Everyone does subconsciously. Now I don't give the way they dress more weight than other factors like their behavior, topics they talk about, how they treat other people, how they talk about people behind their back if at all.
But snap judgement, know nothing about them, see them across the room. Yes I make judgements about who this person is based on the dress choice and how they carry themselves. How you dress actually does say something about you. How you carry yourself in that outfit does aswell.
Like I can tell when a girl is comfortable in her outfit vs feeling insecure in their choice of clothes. A girl walking into a room who goes straight to the table of people she knows vs calmly walking through saying hi to people as she goes past says something about her.
A girl that wears converse, skirt, with a tank top says something differently than a girl wearing Adidas, jeans, and a snap under shirt (I don't know how else to describe the shirt. But snaps at the bottom like a baby outfit 😂)
Definitely not, a lot of my friends will say be at court in their legal role and obviously dressed conservatively.
fast forward a couple of hours and we are in the pub or round someone’s house, and they are in a mini dress and Tattoos etc on show or anything really.
we all tend to go to Whitby Goth weekend and other stuff.
a few of us mountain bike together, do other stuff and weekends used to be anything goes.
the only really thing I judge we rip in to each other about is hygiene and state of our clothes, do not wear yesterday’s top if you dropped pizza etc on it lol.
For the record, I think goths are fab 😎 Everyone has their own tastes, styles and opinions.
Even though people differ from each other, that does not mean they should be judged just for their clothes decisions, you never know what is inside their minds or their hearts. Some people dress so nicely they look wonderful on the outside, but appearances can be deceiving.
In conclusion, I personally feel that people should not be judged by the clothes they wear because it can lead us to big mistakes.
People judge other people. This entier "no judgement" nonsense is exactly that: Nonsense.
It is part of our friend or foe detection in our brain. And it's hardwired. Thus we judge people on what we can judge them at first glance. Aka their looks. Hygiene, mimics, gestics, clothes, etc.
For example: You judge someone in dirty and ripped clothes differently than someone in a suit.
So yes, I do judge. Mostly based on people having any sense of fashion to begin with. Aka what colours to mix and what suits their own body-type.
Well, it is technically "judging" I suppose. As I previously said somewhere, it tells a lot about your personality, your confidence, your goals et cetera. Your style is a window into your soul, I'm afraid.
So yeah, are we judging? Yes. Negatively? Sometimes, but it has nothing to do with conventions. It's probably about synergy, symbiosis and "soul-mating".
For example - I know a girl that attends the very same school I do - her make-up is sorta vampire-ish and she wears only black. Do I find her weird or do I make fun of her? Not at all. She is creative and she knows what she likes and wants, that's more than some girls can even dream of. Was talking with my fellas the other day we saw her for the first time and apparently they share the opinion. It doesn't suit our style, though, but we are tolerant.
It's a definite turn on if my woman / man has a better fashion sense than myself (which is easy to achieve considering I haven't set the bar high lol). However, appearance is certainly not a priority for me. I'm gonna save you some time by skipping the "I want them to be naturally beautiful" bullcrap. Let's get real — unless you're a siren, you don't have my attention based on how you look. A cute guy is limited to "damn he's so cute I'd totally do him in girl's washroom" and hot girl is tied to... Basically the same statement. Beauty results in desire.
I definitely do. How you dress has a direct correlation to how you want to be seen. It's literally the way you identify yourself. I believe I can tell a lot about a person from first glance by their sense of fashion, the way they move and gesture, and the way they talk. I can tell a lot within a few minutes of meeting someone. It's to the point where I went to a bar one day, chose a few people I was talking to and asked them if it would be cool if I write what I think their personality is like in a few paragraphs each. I took about 5 minutes to write each person's and every one of them said I was bang on. One of them even gave my phone back to me after reading and said "that's creepy".
Judge as in a negative context, no. Judge whether they may be more my type or not, sure. I tend towards the edger type of woman so the more introverted or modest sorts I know we likely are not a ‘fit’. This consideration is both in attire and in personality for me. Now, if they are modestly dressed but have an edgy character to them, I can easily be swayed. Example, I know a lot of damn attractive goth women but they also tend towards the introverted side. So, where the attire might be edgy and damn sexy to me, their being so damn introverted I know just doesn’t do it for me. Which is why attire is not why I make split decisions alone upon.
Anywhere you go, presentation matters because society how society standards and i can understand why. Sure it is all your rights to wear anything you want but it is also our rights to have a first impression of anyone. I would assume it she is a slut if she is wearing anything slutty and lowkey try to keep my son away from her. It's a very same thing we would get uncomfortable being beside a guy wear something that makes him look like a low life criminal or a wife beater. Also because there are people who dress lazy like wearing the same clothes over and over again until it's ragged which is an indicator of someone who isn't even trying. I'm not stopping anyone from wearing whatever they want but you shouldn't get surprised with the result of what you wear. Basically a trade-off
I used to judge people a lot yes i must admit it. But then i started talking to people i would never talk because of their look and wow i was surprised I was missing out meeting good people for being so judgmental. So now i dont care how they look like i always give them a chance to lnow them better.
Sometimes, yeah. But I mostly keep those judgements too myself. I don’t necessarily judge their character, it’s just more like “who in the hell would wear that?” type of thing. I remember wearing hand-me-down clothes as a kid and not having any choice. So for the most part, I move along with my judgements and don’t share them.
If it looks like you didn't put any care into dressing yourself or you're trying to show more skin than is socially normal in a particular place, that's a negative in my book. It's not so much about the specific style beyond that. Part of knowing how to dress yourself is wearing clothes that fit you.
I don't really judge people based on anyting each one of us are different in our own way I look at people in their own way the way they are 24 unique I fight people different and I accept them for who they are because that's the way I want to be treated
It's something I'll admit to doing even though I always feel bad for doing it in the end. I think an individuals fashion style, reflects their interests, personality and their overall vibe. If I see someone in a goth attire or very emo, I won't really approach them, because I'm afraid our vibes won't match.
Not at all. I normally wear band tees and such in normally all black. Whenever I go shopping workers always check my bags when leaving the store thinking I’m some thug. I talk to them a bit while they do that. Then when they finish they say something like “Wow you’re actually pretty nice” or something.
The only time I have judgement is when people wear clothes that make them look legit homeless when I know they're not. Holey sweat pants and stains over everything. 🤮
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Not judge sweetie, just assume things based on my intuition. I keep my assumptions in the back of my mind while I get to know them and try to not make my assumptions affect how I treat them.
Generally that's how our developed intuition works weather we like it or not, and we must not ignore it because it's based on observations and experiences, so ignoring it would be stupid actually. Completely believing our own assumptions is wrong as well cuz then they would be judgements.
More like I appreciate if it’s well put together. I don’t really find I’m affected by style per se, just overall cleanliness and if it looks like there’s some skill in the combination choices. I tend to be impressed by creativity 😊
Yes i do. If your pants are hanging around your ass & 1 can see every detail of your underwear or lack thereof, i want nothing to do with the person. I don't find that look attractive in the slightest.
Nope not anymore. I used to think I could do that but i was always met with the reality of who they truly are after i see their personality more. So I reserve judgement until then
Yes but not too harshly. I have been misjudged often for my fashion style so I know it's never really accurate but there is an element of similarity when a group of people dress the same
I would never judge people on their style or what they wear, you'll see plenty of unconventional style where I live. People should be free to wear and express themselves how they wish. But I wouldn't date someone who's style I don't like.
