I purchased all these clothes with MY OWN money and my moms trying to make me return them because she thinks they look inappropriate on me? I don’t see how they’re inappropriate at all, they look cute.
I feel like my moms just from a different culture so she is being overly uptight and strict on me 🤦🏽♀️ as if she wants me to just wear a trash bag lol.
The outfits do look cute, for sure but I think your mum's concerns could possibly come from- is that you're only 15 and in those outfits you could possibly pass off as slightly older. Why is that a bad thing? Firstly, you shouldn't try to grow up too fast because you're gonna get older anyway, so what's the rush? Secondly and more concerningly, a number of men these days love to sexualize young girls, especially underage girls who look a little older. I mean, we saw it with Bhad Bhabie right? She opened an OnlyFans 1 or 2 weeks after her 18th birthday and she made like $1 million. And we saw grown men shamelessly bragging on Twitter about how they'd be waiting for this - the moment she turned 18 - for so long. That's very disturbing.
Now, I'm not trying to compare you to her or anything, but what I am saying is preditory men do exist and a lot of them love to sexualize young girls, and the only thing stopping them trying to make a move, is the law if even that. Now is it your fault if a predatory man tries to sexualize you because you wore them clothes? It's not at all your fault. The blame is always on the guy, because he should know better and he should not be looking at underage girls, he should not be objectifying women and girls regardless of what we wear. But the sad truth is that this isn't an ideal world, and though men should know better, some don't (and if they don't they should be taught better) and some do know better but they still choose to objectify, sexualize, and degrade young women and girls- which is just sick, but none the less they exist so women and young girls do have to be careful.
I think that is maybe where your mum could also be coming from, and that perhaps this just something that she might be worried about as your mother. After all how could a mother not worry about her daughter?
Now as for the clothes, it's up to you what you do sis. But what I will say, is please do be careful out there, and try to understand where your mum is coming from- because remember she does care about you, she is your mother after all. And if you need to talk about this is or anything else, don't hesitate to message me- I'm sure you'll slay in whatever you wear though :)
Think of it this way your mom has got your back, the outfits are cute but not for your age.
I had friends who did let their kids do as they pleased and dressed however and before ending highschool they were teen mom's.
Your lucky to have a loving mom who is trying to influence you to be better then what is cute and obvious.
LOve their is tons of gorgeous outfits that don't scream I am available for sex or a mate.
A lot of girls have parents who don't give two shits about them your lucky.
Also I was a teenager once too later you'll thank her for just pushing you to grow a bit more before getting to out there with clothes. It's not that long until your 18 then you can have lots of clothes to flaunt.
When I was a teenager my mom literally grabbed my sisters shorts she tried to hide. My mom proceeded to cut them up right in her face to show her that she will not allow her to disrespect herself or her.
I had a skirt but promised my mom to wear knee leggings with them to be more modest. I made it work. As I am older I now have a classy sexy style that I think I wouldn't have had if I didn't fall in love with fashion making my own styles being that my mom was stricter. I get complaints on my match ups all the time. ❤️
This gives you the great plus of learning about fashion and dressing yourself in cute clothes without being all out there, stay classy sexy ladies.
When I was 15/16 there were a couple of girls who wore clothes like that. I think I was the only guy who didn't try to sleep with either of them - mainly because even then, being a very horny teenager I didn't want a girl that everyone had fucked. Or who looked like everyone had fucked.
Now I'm reaching 50 and my son is growing up, when he reaches that age I hope he will have the same standards.
Now if I had a daughter that age, I hope she'd have enough intelligence to see why dressing like that would send a message she didn't intend - the message being "I'm easy: these come right off"
Sorry, but that's how teenage boys think. Her own money or not, I wouldn't let a daughter of mine wear that.
Bruh what? That’s never happened to me and your generation is just uptight. My clothes are perfectly fine, I don’t dress for other people I dress for myself at the end of the day
I understand that you believe that. You doubtless genuinely believe what you're saying.
I was a teenage boy. And your generation is way more screwed up than mine was at that age. friends with benefits wasn't a thing when I was a teenager. Not because we were uptight or different morality - a horny 16 year old boy hasn't changed in centuries - but because we were more aware of STD issues. HIV was the big disease when I was a teenager. We were made aware of it in such a way that we didn't just fuck anything with a pulse. We wanted to, but we also wanted to not die.
We thought our parents generation was uptight. You know, the ones who were teens from 1960 on to 1970. Summer of Love etc. My parents generation were the ones who started the trend of sex before marriage that has led to your generation thinking a bliwjob and a handshake are no different.
