A One Night Stand Just Will Not Leave Me Alone!

[Anonymous]

What the f*** should I do? He will not stop calling me, coming to my house, waiting for me at the bar I picked him up in...

I have tried everything from being a bitch, from being polite and from telling him to f*** off and leave me the hell alone. He has a serious superiority complex and I do not believe he has ever been discarded by someone before. I think he has always had women hang off of him and I believe that when I didn’t...he took an interest in me. I do not believe that he is seriously attracted to me, just the fact that I rejected him. Any ideas on how to get rid of him?

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People, stop answering.

[eldamien]

Firstly, this is why you shouldn't have one night stands. Guys that are "traditionally" good looking tend to be the most clingy, insecure people I've ever met. It's usually those guys that are coming to me asking for advice on relationships - they get a lot of one night stands but can't seem to hold down a real relationship at all. They confuse sex with real emotion and figure that any girl they bed down will instantly fall in love with them. When the girl doesn't, they get confused and try to substitute bravado for real feeling. Bottom line is they can't handle rejection as well as most people.

My suggestion would be No Contact. If you're doing that, threaten him with harassment and be prepared to call the police. It sounds like he's bordering on stalking behaviour, which is never good. If he has some sort of superiority complex and you're constantly (in his mind) tormenting him by rejecting him, it's a short step from there to being violent or overly agressive, espescially since you've already had sex.

[Leocris]

This is by far the dumbest f***ing sh*t I've ever heard.. And every dude that answers seems to be trying to impress you... "Oh Oh I'm a player too! Look at me!" The dude below me never gets rejected because his grammar is stellar...

If you have all these f***ing connections, have his ass beat so bad he forgets his name! If you're so god damn tough, do it your f***ing self! Kick him in the balls! Dump your drink on him! Tell the bar tender he's stalking you and get him kicked out! Better yet go to a different f***ing bar! Durrr!.. Why the f*** didn't your "scary" brother threaten him?!? You're obviously not trying to get rid of him! Stop being pathetic, grow a pair, and rip his off!

I won't be writing on this question again. I wasted enough time already.

[Asker]

Those 'connections' live in other countries. I already punched that motherf***er in the face and yet it did nothing, my brother looks tough but is a f***ing teddy bear and who dumps drinks on people these days? Really? And if it was such a waste of your time, why bother answering anyway?

[Leocris]

Exactly!

THE! NUTS! Even psychopathic stalkers don't want to be around a girl that kicks them in the tenders every time she sees him! EVERY. TIME.

A KICK. Not a punch. Wouldn't want to give him the wrong idea... again...

...there goes another 180 seconds I could have used to direct my anger at someone else...

[Asker]

And yet you felt the need to respond. Must I say more?

[Leocris]

The horse is dead. Why must you continue to beat it?

I Stalked your profile and saw your comments on religion. It's difficult to find people that have similar views as myself on that topic and thus I had to make myself a liar and continue to comment.

[Asker]

Why are you still commenting? I thought this was over with...

[AriaX]

init looool! don't cry about it

[Asker]

I haven't cried since I was like...9.

[solitaire]

love this answer lol

[Temporary37]

go off your meds much?

[whoblitzell]

Some people don't remember how to cry. Why would anyone want to be sane in this f***ed up world?

[whoblitzell]

So what I'm saying is, f*** you people. F***your definition of sanity. You're the ones that are broken.

[oxidizer235]

dayum!

[AslinnNight]

this answer made me giggle.

thanks, your awesome.

[crenshawmellonz24]

When I first scrolled over this question on the main page, I thought this was for a guy trying to get rid of a woman. Perhaps he is in fact someone with a superiority complex, and closet virgin feels a need to harass you until you submit again to feed his ego. Persistence can be tolerable at times, but harassment and stalking is just unacceptable, and scary.

Ignore him and if he shows up at your house, call the cops. Worst case scenario, get a male friend (preferably a big guy) to physically threaten him if he comes back. Cops are definitely your best bet, he'll be embarrassed when that happens, and it'll teach him a lesosn.

