Do you give your opinion about the clothes in your S/O’s closet?

[KatherineJ]

This question is meant for those who are in a committed and long term relationship.

Based on a discussion about getting rid of his/her clothes that you think are too worn out for him/her to wear in public. Think: tees where the collar has died, holes in the armpits, etc.

[dynamicyandere]

I don’t ever tell her to get rid of clothes. If she doesn’t ask about tossing out clothes, I won’t bring it up.


But, she often asks me for feedback on what she should wear and I often help her put together outfits. She really appreciates it because it’s one less thing on her mind and she trusts my judgement.


I never say something looks bad. I always give positive feedback and say things like, I think this would look great with that because XYZ. Or, I think this would look better with that because XYZ. I always put thought into my answers because I truly am engaged in the outfit-planning process. I’m not going to bullsh*t because she’s trusting me with this.


And, she never asks me to toss out my clothes either. Instead, whenever I wear something she likes, she takes notice and compliments me and says things like, “I think XYZ looks really good on you.” Or, “You look really good in XYZ.” I take mental notes and wear those things more often.


So yeah, we never tell each other to toss things out and we encourage each other to wear things we like through positive feedback and compliments. 🙂

[Emiliamazing]

This sounds like a great set up!

[dynamicyandere]

It is! It works well for us. 🙂

[exitseven]

No, why would i want to look for trouble?

[KatherineJ]

@exitseven fair point.

[exitseven]

ya gotta pick your battles. Clothes in the closet is not even on my radar.

[KatherineJ]

@exitseven that’s wise.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I love this, lol.


Yes I do. I tell him what I like or don’t like on him. I tell him what he looks good in, and what makes him look bad. Luckily, he doesn’t take it negatively because he knows I have a better “fashion sense” than he does. He trusts my judgement on what makes him look good, and also wants to look good for me.


The same goes for me, he will tell me what he likes or doesn’t like. He has his opinions on my clothes and he will tell me his opinion on my outfits he doesn’t find attractive.

[KatherineJ]

@WhatTheHeckkkk that’s awesome. My husband’s opinion about an outfit is always some variant of “it looks nice”. 🙄

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Those words are on the list of things that pisses me off. That’s why we have girl friends who will go into detail about what “looks nice” 🤣 But it’s always better when our men tell us..

[KatherineJ]

@WhatTheHeckkkk oh, my friends don’t hold back. 🤣 And yes! A compliment is always nice!!!

[Emiliamazing]

He’s pretty good about retiring clothing to the yard work drawer, but every once in a while he needs a reminder.

As far as the clothes on my side of the closet go, I don’t think he even looks because it’s so packed full of things that I refuse to get rid of from my younger years that I’m pretty sure I will never wear again.

[KatherineJ]

@emiliamazing I donate my old things if I haven’t worn them in two years. There are two items of clothing that I will never get rid of: my wedding gown (for obvious reasons), and a pair of my old jeans. Let’s just say those are kept as a cautionary reminder of what happens when someone doesn’t pay attention to diet and exercise.

[Emiliamazing]

I completely agree on the wedding gown😍!

[Emiliamazing]

Maybe some young lady could use my formal attire (i’ve been in a lot of weddings as well as gone to a few formal events). I do have some clothing that even pre-dates my husband, I am very certain I will never fit into again (size 4 stuff, not a healthy look for me honestly)

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Yeah, she solicits them so I answer.

She'll be like "Would you notice that there are holes in this skirt?"

And I'll be like "No, but throw it out, you have like five identical skirts."

And she'll protest "They're not identical! They're completely different styles and shades!"

And I'll say "I'm pretty sure that small Scandanavian children wandered into that closet years ago and still haven't found their way out!"

And she'll frown and say "Well I'm keeping the skirt."

And I'll say "Be sure to leave a trail of hard candies so you can find your way back to it!"

[KatherineJ]

@IAteTwoFullHams thank you for the laugh!

[20yearsolder]

To answer your question No. For some reason my wife has to ask my opinion on just about everything she purchases. I'm talking about clothing. I couldn't tell you how many times I've said get what you like. My opinion doesn't matter as long as it makes you feel good and that you like it. Get it. But no, I get do you like this? What color should I get? Oh by the way we've been doing this for about 30 years now.

[KatherineJ]

@20yearsolder too funny, and that really sounds awfully familiar. But what I really mean is your/her older worn out stuff. Is that ever a discussion, or do those things just magically disappear?

