I threw a plate at my girlfriend.

[TDSD89]

I'm under a lot of stress right now, and I'm recovering from a heroin addiction. I've been best friends with my girlfriend since the 5th grade. Almost all her boyfriends before me have been abusive in one way or another I promised her I'd never hurt her. I don't know what hit me but we were having a stupid argument in the kitchen, she started walking away and I just picked up a plate sitting on the counter and threw it at her. Luckily, she ducked and it missed her. I don't know what came over me but I feel horrible and I don't know what to do. Also, about a week ago we were having a small argument and I almost hit her I was about to then I realized what I was doing and I didn't. Advice?

[xorachellexo]

My sister was a heroin addict. She has been sober for 3 years now. She was under so much stress at that time that she would take out her aggression on me by throwing things at me when we would argue. Its normal to feel that way but letting it out like that is unhealthy. You knowing that she has been in abusive relationships in the pass made things worse. Did you apologize and I mean really apologize? Doing something sweet like getting her favorite pastry, flowers, going on a moonlight walk, just something to show her your really sorry and that your care a lot about her.

Here's my advice when you argue with her and get angry to the point of hitting or throwing something at her. Take a pause and count down from 10 to 1 and take a deep breath afterward. If that doesn't work then walk out of the room and tell her you'll go for a walk. A walk is probably best for you it lowers your aggressive state enough for you to go back into your house and just talk to her about a way to resolve your argument. Try finding a hobby or something you enjoy doing to let your anger out maybe boxing or chopping wood ( it does work), things along those lines. You really should try meditation it's a great way to let all your stress and aggression out of your body in a calm way, it could benefit both of you and it's something couples can do together. My sister does it and since then has been stress free. Still does it everyday. Hope this helped =)

[love_life1987]

Well at least you are recovering but damn boy. Get that sh*t under control... Have you apologized yet? That's really f***ed up man..

[authentic]

She has developed a pattern, probably been abused starting as a child. Subconsciously she is attracted to abusers, and will keep doing it until her death. If she wants a happy life she needs to seek help, from school councellors to therapists. And as you correctly noticed, she has this pattern. Sorry, it does imply that you are one. This website may help both of you by giving you some ideas on how to handle abusive situations >>> link

[TiddlyDeeBaby]

Idiot