Ever thought you were attracted to someone but later found out you were only attracted to the clothes they wore?

[Anonymous]

Like this woman I had in my class who would almost exclusively wear little black dresses and I thought it was so fucking hot.

But then she somewhat suddenly almost completely stopped wearing little black dresses and began to wear t-shirts and jeans like every other woman on campus and I suddenly didn't find her attractive at all anymore.

Now that I paid more attention her face was actually kind of ugly and her body completely average. I came to associate the little black dresses so strongly with her but it wasn't her I was attracted to. I was only attracted to her in little black dresses specifically.

If I need to say it I had nothing against her as a person or against ugly women but I'm just stating what I don't find attractive. I'm aware ugly women deserve just as much love as pretty women.

[Anonymous]

Clothing and style is half of what makes anyone attractive. Anyone can be a 7 if they try. Very rarely is anyone just accidentally a radiant beauty by nature alone. I don't think you're attracted to her dresses, unless you want to wear them yourself. You are attracted to how she looks in them.

[Asker]

Was somewhat surprised to get a response on a dead 12 day old question with exactly only 1 other reply here before you showed up but I'm glad I did! Your answer is actually really well written!

So basically it's not just genetics but also the effort you put into your look.

I assume that was a rhetorical question but no I don't want to wear her dresses lol. But yes that makes sense! I'm attracted to how she looks in those dresses even if not otherwise but that's pretty normal because clothing and style play a big part on how attractive someone is like you said.

Also automatically giving you MHO because I don't think anyone can top your answer.

[Anonymous]

What made her ugly?

[Asker]

I think it might be better if I don't answer that because I don't want women who have those features to come across my post and start to feel bad about themselves.

But let's just say beauty is completely subjective. Even if I personally found her ugly to someone else she could be an angel who fell out of the sky.