You may not dress for other people, but how you dress sends a message to other people. How you dress will determine how boys your age treat you. If you communicate that everything is on offer then that's how they'll treat you. If you communicate that you're worth more than one fuck at a party or friends with benefits then you'll be treated accordingly.
You determine your value and whatever you set it at, you'll find guys willing to meet it. But don't set the bar so low that a rutting dog can reach it easily.
Your perception of my generation is literally just stereotypes media pushes. I’ve never been kissed let alone given anyone a bj, same goes for the majority of people my age. Obviously some still do but not as much as people stereotype teens do.
If people make up a message in their head that wasn’t there to begin with than that’s their problem.
To be fair, your perception of my generation is probably much the same.
I wasn't accusing you personally of behaviour you describe as "stereotypical" in terms of being sexually active. All I was saying was that how you - or anyone - dress gives out a message.
I've got friends both 20 years older and 30+ years younger than me. Unfortunately most of the younger ones have at some point talked to me about sex. Frankly their questions have over the years gone from troubling to downright terrifying me. A girl I'm very fond of asked me advice about her experience with a friends with benefits and was horrified to be told I'd never had one.
I was 18 before I had a kiss and a serious girlfriend. Then my next relationship was when I was 27. My wife was my 3rd serious relationship. I've only kissed 4 women in my life.
Unfortunately I do know more than a few from my generation - guys and girls - who do fit the stereotype. And a disturbing number younger than me as well.
Just please be aware that you DO send a message with your clothes. Intended or not. And while the media may paint both our generations in certain ways I've been in the unenviable position of seeing more accuracy in their portrayal of your generation than mine.
You're right that to begin with the problem is in other people's minds, but trust me, it's got real potential to be your problem in the long run
I'm sorry for the people who mistreated you on this question I feel that girls like these things and your parents are going to have to know you are growing up to be a woman and your only 3 years from age 18 I can't see why your mother makes a big deal girls like these kinds of clothing and my cousin wore a dress like the top one was when she went to the prom at age 14 so your mother is going to have to expect you like certain clothing your a teen
After that I'd say a 15 yr shouldn't be to look like a grown woman, as her dad id have to ask why she wanted to dress in that way so soon what is she trying to prove?
1 of my sisters told me women like to feel beautiful ok so that's understandable but this is a bit of a different its like she'd be trying to look sexy and that's isn't the same as beautiful.
Give it 3 years and do what you want. Never be in a hurry for anything and never feel you have anything to prove to yourself or anyone else.
According to conservative outlook, indeed provocative.
Showing shoulders, thighs and armpits is indecent.
But it's your money, I think you rock. Your dresses are fucking cute, I loved each of them. You can't fight your mom but if anyone else uses it as an excuse to harass you, kick them.
No... I don't think a 15 year old should be wearing clothes like this. We have a lot of sickos in this world and I don't think we should be providing a "temptation" I have a 14 and 11 year old daughter and I would be disappointed to see them dress like this. Unless Halloween or dress up party. Especially the "teddy" that is not outdoors attire
I disagree with your mother. They're not "inappropriate" at all, but mothers are always over-protective, always worried about the many zillion things, however unlikely, that COULD go wrong whenever their daughter or son isn't under their protective gaze.
I really see no issues with them. It could be that your mom feels like you're growing up too fast. Though i dont know your moms mind. If you bought them with your own money, its just wrong for her to try to force you to do that.
They are totally cute but your mom is right. Not age appropriate. I know it may be hard to understand and unfortunately it has to be that way but there are a lot of perverts that will sexualize you. Should you be able to wear that? Yes in an ideal world. Back in the day it wouldn't have been as much of an issue, we wore tube tops etc but grown men didn't sexualize us on such a large scale as they do now. Maybe find a common ground and wear a blazer or something on top of them.
“ we wore tube tops etc but grown men didn't sexualize us on such a large scale as they do now”
Do really believe that grown men have gotten somehow worse about this? If anything society has gotten more critical of grown men who act this way (as it should be).
Maybe it wasn't an issue back in the day because back in the day your dad/uncle/cousin would literally murder a pedo for trying to get with you and all of the thirsty guys knew this.
@hahahmm i would still murder a pedo if I caught them red handed.
But do you remember the 90s film American Beauty? A 45 year old man made out with a 17 year old HS girl in that. Im old enough to remember that causing some controversy but i don’t remember feminists marching, screaming and yelling and losing all their shit over the film.
However I don’t see something like ever making the big screen again today and for good reason.
