I went for a kiss and she gave me a hug?

[Anonymous]

First date we ended up cuddling on a bench somewhere..got really touchy and caressing but no kiss because she was still a little nervous. Second date, didn't go as good as the first cause of the place we went to in my opinion... less chances to talk, but by the end of the date we were holding hands, I was walking her to her place, and went in for a kiss, she dodged my face and hugged me tightly instead. She then said we would be talking soon, and left..

Haven't talked to her since, it's been 2 days.. but I would say that is normal because I usually have to initiate everything. I wanna say she wants to go on a third date, or maybe she sees us as a couple already I don't know..but why is she so hesitant to kiss I know she likes me a lot...

Do girls only kiss at the "right" moment, like after I say something flirty or if we're holding each other close and then I kiss her? I kinda was just walking with her, hands interlocked, turned towards her, looked her in the eyes and got closer to her face..

Where should I take her on the third date so that we can get cozy and kiss? Movie at my place maybe?

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Some details that may be helpful: She's had past relationships and experience, her last boyfriend cheated on her, the kiss was in public we weren't alone, she never initiates anything even hugs or hand-holding, I have to touch her and she lets me

[haleyyyyy]

I was really nervous the first time I got close with my old boyfriend. We had been friends on facebook first and had hung out once with my brother and once at the movies. We could tell that we were both interested, but hadn't done anything about it.

then he invited me to the beach. We met up and found a nice secluded spot, sheltered by trees. We layed in the sun at first, and then he complained of a sore back and asked me to massage it for him. I was really nervous. I massaged his back and then he did mine and we came super close to kissing but I just wasn't 100% sure if I should or not, so I didn't.

then we swam for a bit and he kept finding excuses to touch me, like throwing me in the water etc.

then we went back onto the beach and layed down on these really large flat rocks, both of us on one. We were talking and then he started tickling me and I sort of ended up in his lap, looking up at his face.

I let him kiss me but wasn't sure what to do, because I had never French kissed before. He sort of showed me how and before I knew it we were making out hardcore.

then we walked back to his house and went up to his room and were laying on his bed on our stomachs. He grabbed me and rolled me onto him and started kissing me and touching me. I had never done any of this before so I was nervous, but he showed me different things and asked me whether or not I liked them.

so, I think you should just be a little more persistent, she just might not be very experienced or might not be 100% sure that what you want is a kiss. I know I needed a little push and I'm really glad that he showed me what to do

[emilyg]

It definitely sounds to me like she's just real nervous, I was exactly like that before I got together with my boyfriend, I would avoid kissing him at every chance I got. We've been going out for 4 months now and I very rarely initiate any kind of move simply because I'm incredibly shy and even insecure in my own way. It might take a while, but get her comfortable enough to kiss you. Maybe even try more often so she realizes that she's going to have to brave it soon enough.

[Asker]

why were you nervous?

[emilyg]

Well it's not like I never had experience with other boys so it's kinda strange really. I think when you really like someone and you're worried you're going to do something wrong or mess up somehow, you sometimes try to avoid situations that might progress the relationship further. It's perfectly normal, I guess it's sort of the same as when you really want to talk to someone but you don't know how to approach the situation? You want to get it right.

[kaseykahneno1]

nervous. and with her ex cheating on her, she may be afraid of getting attached. I know I've been the same. but I don't kiss right away. I've dodged a kiss before but not because I wasn't interested or anything. just because I didn't want to.

[jus_like_that]

haha I did that to my boyfriend the last time I was over at his house..i was just too nervouse lol so I backed out and gave him a hug(:

[Asker]

what were you nervous about you two are a couple and exclusive aren't you? Is he too hot lol

[jus_like_that]

bcuz I haven't kissed anyone b4...not because he'ss 2 hot lol