Me being black. people consider me to be less attractive because of my color? Why?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

There are going to be some people who think that way, but most people don't. Specifically, most people have no problem with the way you look, even if you look different than they do.

I think a bigger percentage of people who might overlook you or not choose you are doing so because they ASSUME (and they might be right, and they might not be) that you are likely to share cultural and personality stereotypes common among black women, and it's those things - rather than your looks - that turns them off. And let's be clear: those same traits turn off men from women of other races too - it's just that these traits tend to be more common in black women than women of other races.

Those traits are:

being masculine
being loud and/or very opinionated
being ghetto/white trash/ignorant
having low morals and values
being promiscuous
aspiring to be "strong and independent"
putting education and career over relationships/family

Again, I have no idea if these apply to you personally, but lots of men - including black men - find these traits a big turn-off - and these traits tend to be common among black women, though they are certainly found in women of all races.

Let's assume that you are NOT any of these things, but people see you and just assume that you are all those things. The way you overcome that is to just spend time around them, and let them see your actual behavior and learn about your actual morals and values. It will take some time and will take some effort on your part, but men WILL notice if you are not the things on this list, and they will move you in to the "exception" category, which is essentially a promotion to "relationship material" status.

It may be unfair that this is necessary, but like isn't fair, and you are certainly not the only one life is unfair to.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

Birds of a feather flock together. If you're surrounded by people of another race, you are going to be the odd one out. There's nothing wrong with you or the way you look, or or your race. That's just the way it is. It's like the time I went to a Cypress Hill smokeout back in the 90s. Almost everybody there was Mexican. I'm part Mexican myself but I look pretty white and kind of like a country fried hillbilly. None of the Mexican girls would even look at me because I didn't look like a cholo wannabe gangster. If you are somewhere where the majority of the people are black, I'm sure you will not have the same problem.

menina · Accepted Answer

It depends on where you are. If you are in a country where most people are black, you'll be seen as attractive. If you are in a country where most people aren't black, then you might be considered unattractive. Of course, this also depends on the individual, some men are attracted to black women and others aren't (including some black men).

In the western world black people are usually seen as ugly due to Eurocentric beauty standards, racism and stereotypes.

StudyingAuthor · Accepted Answer

I don't think being black makes any black person more beautiful or more ugly than a white person. I think if we seen ya we'd probably think you are very beautiful.

Fashionista Amy · Accepted Answer

I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way. The idea that beauty is connected to skin color is an unfortunate and harmful stereotype rooted in societal biases. Everyone's unique beauty deserves to be celebrated, regardless of skin color. Cultural and individual standards of beauty vary widely, and what someone finds attractive is deeply personal. Many people see beauty in diversity, and your skin color is a beautiful part of who you are. Confidence and self-acceptance enhance beauty more than anything else. Never forget that you are worthy and beautiful just as you are. How do you feel about your own beauty?

hahahmm · Answer

Usually there's more to it like social differences. Also there's non-black women who look really good and complain about not getting attention when what they really mean is they ignore all of the attention from guys they don't want so it's like it never happened.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

That's in your head. There are people who consider you less attractive. There are people who consider you more attractive. Same can be said about white people. Redheads. Tall people. Short people. Muscular people...

The "why" doesn't matter.

BTigers96 · Answer

I don't think it's your skin color. People are attracted to what they are attracted to physically and that's not anything you can change. There are plenty of people who find dark/black skin attractive. You're beautiful to someone, probably many people but you just haven'tet them yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly for me it’s the attitude I’ve dealt w in a lot of black women. I know not all of them are like that but the ones I’ve met, attitudes like no other. Acting ghetto. No respect for people. Plus I like real hair. A number of them act like these female rappers. A big turnoff. I can’t stand the way they talk to patients when working w them. It’s like there’s always an attitude there w a lot of them.

MikeyObrien · Answer

I think you're looking at it from an American perspective. Most people are attracted to their own race, that doesn't mean that other races are ugly. Plus there are so many different types of blacks so it's not a true statement, for example I'm not attracted to black women generally but one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen was black from Morocco. Simply put I think race is much less of a factor than say hygiene, weight, and personality.

RageBabe · Answer

This is what white supremacy wants black women to believe, but black women are incredibly gorgeous.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you're a woman and most people's experience with black women is some nappy haired ghetto girl being loud in public. They also have more masculine features on average, and their big ashy butts don't always make up for it.

Anonymous · Answer

It's probably your big black ass that's the problem.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Who said we are less attractive? 😂 Girl, pls…😂😂😌

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't care about hair, eye, or skin color, but a lot of people do. Why? Upbringing? Parents? Friends?

DrPepper12 · Answer

WHO considers that? If you dont respect them why would you care?

Anonymous · Answer

i dont think most people do, but the ones who do are for racist reasons

Anonymous · Answer

That really depends on the people. I for one love darker skinned women. It's beautiful.

RyanR03 · Answer

Honestly I can say I find many black women attractive. My ex is black

LiamS95 · Answer

I have no problem dating an attractive black woman.

Anonymous · Answer

It could be so. But maybe not because of your colour. Who knows? I would date a black girl if I liked her personality

onedarkcloud · Answer

I can think of one word that could cover it... STUPIDITY !!!

noohair · Answer

I don't think that way. Dark women are a turn on for me.

Theodora1983 · Answer

No for me personality make a person attractive or not.

RavVid · Answer

I don't think that is at all the case.

ariadneR · Answer

Because they're fucking stupid.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Why should skin color matter at all?

PetiteMisSmooth546 · Answer

What you saying?

Evamee · Answer

There will be always those people but most don't

FarmBoy13 · Answer

I’m white….. if find black girls hot 🥵

andy530 · Answer

I don’t think all of us do

RedInnocent69 · Answer

That’s not it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Beauty is beauty no matter what color you are!

war_daddy · Answer

because white is better

Anonymous · Answer

Because that's what you believe.

Predetor · Answer

You're one step ahead of me

shortster · Answer

Stupidity

zombiewoof · Answer

Not evetone

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Oh stfu

kareka · Answer

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