Why do guys call girls ugly even it they're not?

[Anonymous]

Ok, I know that when some guys think a girl is ugly they will be a jerk and just tell her to her face. But I've also heard that sometimes guys will flirt like this by calling them ugly. And sometimes they're just joking around. I just don't get how to tell the difference between when they mean it or not. Usually I don't see a guy just straight up tell an ugly girl that she's ugly...but then again there are guys that do. Guys have told me I'm ugly before. One said, you're so ugly. But that was in the third grade. Don't boys do that to girls they like at that age? Then when I was in junior high, two guys used to constantly call me ugly. But the thing is, is that they would say it with a smile and stare at me all the time. So that sounds like they were flirting. So I'm not sure why guys act like this. But is it true that when they're young they act like that towards girls they like?

[Miss_Desirae]

Well, when guys say that around that age, I think it's to hide the fact that they like you and make it not seem so obvious while trying to appear cool. Guys around elementary and middle school are still very young and don't really know how to express themselves or their emotions very well, and so they say things that can be or come off as really mean just to get a girl to notice them. Or it could be that they are immature jerks who like picking on girls.

[May1987]

Yeah, happened to me too in elementary school and middle school. The same boys who called me ugly also ended up sheepishly handing me valentines. They get better by high school, haha.

[ace36]

it is a form of sarcasm, and at the more flirtatious ages. guys do it to tease a girl, but most would only do it to a girl that they liked who they were sure knew that she was pretty / that they were joking. It is meant for the girl to interpret it as the guys calling them cute without actually having to say so.

[Anonymous]

ugly is relative and objective. I wouldn't call a girl ugly if I were flirting with her, that's like one of the things you just don't do.

[Vegabond101]

Hi My name is Asia Dodson, i had low esteem because of boys who kept making fun of me and calling chopsticks at middle school and high school but i just realize the only reason they were making fun of me is because they liked me. there was his boy, he was mexican who always kept getting in my face, hitting hard like a dude or hurt my feelings too. So when my classmates said you like him i said no i dont and then when i said no he was sooooo sad but i just never see him like me and he would never confess. But the crazy part is he wanted me to be jealous and i was too. After that he had a girlfriend and they looked like they love each other but he kept messing with me, hitting me and getting in my face for no reason. This boy had anger issues who terrified me the most when i go in the classroom my beats soooooo fast.

[Vegabond101]

my another story that happened to me is when i was in the mall with my friend we were walking minding our own business then these two came up to me and made fun of me in my face calling me ugly so i went to the bathroom crying because it was only me who they made fun of me for no reason my friend calm me down and not get me wrong i said to her why you want to be friends with me and she said you are my best friend you saved my life by being in my life and i still wanted to kill myself. i still remember still his day and when i was a teenager in high school but it never really goes away boys still this day called me ugly but there is a lot of boys that is attracted to me.

[Zanalayy]

I think it's really depends on who the man is that you're speaking of. Some men will do it to lower yourself esteem so that you don't leave them or so that you'll do more for them. Sometimes it could be teasing and a way of flirtation a little childish to me if you ask. Others will say it because they won't see past physical Beauty. In general it's best not to mind comments like that and if they do get to you it's okay to stand up for yourself. All people are beautiful it just takes a little bit to see it sometimes. Learn to love yourself more and positive around you. T