MzAsh · Answer

We’re boob twins. I’m 32 B too. My man doesn’t complain. 😁 I think smaller boobs are sexy.

jgirl99 · Answer

Men cannot and will not be able to ever accurately answer ot understand this. They aren't held to as much of a standard as women are about their physical appearance

7771999 · Answer

It's sad. Like guys and their dicks... Men don't really care that much about breast size. More about proportions

hellacray · Answer

I do prefer big, but I honestly don't care. As long as hers is bigger than mine that's all that matters.

So yeah unless your breasts is like very deformed there's no need to obsess over it or get surgery.

TMcCaa · Answer

Cause everyone has fake ones... well not everyone BUT a lot of ladies do... and they are the perfect shape, size, perkyness--- there's a big difference in a fake boob and a real boob... especially if youve had kids.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Weeeelllll... because a female with amazing tits is sought-after by guys and girls alike? It's simply a physical trait that people inherently desire and enjoy looking at? This has been this way for thousands of years?

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because they are comparing themselves to them. Tons of people like petite body type so why care about the ones who don't. It don't make sense.

thatsall_ · Answer

Because of the models everywhere on tv, magazines, social media. Women shouldn't feel like they have to compare themselves.

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