Questions: Fashion & Beauty

I was standing around with some of my co-workers when a male co-worker said, “I like your belt”. Other co-workers looked down at belt too and complimented me on it. This one female co-worker looked down, grinning/smiling and staring for a few seconds, but didn’t say anything. Was she looking at my bulge? She was the only co-worker who changed facial expression while looking.

I wasn’t wearing a jacket at the time, just my shirt tucked into my suit pants. So the whole area was viewable. My bulge is pretty noticeable, even though they’re not tight pants (perhaps because they’re a light color). In other words, I doubt that she was smiling because she thought it was a funny sight. It’s not like those too-tight skinny jeans that some guys like wearing! Just normal suit pants that are the correct fit for me. But you wouldn’t be able to look at my belt without also seeing my bulge.

All other things aside, would a guy of this height be on your radar, or would he still be too short and it be a complete deal breaker? The keyword here being "deal breaker".

I'm actually much shorter than this. I'm in the bottom 5% for men (1% to be exact). which means I'm considered to be abnormal (more than 3 standard deviations from the mean).

My entire life even since I was in grade school, I've been picked on, bullied, & made fun of for my height. Guys give me no respect, and women won't even bat an eye lash at me. On far too many occasions women have told me to my face that if I was taller they would date me, because other than that I was a great and attractive guy. Men will literally walk up and start hitting on girls I'm with, right next to me, because they see me as a joke who can't physically hurt them. Everywhere I go guys and girls make comments about my height as if I'm handicapped or something. Even my own friends draw attention to it because they don't realize that while I just laugh it off, I'm crushed on the inside.

It's gotten so serious that I've literally contemplated suicide because I just cannot take the pain of dealing with this anymore. I'm losing the strength to keep my head up when every day people make me feel like a freak, or when girls I've fallen for make jokes about my height.

So the reason I ask this is because after having done some extensive research, I'm very seriously considering leg lengthening surgery. Great advances have been made which make it relatively safe and complication free. The process only takes 4-6 months, you can gain about 3in with today's new technology, and there is relatively little pain and scaring. The only negative is the money. However, I'm very fortunate to come from a fairly wealthy family who I know is very supportive and would have the ability to pay for this if it came to that point. I am certain that a doctor would consider me a prime candidate for this surgery, given a variety of circumstances. Again, I've done a lot of research.

Personally I know I would be 100x happier by just having a few inches. I'm not looking to be a giant, I just want to stop being looked at as a freak. That said, I know I personally would be very satisfied with this height (which is about the 40th percentile for men), but I'm just curious as to how women would see it? So again, if a guy who is around 5'7, is that a deal breaker for you or is he still plenty tall enough.

BTW, if you are a girl who is like 6ft tall and you still say no, I understand. You don't have to lie. You won't hurt my feelings. I respect a women's preference to not like shorter guys. I probably wouldn't either.

Oh I might add, just as some food for thought. When I say 5'7, I referring to height with no shoes. With the shoes I tend to wear, I'd prob be 5'8+ when in public if I had the surgery.

my wife sometimes says to me that for birthdays/xmas or just to be nice I can always feel free to buy her shoes/boots that I like or would like to see her in.

i just find it very hard buying a girl those things especially if she werent to like them.

i find heels very very sexy on girls (I don't have a foot fetish btw)

just love how girls look in them its one of the first things I notice on a girl.

ive even asked her on occasion when were drinking to put on heels for me in bed while we have sex cause I think its sexy. and she's OK with it but when I'm sober I find it awkward to ask in case she thinks its weird even those she's always said its fine.

anyway... we recently had out first baby... a little girl.

shes been working very hard to start to lose baby weight and more and get really in shape.

i would love to get her some sexy heels for something to feel good in and that I would love to see her in.

i have a certain pain in mind that I've always loved to see on girls and think its the absolute sexiest shoe a girl can wear.

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i just worry that she would think theyre maybe too high for her or think theyre a little trashy or something and think its weird that I'm buying them.

also when it comes to boots she doesn't have too many pairs and wants more the pairs that she does have are flats but id love to see her in ones like these

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you get the jist... not hooker looking boots but not just flats.. some with a wedge or heels.

but I'm worried she'll think theyre slutty or I'm trying to get her to dress more "sexy" I guess.

so is this weird at all or can I get some advice on how to bring this up to her and not feel awkward or show her shoes that would drive me nuts to see her in thanks!