Tips on cuddling?

[Anonymous]

So I've never cuddled before and my boyfriend wants to cuddle with me on a couch or at the movies, I love being that close to him but I've never cuddled with anyone before (Total noob to it) Any tips or ideas for what to do?

[GeminiWench]

Cuddling is simply touching body to body, clothes on.

At the movies, you might lean against eachother.. his arm around you. Your head on his shoulder, your hand on his leg/thight or stomach. means holding hands and being close. Italian Bro is talking about advanced sexual cuddling.. and... apparently in his world cuddling only leads to BJs and not Cunny,.. so my guess is he's a pretty crappy cuddler overall.

Cuddling can mean getting to know their body a little,.. kissing, touching over clothes or under clothes if you are comfortable. If at ANY TIME you are uncomfortable, you can stop. Seriously. Don't feel 'bad'.. don't feel embarrassed. He probably WILL get hard, and that's ok... if you want to touch, do, if you don't want to.. don't. Get close, enjoy ways of fitting your bodies together. Hang your leg over his thigh, hold him tight around his chest and bury your nose into his neck. Lean your back against his shoulder, let him drape his arm around your neck, touch your hair or arms.

Its easy. Don't be intimidated.

Also: You can start/stop ANYTIME you want. Ok? Speak up if you feel nervous, if he is a good guy he will respect you ALL THE TIME,.. if he is not a good guy... now is the time to know and walk away. Boners are uncomfortable sometimes.. he might need to shift. Don't worry, its not your problem or your 'fault'... he wouldn't be cuddling with you if he didn't enjoy your company and you didn't turn him on. Don't think you have to do anything. Just.. be there, be close, get to know him in more intimate ways. What does he smell like? Are his touches nice? Is he gentle? Does he like looking in your eyes? Kissing your face? Holding you close?

Thats what you should expect. Nothing more.

[probabilist]

wow good write up.

[aggregate]

this is a good writeup for both guys and gals... well done ma'am, you are a credit to the human race.

[jjamiie]

this is what I was going to say. 100% true.

[bnicole92]

have him lay down first and then just lay next to him and he'll put his arm around your side mostly. and you can put your leg in between his. there's nothing big that you need to learn about it. and also you can hold hands.

[Anonymous]

lie on your side and have him behind you with his arms around you

[Eskie]

If you got an arm free then rubbing or tracing your fingers in small circles somewhere like his side, chest, arm etc. Is something I always find super relaxing (to the point if I'm not concentrating on it it sends me to sleep within the minute) if he likes it and it doesn't squish you, you could position yourself to support him in a mama bear hug which is where if he was sat in your lap and had just kinda smoothed his butt off your lap while still leaning on you until his head was on your (I would say chest if you were a guy but that's for the papa bear (it's the same but swap)) tummy. This is great because it leaves you with a perfect line of sight right to his hair which you could play with or run your fingers through if you want to!
If he is cuddling you then you could always do like a little wriggle/snuggle (I find that 10/10 cuteness it's amazing, will actually melt if performed too many times)

I hope I helped you! Remember to ask your boyfriend what you can do as he might have preferences far different than me so that is the way you can get to cuddling at maximum efficiency!

[ItalianBro]

When I cuddle with my girl I like being in the back. With her ass pushed against my d***. The thing I loved about cuddling was that when I got a boner she would give me a blowjob. if she didn't get the hint I would just pull out my d*** and she would blow me. However, if your still a noob at cuddling than your not ready to do the fun stuff. There is no science behind it, just be near him and don't freak out if he gets hard.