How do you reject someone that you work with?

[grnpari]

This 19 year old coworker of mine kept asking me out the other day, and it was extremely awkward. I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I told him that he was too young (true), and he couldn't help it because he's not mature enough, but he kept going on and on about if I'm horny I could call him etc. What should I do next time this happens?

[rdr005]

Is it because he's a coworker, or is it because you're just not into him at all? (Or both?) How do these conversations come up? I'm assuming you're really not into him as a friend, right? Some steps would just be to tell him flat out... don't worry about his feelings, if he's just thinking about getting laid... then either he has other women out there... or he needs to get rejected solidly. Tell... look... I'm just not into you ok? Don't bring it up again. If he does, its time to file a complaint, because that's sexual harassment, and if he can't get it from you, he'll probably try to hit on someone else. Don't worry about ruining his job career... he's doing that part by himself.

[ItalianBro]

Guys can take rejection better than girls. Just reject him and move on. Don't worry about his feelings and just be honest. I can pretty much guarantee he will get over it pretty quickly.

[grnpari]

so instead of going on and on why I shouldn't date him (which would make him think he still has a chance), I should just say...?

[ItalianBro]

"Lets just be friends", "I just came out of a relationship and not looking for one". or just be honest and say "your not interested in him"

[grnpari]

thanks :) I'll make one of those an automatice response

[debsman]

For a coworker to offer his services, when you're horny, can be considered sexual harrassment. You're gonna have to stop worrying about hgis feelings and let him know you aren't interested. Tell him in private, not in front of the other workers.

[grnpari]

thanks

That's what my mom said, so I told her that next time I see him I'll be upfront, but if he keeps on then I'd have to report it.

[debsman]

That's good, but do it in private and look him strait in the eyes when you tell him. And get assurance from him that he understands what you're saying.

[grnpari]

Thanks I will

[dreamtime]

"I'm not interested, lets just be friends" will get you off the hook and will put the lad out of his delusions that something might ever happen.

[grnpari]

what if he asks for a ride home? because he asked, but I said I had to be somewhere, but he may ask again. He's just a lazy kid who talks nonsense, always talking about how he wants to save up money and get famous lol

[dreamtime]

Tell him you drive a bike and only have one helmet

Even if its an obvious lie, it'll get the point across if he stays persistent.

[grnpari]

ha ha that's a good one, but I don't want to make enemies. He knows I have a car anyway though

[dreamtime]

Its not really making enemys, its just making it apparent that your not interested in making it anything more then a work relationship in my opinion.

[grnpari]

ha ha good one, but what do I say if he wants a ride?

[dreamtime]

My car is full at the moment

i promised I'd pick up my boyfriend(another one is kid, really scares guys away so fast)

or

you know the typical "no sorry, I can't" with no further explanation because you shouldn't have to explain yourself to a co worker who keeps nagging at you

[grnpari]

thanks :)

[awaken03]

that's a form of harassment, better tell him straight forward..NO..if he still does that better inform the office authorities.