Bad girls that look innocent. How to identify?

[Anonymous]

I don't like bad girls. Some girls who look like they're sweet and innocent aren't always so sweet and innocent..

How can I pick these girls out quickly?

[kambo_trick3y]

Every selfish human is out for one thing, and that's to get something out of you. There's a few things to look out for.

1 - Equal treatment, 50/50. Don't give something to a stranger or a girl, an acquaintance, anything, without getting equal treatment. If they want something from you, you have to get something in equivalent exchange. This does not have to apply to long time friends.

2 - The mark of a truly good human being doesn't just apply when it is convenient for them, you have to know a person is good when the chips are down. Do they do good and selfless things for others even if it is inconvenient? Are they a good person to not just you, but everyone around them?

3 - Actions are louder than words. People who wear masks, they are generally afraid of action. Because actions have repercussions, words do not. So look for virtuous action, not words.

[Asker]

Great post. Lots of truth here

[martyfellow]

Watch the eyes. If they are shifty-eyeda lways scanning around and sizing everyone up and then sidling over to whoever has the most expensive car or the latest style of clothes..

That person will never be trustworthy, and will dump you in a second for someone better 'connected.'

In conversation if they talk about cars and clothes all the time, they aren't so innocent and will do almost anyting to get close to the crowd with the money.

[desidoll]

There is no specific way to know her just from her appearance.The best thing is try to have a conversation with her and get her into some topics that can show her true color.But be wise,don't make it obvious.Bad girls can be smart in detecting all this.

[Asker]

I agree, and not able to tell from appearance is true I learned it the hard way. It's just hard for me because I develop feelings with these girls, and it sucks because by the time I find out after getting to know them they've developed. :(

[desidoll]

This is why we need to know their personality.Some can be good in hiding it.We won't know it in the beginning of the relationship though.Making friends first with her is one way to get to know her well.

[Asker]

That's very true. Thanks for the suggestions

[desidoll]

You are welcome :)

[thegirlnextdoorxx]

They're loud and they swear.

Others wear a lot of make-up..

but there's no way to recognise them for sure

[rudy37lee]

Pretty sure you don't have to loud or swear, to be a 'bad girl'. I'm sure there are plenty of them who don't wear makeup, as well. Quite the generalization there. You've got it with your last line though, there really is no fool proof way to recognize, what would be the fun in that? ;-)

[Asker]

I agree with you Rudy. It's exactly why I asked this question, the things she stated are red flags, IMO, but there are bad girls in girls who don't look like that too (Why I'm asking this).

[thegirlnextdoorxx]

I guess you'll have to find out for yourself, won't know it until you get to know the girls really :)

[Asker]

Weak. I usually develop feelings. Wish I could just turn them completely off sometimes. -_-

[thegirlnextdoorxx]

Why don't you date girls you already know a bit? You'll know more about how they are then, before you date them.

[Asker]

I think you're right. Someone else here gave me the advice of meeting women just through my inner circles, like friends, school, etc. Maybe that is the way to go

[HopingForParadise]

The way they talk, walk, speak to their friends, and how they act when they think no one else is around.

[Asker]

"how they act when they think no one else is around." I liked this point.

[rudy37lee]

Just by looking? No way to tell. It'd probablly be pretty easy to figure out by the end of the night though, if you pay enough attention.

[Asker]

Oh really? That would be awesome, tell me the way. o_o

[rudy37lee]

Feel em out. I dunno, are you a decent judge of character? I can usually tell after hanging out with someone for a couple hours if they're 'bad news' or not. I'm really good at reading people though, so honestly it just happens, I can't say exactly what I see that makes up my mind about someone. Practice makes perfect?

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm really good at reading people and their character, it's just unfortunately, the girls that went under the radar for me were also shy and quiet. Any ideas on how to set up some bait to lure them out into the open?

[rudy37lee]

Bait? R you going to trap them or something? lol. Just b genuine, treat people with respect and positive people will come into your life when they are supposed to. I love that some people who will be some of the most important in my life, I haven't even met yet, or they don't even exist yet. Like, future children ;-) That's just too cool. I used to think, who will I marry? Where is he & what is he doing right now? I have met him, & he had probably been up to no good when I was thinking of him:)

[Asker]

Haha. Maybe trap them to release them back in the wild XD. I completely agree with you. The problem is, not in a cocky way but I'm a good looking guy, and I love to dress well too, so people usually stereotype me to be a player or something. Like, there's this good girl I like in my class I never spoke to, but I swear she hates me LOL. You seem really passionate. Your last statements were really sweet lol.

[rudy37lee]

If people judge you for your looks use that to your advantage. That should be a good indication that someone is a dillweed if they write you off cause you dress nice. Although I must confess I've definitely looked at someone and thought oh what an asshat, but it was more likely for the cocky better than you expression he wore, not how he dresses.There's a fine line btwn confidence and cockiness and I can't stand cocky. Are you that guy? Lol

[Asker]

How can I use it to my advantage? As much as I like the way you changed it into a positive thing, I still feel kinda down about it because it's a small misunderstanding that ruins a potentially good relationship. :\ I don't blame you for that, I know the smug look you're talking about. Haha, honestly I'm not cocky at all. I'm very shy. I'm not sure how I come across as I can't see myself, though xD.

[kheserthorpe]

I wish I knew.

I'd have been all over the bad girls.

[Asker]

I feel your pain, bro.

[PoeticNinja]

The kind of atmosphere she wants to be around.

Other than that, you can't really tell. - Looks can be deceiving.

[Racez]

You can't really tell it based from looks.

You would only get to know them better once they open up their mouths and talk.

[Evan_aa]

If she looks like me she's probably a good girl with some bad intentions

[josesmaf]

Know the people around them. See how they interact with others.

[sketchy]

I'm pretty sure they all have their moments...

[Anonymous]

you can't, you just have to get to know people.

[sexylove4391]

oh you will know