How to show her that I'm better than the other guy?

[Anonymous]

so me and this girl have been talking for the past two months again (we dated for two years before) and recently she has been talking to this other guy (they've been talking for like a week and a half). she said that she likes him but has feelings for me as well. I truly love her, and think shell get over him. I just was wanting to hear some other ideas to show her the feelings that she has for me.

[trixie1986]

I think the key here is to show your interest without being aggressive. Unfortunately, if she likes this guy then she likes him. You can't change that. But I guarantee you that if you are constantly calling/texting/emailing her you are going to come off way too strong and will probably scare her away. And if you dog on the other guy and tell her he sucks, it is going to have the opposite effect and she will probably become more attracted to him (I know, girls suck).

The best thing you can do is keep a healthy social life going out with other guys (and girls!) so she doesn't think you are hovering and pressuring her. If she sees you're having fun and enjoying life, she will be more inclined to go your way. The fact that she still has feelings for you is a great sign! And you dated for 2 years, so you've already got a pretty big leg up on the competition. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

ummmm show her you're interested. don't let her think you're not interested in her because then she'll go for the other guy even if he's not as good as you. talk to her. don't get discouraged if she's talking more to the other guy. ask her questions about herself. "what's your favorite color? etc." maybe not so corny questions. tell her that her hair smells good or is nice. don't be showoffy when the other guy is around. but make her feel special, supposedly the wimenz like that.

p.s. it's weird she would tell you she likes you but also likes another guy. disrespectful kinda, but maybe she just didn't realize. idk. not important as long as you don't let her take advantage of you and make you feel like you have to be different to be with her.