[20yearsolder]

Thank God no, most of it I had to help pick it out and thankfully I don't have to help make the decision whether to get rid of it or not. At least when she's done with it she has the strength and mental fortitude to decide what she no longer wants or needs

[KatherineJ]

@20yearsolder and what about your stuff? Does it magically disappear? Or do you toss it yourself?

[20yearsolder]

No it doesn't disappear, once it's worn out I have no issues throwing things out. The only thing I hang on too is Harley-Davidson t-shirts. When I get enough of them that I no longer wear, I will cut them up, and make them into a quilt. It takes about 12 or 14 shirts to make a quilt

[KatherineJ]

@20yearsolder that makes completely sense!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Yes, she has a style that I really like but occasionally I give her my opinion on whenever I think she looks better with a blouse or a simple shirt, or a certain skirt or pants.

That said, she's been trying for years, unsucessfully to change my wardrobe - she's not a fan of Mao suits and safari shirts!

[Anonymous]

I couldn't tell my boyfriend what he should wear or what I don't like about what he is wearing because he looks so finneeeee on the clothes he wears. My boyfriend has that Kdrama actor vibe going on lol he dresses so nice! always wearing formal clothes <3 stylish!

[Date_a_Snob]

my boyfriend would never buy new clothes or throw out/donate his old ones unless I told him too; he wear socks with holes in them until I tell him to get rid of them

[KatherineJ]

@date_a_snob my guy is the same.

[Mystic_Mistress]

If his clothes have holes in the crotch/thigh or armpit area I would usually let him know that he might need to buy new clothes because he's clearly worn those out or else I could try sewing the holes shut but regardless, he deserves to wear nice clothes that look nice without any holes.

My family always had taught me that you must always look presentable no matter what you wear. Even if you're wearing sweats and a tshirt. So that means that it's clean, wrinkle free and hole free.

So I want him to look well and feel good. I'd never tell him to throw something out because I don't like it. It's his choice what he chooses to wear. But, if it's damaged and he has other clothes to wear I would tell him to consider tossing it out

[Andres77]

I don’t say anything about her clothes.

she thinks she can throw my stuff away when she wants.

its an issue.

[KatherineJ]

@Andres77 so like your favorite tees magically disappearing? Have you voiced your concerns with her?

[Andres77]

Constant contention

[KatherineJ]

@Andres77 I’m sorry

[Andres77]

Thanks dear but we’re good

[rosemilk]

i don't look at his side of the closet. it's none of my business what he feels comfortable wearing. i definitely know he wouldn't wear things with holes in it etc tho...

[RuthlessAggression]

I don't

I'm sngle though, so, i can't really answer this

I just feel it's not right to tell a woman what she should and shouldn't wear

just like she shouldn't tell a man, the same

Why people feel like they need to be in control, i dk

[MTC29]

Do you give your opinion about the clothes in your S/O’s closet?

Only if I had a death wish. Besides, she has so many clothes crammed into her closet, and packed to tightly together, that it impossible to know what's in there.

[Kelly6]

yes i always do give opinion on hubbys clothes

[KatherineJ]

@kelly6 well, that’s part of our job as wives.

[Kelly6]

exactly true.
if we don't do that then I don't know what to say

[Kelly6]

@KatherineJ well something that only wives can understand

[KatherineJ]

@kelly6 haha! Probably! Or at least long term girlfriends.

[Kelly6]

@KatherineJ totally agree ,
long term girlfriend is equal to wife

[Nikki1989]

Very rarely. Most of the time, he can wear whatever he wants.

[bowenw]

No, none of my business unless they ask - which is never.

[dustybiker]

No. Their space and things are their own. I’m more likely to need those comments anyway, but wouldn’t get them either.

[sheikalana]

I do. But if it's something I don't like I don't really say anything.

[Mac-One]

We openly share our opinions.

[KatherineJ]

@Mac-One that’s fantastic!

[Boldy_Erin]

I practically have to drag my boyfriend to the store to go shopping for new clothes

[chokeonDaddysbigD]

Yes, and most of the time 95% she'll ask me. How does this look this color ok? Etc etc

[BCRanger10]

If my wife asks for input, I'll give it.

[driven159]

I tell my wife she has too many shoes she is a pack rat

[KatherineJ]

@driven159 there is no such thing as “too many pairs of shoes”, sir!

[driven159]

yes there is when you trip over them in the dark

[Anonymous]

Only if she asks me.

[EaterPeter]

Most of the time

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!