What are the signs she only sees you as a friend?

[Anonymous]

Girls and guys, what are the signs she sees you as just a friend?

[TheHoneyBadger]

The easiest way to tell is to try flirting with her and see how she responds. If she plays along, its a pretty good sign, though some girls will flirt with friends just for fun. If she shuts it down, then its time for you to give up.

If she responds positively to flirting, trying some casual touches (non-sexual) could be a way of judging whether she is really interested or just messing around. As with flirting, if she pulls back or tells you to stop, its time for you to stop wishing, but if she goes along with it, its a pretty safe bet she is interested in being more than friends.

[Asker]

Well I touched her thigh once when she made a joke and then her upper arm. She didn't pull away or seem the slightest bit disgusted.

I also playfully nudged her. I wanted to tease/flirt with her. She did it back to me whilst laughing/smilling.

I just wish I knew a guy who was good enough with women to tell me :(

[TheHoneyBadger]

trust me, I went through this with close friend, and have read everything I could find and asked the question as many ways as I could phrase it. When it came down to it, especially without seeing you interact in person to see all the subtleties of the interaction, no one on an online forum can tell you. That being said, your best bet if you're looking for a sure fire answer are to either ask one of your/her friends if you think she likes you, or to directly ask her. Obviously the second is the more sure-fire route, but takes a little more nerve. That's what I ended up doing, and while she ultimately said no, I was glad I did and our friendship is still really strong (in fact she introduced me to the girl I'm now dating).

[DarkHumorRUs]

She talks about herself a lot without seeming interested that much in you

She doesn't initiate anything, such as with texting, and she'll also take time to reply to texts. Girls always say that if they like a guy, they'll respond quickly every time and then they think they seem "desperate".

If you "hang out" it's never a date, it's just a hangout.

She treats you like all of my female friends have treated me.

List of signs girl likes you: www.reddit.com/.../cxf0jdi

95% of those are NOT true for me and my female friends, it sucks.

[JSmuve]

She takes her sweet ass time replying to messages.

She rubuffs any flirting attempts

She doesn't ask many questions about your life

She won't show much affection towards you

She talks to you when she needs something from you

She'll talk about her crushes around you

If she does any if these, she either doesn't like you romantically or is a really shitty friend

[Asker]

When you say "rebuff", do you mean she would pull away and/or not reciprocate. I playfully pushed her and then tried playfully elbowing her in the stomach when she was standing behind me... she did it to me and then said "You better not do that or you'll break your hand"... was that flirting?

She has never spoken about other guys or crushers to me.

[JSmuve]

Ya, rebuff means she'd shut down any flirting attempt you make.

The situation you described may have been flirting or it may not have. It's difficult to say.

[Asker]

Why is it hard to tell?

I touched her thigh and upper arm once and she didn't move away or act differently?

[JSmuve]

OK she definitely likes you. Go ask her out right now.

[Asker]

I know you're just saying that. Don't get bitter. I'm trying to give you more information.

[JSmuve]

I'm not bitter. You're just trying to get me to answer a question that no one on this site can answer. You need to realize that giving me all the information in the world won't help.

[Ironhorse]

She doesn't sincerely get involved in your life. Say for example you was in a car accident would she come visit you in the hospital by herself all alone? If not then you're just someone she knows (friend, and I use that term losely).

[chuppachup]

When you're a beta or lesser.