[Minxxe]

tell him you're dyke and were just testing yourself when you picked him up - better still tell him you were really f***ing drunk and have no recollection of & if you don't leave me alone I'm getting you arrested you f***ing creep.

be more discerning when picking up guys in future, these types are always bad news. nip it in the bud now and maybe let him see you with other guys/male friends that might put him off you.

[AslinnNight]

LOL telling him to f*** off and leave you the hell alone isn't very polite.

And just to spite you because your stupid for having a one night stand, I decided to answer.

Maybe he's trying to explain he has some STD you need to get checked out.

I hope he does...

[Belgie]

He's probably one of those guys who thinks you're playing hard to get. You know, the sort that so many women seem to think they want? The one that, when they walk away and say they don't want him, will actually keep pursuing them anyway?

Maybe you'll use this experience, to learn from, and teach other women that playing hard to get is really really dumb. Because it only attracts assholes like THIS guy.

You want to get rid of him? Stop running. Tell him he's passed all your tests, and his perseverence means that you KNOW he loves you, just as much as you love him. That you think they two of you should get married right away, and he needs to meet your parents so they can approve him. Then throw yourself at him, and hold on tight.

When you regain consciousness, and get up off the ground, you'll see him as a small vanishing dot in the distance.

[Asker]

The man is not a moron. If I abruptly go from being aggravated by his mere prescence to suddenly proclaiming my love & marriage proposals then he will know that I am bullsh*tting him. Like I said before, this guy is as intelligent, conniving & cruel as me. He is like the male version of me & seem's to know all of my tricks. No matter what I do, what I say, the asshole knows what I am really thinking. For the first time in my life, I think I met my match (someone who is just as good as me).

[DonMichelle]

You haven't met me! Think yourself lucky you haven't met me ;) hahaha. I'll give you lessons in cruelty hahaha

[Belgie]

Then what are you running for? You guys sound made for each other. Conniving, cruel, putting your own needs first, willing to have one night stands...

[Asker]

I do not do intimate dealings with others, little own the whole "love" thing. And that asshole was not "made for me". There is no such thing as "soul mates" or whatever the f*** you want to call it. And that man is far too conceited, narcissistic and bothersome. I cannot stand to be in his presence for more than a minute little own to actually date the bastard...

[Asailum]

This is a retarded question and your a stupid bitch for wasting everyones time here. Your obviously not looking for an actual ANSWER but for people to BITCH AND COMPLAIN TO! You want to just vent on this site like so many other stupid ****s.

To get rid of someone is EASY, just become completely cold and stop talking to them, end of story. The fact is your just being weak about it and then bitching on here about how its "impossible". Is it impossible for you to tell the truth that your trying to be perceived as the "girl who rejected the player"?

[Temporary37]

and a retarded response!

[Distant]

Wow. Spent time writing you an answer and then, for some reason, it didn't work :\ I apologize if this one is less in-depth. He seems a little desperate. He may have the idea that once you sleep with a girl, she'll always want you. (Similar to always being able to get an ex back) He probably can't deal with being discarded, just like you said. I would get a male friend to pose as a boyfriend and if that doesn't work, tell him you're seriously considering getting a restraining order - then get one.

~Distant

[Asker]

Getting a restraining order would be amusing. My mates are really pissed at the guy, if they met him they?d most likely punch him than tell him to p*ss off because I have a boyfriend. Plus, like I said, the guy has a serious superiority complex. He's gorgeous and knows it, has a really well paying job & is too arrogant to accept that yes, someone actually rejected him. F***ing idiot told me he thinks I'm playing hard to get. I swear, that idiot is going to be dead by Monday if he keeps this up.