@backblueblack22 Don't remember the details but feminists tend to claim that if a female acts like a whore she's "empowered" so maybe the girl was chasing the guy. As far as dealing with pedos: I don't believe in calling the cops. :)
@hahahmm there have been recent cases where they people murdered pedos who were caught red handed and were let off murder charges.
Anyway Kevin Spacey (ironically) starred as the dad who had a crush on his daughters HS senior best friend. She also liked him too. Then there was scene where they made out and she offered him her virginity and he turned him down.
Anyway I just don’t see Hollywood getting away with that again nowadays.
Very inappropriate. Trust me I've been there and done that. You will attract perverted older men who think that you're "mature for your age" but really those men are underdeveloped and immature.. Enjoy your youth have fun but always cherish your mom and be safe❤
I agree some of the guys out here are sick and perverted. My mother didn't let me dress in the clothes I wanted now that I’m almost 30 I appreciate her for that. I look back and I’m glad I enjoyed my youth and just being young.
@whatsupbri There's a website where you can check for registered sex offenders in your area, and we are literally surrounded by them in the US. It sounds like mom is only trying to protect her baby.
I understand that you want to look attractive - or even your idea of ''sexy'', perhaps. But you should consider what ''signals'' others believe to see when you are wearing whatever you wear; and what difficulties may result from it. And also: is that stuff ''you'' - or are you imitating someone or something that impresses you? I partly agree with your mom - it's the effort to keep you protected and safe. Some other type of clothing will make you look good as well.
The CLOTHES would be okay, the nighties, not so much but, I'm not exactly sure what a 15 year old looks like (age-wise) or they way they tend to act. I have a good idea of what 16 looks like and maybe 11 or 12 but, I haven't been around 15ers since high school.
You're right they are all cute looking especially the one wearing the jeans and showing her belly. I don't think that there is anything wrong with these clothes, I think your mom is just trying to protect you from pervs. Which is a good thing if you were my sister I would try protecting you too. Just be careful who you wear them around and where you wear them, okay?
I don't know I think I mean I like the clothes I like the look I like how sexy they are but that's a hard one I don't think on a 15 year old I mean somebody over 18 Maybe but I think they're just too hot looking for a 15 year old
Extremely sexy. Not surprised your mums making you return them. Unless it’s what all the girls at your school wear. Then I can understand your frustration.
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If it's OK for my son to walk around with his shirt off when he was 15, I have no issue with my daughter wearing stuff like that.
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Thing is that my daughter complains when I wear stuff like that.
IMHO, the tops would be okay. But the "dresses" looks more like lingerie and those skirts on a 9th grader may make me shake my head and wonder how sexually active she is.
Lmao my mum tried to argue with me once because Chloe Grace Moretz (Aged 15 at the time) was told to wear a padded bra for filming a movie, and apparently that's sexually objectifying her because you're trying to make her more attractive to the male gaze.
If this isn't sexual then I don't know what is, hald of those look like lingerie pieces for crying out loud.
I dont know, buddy. 15 year old boys will ogle you. You only live once, though. Teenage years are the time to take risks, find yourself, find your limits. So I don't know. I guess the first one is ok but maybe not the skirts, there very short.
Some are okay as sleepwear and a couple are okay in public. Nevertheless, you mother's views are reasonable. I suggest you abide by her rules while living in her house.
In any event, in my opinion, except for the last 70 years of the 2 million years of human existence, you are old enough to be considered an adult. 100 years ago, it was not unusual for 15-year-old girls to be married. Shakespeare’s Juliet was 2 weeks shy of her 14th birthday when she was to be engaged and, at the time, people didn't think she was too young. Religious scholars believe the Virgin Mary was 14 when she gave birth, a common age at the time.
Regardless, the clothes you wear sends a message and isn’t that why you selected those clothes? Watch 2 minutes of the following video from 1:30 to 3:30. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gX8SYxtZH0&t=109s She is the girl most guys want to marry. The models shown in the photos are girls most guys want to fuck but in those clothes, they are not marriage material.
If you are pretty like the models in the photos, you don’t need those clothes. Just snap your fingers and guys will come running.
However, if you are a big girl or a plain girl, those clothes will help you get the attention you are seeking. Also, they will help you to be a teenage single mom.
Very pretty, but you should cover up with a sweater and at least yoga pants. The problem is that you, being a girl, have no idea what a guy's thoughts will be if he sees you dressed like that. So, alone, these are not good.
Your mom is right, listen to her. They are too revealing for your age. And they look like nightwear to bed ! Not sure if that's what your intending it for..
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