I see this everyday. Girls obsessing over breast shape, teeth whitening, nails, negligible fat deposits under their arms, etc. Why? Most men, myself included, are actually turned off by "perfect" girls. Sure, they might arouse us when we see them in magazines or even a p*rn. But in real life, we don't know what to think of them. If a guy likes you, your tiny little flaws will actually turn him on. They are a reminder that you are actually a human being and not an untouchable Goddess. Take a lesson from consumer spending: if it's too good to be true, it probably is. It's the same with girls. When I see a supposedly "perfect" girl, I immediately ask myself what her deal is. I don't trust her. And neither do must guys. The "perfect" girls get approached a lot less than average girls. Everyone has flaws, and no guy can relate at any level to a girl that doesn't seem to have a flaw on her.
My advice ladies: loosen up some. If I like you, you're one misaligned tooth is a turn on. If I like you, that "weird" freckle on the tip of your nose excites me. If I like you, all of your flaws are perfect to me.
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so you're turned off by perfection but turned on by it at the same time? O.o lol
And you can only speak for yourself, because a lot of the guys who can pull "perfect" models, often do.
I highly doubt guys are going for girls who don't put a lot of effort to correct a certain number of things. are you going for the unshaven, bushy eyed, acne faced, jacked toothed, overweight, dowdy chicks out there ? No. So we see all the work that we have to do, and most of us go out and do it because we know our chances of being alone will be much higher if we're too natural. that's just the reality of it. and for some girls, once they go down this road of "correcting" what's wrong with theiir bodies, they have a natural reaction to go and see what else is out there that they should correct. It can be a slippery slope for some girls. plus, we live in a society where men do encourage these standards, whether you admit it or not. when you support million/billion dollar magazines that advertise the kind of "perfection" that men want to see and think is desirable, you are encouraging it. When you support more mainstream p*rn with certain prototypically beautiful girls, you encourage it. its in the advertisements that you respond to, evn subconsciously, the commercials that get your attention, music videos, the trends you respond to positively, etc. If none of this was what men liked, it wouldn't be such a successful method of getting their money and seeling things. those standards of beauty trickle down to the average jane, obviously. these standards werent created for womens own benefit, they were created in response to the desires of what men want to see. So I don't see how you can randomly just call it quits and say "well, we don't care about that anymore so please undo years of mental conditioning in patriarchal society and embrace your flaws." human beings don't work that way. there is no collective male voice out there rejecting the images of perfection in our society. men say "yes, that's what I want to see." that's what young girls and even older women internalize because they aren't stupid enough to really think that if they stopped all this perfecting of their bodies that men would be knocking on their doors or looking their way. They look at what works, what men pay for, what they support, what they gravitate to. and then many women think "ah - I want to be that girl or as close to her as I can be!" this is the reality, my dear.