[tigerguy]

lol he sounds like a woman after a one night stand lmao, karma is reversing the role to show showing woman what its like after a one night stand when a stalker girl won't leave a guy alone lol.

in all seriousness I know you don't want to be with the guy but try it out, he might be good for you and if you don't then do what he's doing, be obsesive with him, scare him away, do what that woman did in how to lose a guy in 10 days like when you go to a restaurant pretend to break down in tears in front of the waiter and say "my boyfriend thinks I'm fat" or say to him later on " I want 3 kids, I want to get married before we kiss or touch again that way it will be special on our wedding night., put teddies and pink stuff in his room.

[Asker]

I told him that I had AIDS and may have passes it on to him and that he should get tested. But the idiot just laughed and told me that I was cute playing hard to get.

[tigerguy]

play him at his own game or if you have a big brother, scare him off with him lol

[Anonymous]

The only way I have ever gotten rid of a persistent inappropriate suitor is by making it impossible for them to see me or talk to me. The fact he knows where you live and hang out makes that very difficult.

I had a serious creeper stalking me over a year ago and it took probably 6 months to stop seeing his text messages by ignoring his messages completely. He too did not listen to a word I said. We went on one date, it was horrible, he was obviously insecure, all we did was hug goodbye and then after wards he acted completely disinterested in another date but started trying to send pics of his penis to me. Luckily he did not know where I lived or hung out.

I agree this guy is all about not accepting your rejection so maybe you have to act real interested in him and ask him to marry you or something to get rid of him, lol. Sorry, other than trying to avoid him, not sure how to get him to stop.

[Quadrophonic84]

I just read through all the comments posted so far and it's pretty obvious you're intrigued by this guy and you're feeling something new. You're not dumb. You have options and you know them. This guy makes you tingle in a different way and you don't know what to do about it. Admit it to yourself or don't, but don't act like you're helpless. It only takes away from the credit you get for being honest about wanting a nice hard f*ck.

[DonMichelle]

Maybe it is the fact that you've played him at what appears to be his own game that has kept him so keen... or you just may be fantastic behind closed doors ;) hahaha

As for getting rid of him... if he's as keen as he sounds, you can't! Threatening him may keep him away, but he'll still want you! Would having sex with him again be out of the question?

[Asker]

Everywhere I am he pops up. I swear the asshole knows my whole schedule. But he isn't clingy about it. More like...he will not take no for an answer/is determined to get his way. I feel like wiping that stupid smirk off of his stupid face with my fist. And yes, I am a great f***.

[DonMichelle]

So it's purely because you've turned him down that he keeps on coming back? Is it stubborness on your part that you won't go dipping with him again? You, him and me are all VERY alike it seems, this little thing between you is like a contest now, 'who'll give in first'... will he stop chasing, or will you stop rejecting?!?! And with 2 such stubborn, proud players who are good at what they do... will there ever be a winner! Is a 1 night JUST 1 night with you? A simple '1 taste policy'?

[DonMichelle]

And with all this bitterness towards him... I reckon you secretly like him? You scared that you could end up being in his pocket?

We're bitter people but everybody fancies someone at time or another. Your attracted to him, maybe his arrogance more than anything

[Asker]

I am not attracted that bitch. I am not attracted to anyone. Period. If I did not take pleasure in sex so much, I would be an asexual.

[DonMichelle]

You do get attracted, everybody does! And the reason your so keen on telling him to f*** off is more out of you trying to prove a point more than you not wanting to have sex with him again!

You've said yourself he's gorgeous! You want it again but are too proud/stubborn to let him :)

And your not as cruel as you say you are, letting a person shower before they leave, cruel? I've carried girls downstairs still undressed and made them leave, given them thier clothes through the window! CRUEL!

[Asker]

Clearly, you are not asexual. If you were, you would recognize that all we experience is indifference to thing's such as relationships, love & the people we f***. I said he was gorgeous because I am neither unsighted nor delusional. It is a fact that he is what people would find nice-looking. Yes, I may be proud & stubborn, but not so much as to refute myself my desires. If I desire something, I attain it. And I would rather not play proverbial ping-pong over who is crueler. How inane.

