When someone mentions to you how pretty or attractive someone else is do you feel that invalidates your beauty?

[Anonymous]

[NewgodOmega]

I am a guy 38 extremely ugly
When someone says another guy looks better than me, who does look better than me I just say a bland yeah
Coz after surviving a earthquake A flood 2 tornadoes 2 riots 1 pandemic 1 band marriage, a false police case, going to jail, losing everything to wife by biased court, injustice social bias against men suicidal tendencies depression extreme misery and suffering if that didn't make me mentally mature enough to take the truth as truth then it was all a epic waste

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Not at all. I usually agree and join in enthusiastically like, "Oh yeah, he/she is very good-looking!"

That sounds really bad to me if someone thinks and reacts that way. It reminds me of the evil queen in Snow White who couldn't stand that there was anyone considered more attractive than her.

[Asker]

Well I don’t think that mindset necessarily comes from “Oh, someone can’t dare be better looking than me!.” Because I don’t think it’s even healthy to believe that someone is better looking or more attractive than you because no one is perfect. Does someone look different than you? Absolutely, we’re all unique but I believe it’s the difference in beauty that caused that mindset of “Oh you think they’re attractive. So I must not be.” Because subconsciously you’re thinking what is it about them that makes this person say they’re so attractive. That comparison mindset may kick in. When literally, what makes them attractive may not make you attractive but that doesn’t mean you’re not attractive just that whatever physical features make you beautiful is not the same that makes them beautiful if that makes sense lol. I only asked because I was having a conversation with a friend about beauty and the perception of it based upon the person and their own insecurities.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For sure with the subjectivity involved in assessing beauty. I personally don't mind though if someone genuinely is better at something than me though we can objectively, like say someone beats me at arm wrestling, or have a superior benchpress record, or makes more money than I do, or anything else.

I don't get jealous or insecure since I really don't mind. I admire those people instead and hope to learn from them.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

[*] I personally don't mind though if someone genuinely is better at something than me though we can objectively [measure, sorry] [...]

[desidoll]

Believe me or not, some people do that on purpose. They want us to question our look or lower our self-esteem for their pleasure. If you are an attractive women yourself, you will find your girl friends doing this once in a while. Some guys do that as a negging tactic.

They don’t necessarily find the other person attractive, but they just said it to put you in your place. However, there are also cases where they genuinely find that person attractive though, without any bad motive.

[Asker]

Yea I get that. It also could be one those situations where they may be describing someone to you and you don’t quite catch on to who they’re talking about even when they describe them and and they’ll be like “Oh you know the pretty one.” Now that could be a compliment to you depending on how you look at it because they could be them thinking you must know what pretty is. You’re pretty/attractive yourself lol so it’s all perception I guess.

[litty736]

In my teen years a grown man tried it with me when talking about his wife to be. His intention was to make me feel unattractive.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, not at all! I actually think of it as a beautiful reminder of how diverse and unique we all are. There's so much beauty in the world, and admiring someone else's doesn't dim our own light. If anything, it's like appreciating a gorgeous piece of art; it doesn't take away from the beauty of another. It's all about sharing that warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation and celebrating the diversity that makes each of us special. Plus, when we lift each other up, we all shine brighter together, don't you think? 😊 How about you? How do you feel when you hear compliments being shared around?

[handsomelad70]

No, because my boyish good looks are obvious to anyone who sees me.

[PeachyPie93]

Not really unless they are comparing me to said other better looking person lol. Or I like the guy who is complimenting the other girl.

[OtterMan68]

no, I don't compare myself to others. I know I'm no Chris Hemsworth

[Asker]

How come you’re not? Lol you’re only as attractive as you believe

[jahaims]

It is actually the exact opposite. You are as attractive as others believe.

[Paul09]

Not really. Maybe. depends. I would agree. But I do wonder if I'm attractive enough or not sometimes. Since I've been single for a long , long time.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

It shouldn't but I can see how it would, for Me however I pay little mind to it unless it comes up later.

[boggboss]

No im not that insecure about my looks

[Cutegirl06]

Not all all. Why would it?

[Asker]

Just a question. It came to mind after having a conversation with a friend of mines about beauty and how it’s perceived when you add in your own personal insecurities. Like if you’re fighting your own insecurities and you hear someone else be complimented or admired, you will take offense to something without there being intentions to offend you on the person saying it end. You instantly may think the worse like “Omg I must look terrible.” “How can I be as attractive as this person they’re speaking of?” “Am I attractive at all?” When the person who said it literally never even said that you’re WEREN’T attractive but that that particular person was. Nothing more nothing less. You ignore that the same is probably being said about you and someone else just may have those insecure thoughts. So yea, I just think about weird things sometimes so I thought I would ask lol

[Cutegirl06]

I see what you mean. Nah It doesn't bother me because different people have different opinions on what beauty is anyway

[The_Sexpert]

That would be super insecure

[AmyHew1tt]

I wish I could say no, but yes.

[jahaims]

That doesn't even make sense

[Dinklex3]

No, lol.

[laly520]

no I dont