[DonMichelle]

I never said I was asexual, I said we had similarities in the treatment of people... but I do differ from you! Even though without a doubt, I've done far worse to some people who I've had sex than you have... but I had my reasons (mainly because they were slags, you'd get this treatment ;) ) Your general treatment of all people you have sex with is, I'll be honest un-called for in my eyes but I'm not you! I'd like that treatment, to feel cheap and disgarded and I wouldn't bother you again...

[DonMichelle]

... but that's me! What you've got to realize is that by treating people like this your going to get feelings from some people, some will chase you (you've shown yourself to be without need, men are simply 'tools of pleasure', lads will try to prove this feeling/attitude wrong) or they'll resent you! There will be some who'll just accept it and live life knoing they've been used but that isn't the case for everyone. You'll have an eventful life forever with this lifestyle :)

[Asker]

I did not say that you were asexual; I said you have no idea what you?re talking about. & how would you know what I've done to my one nighters before? You don't. You don't know anything about me, or I you. & I have a rule when f***ing one nighters, I only f*** them in my house. Why? Well because they could f***ing kill me, kidnap me or ask me to stay. As soon as I'm done, I'm gone. You wouldn't even have the chance to throw me out. & if my behavior is so "uncalled-for", how can you be crueller?

[DonMichelle]

In the acts of my cruelty (to people I've had reason to be cruel to)

Girls who've liked me,(but have lied to me, have tried to manipulate me, (not a f***ing chance) spoken badly of me for any reason) 'been in my pocket' have been ordered to come round when I've told them, if they refuse... they never see me again. I'll f*** them... but then give them cuddles, kisses, things that they dream I'd do simply to make them even more in my pocket. I've had girls crying, begging me to leave them alone...

[Asker]

Aww, is that supposed to tug on my non-existent heartstrings?

[DonMichelle]

... because I'm making them ill, depressed, they can't sleep... so I'd snuggle them, tell them I'm genuine... thier hope keeps them coming, they're helpless, they hate coming to see me because they no they can't help themselves, I can be like a disease if I want to. I've had girls lose jobs through coming to see me, I'd demand they come when they should be in work... they become jobless! Even though thier acts have been minor, they've tried to make me a fool... so I show them who the fool is!

[DonMichelle]

And who are you trying to kid :) hahaha. This guy's right, you are cute! You try to make yourself out to be some wicked, needless girl who'll use a lad's d*** then spit on him afterwards... yet she does charity work!?!?!? (and I admire this, well done, at least some people actually see the decent side of you) Had a look at your profile and you ain't half as bad as you make out ;) hahaha. This lad ain't gunna leave you alone you know! He know's what your really like! :) !

[DonMichelle]

A trip down memory lane reading this :)

[beastman88]

your profile pic is awesome, it'd make a great tatty, anyway sounds like you like this guy from my point of view, if your willing to talk about him constantly on here, "hes the male version of you" thing, and if you really wanted him to be gone, I think he would be just saying, anyway I hope things work out for you the way you want them to

[Asker]

Being the male version of me isn't a good thing. And yeah, I agree. It'd make a wicked tatt.

[dudeisthatu]

Well honestly it problem interests him to be rejected because I'm am almost never rejected, an when I am it interests me but I get a clue if she asks me to leave I do. It respect. The guy ether thinks he loves you or is a stalker could be your awesome lay to but god knows id say if its a huger problem you might wanna talk to a police officer an get a restraining order to be sure you don't get hurt.

[Anonymous]

its called karma, and its biting you in the ass! lol my question is, did you MAKE IT CLEAR BEFORE the one night stand that it would BE a one night stand? if you didn't. you have only yourself to blame.

men DO have feelings you know, and they too can get emotionally attached.

[Asker]

Are you joking? Never in my life have I ever tried to make anything out of any one night stand I have had (and I have had a lot...) Before every f***, I clearly tell them that I want nothing but a good f*** and then for them to get the hell out of my house. The longest I have ever let a one nighter stay is because a) I'm too sh*t-faced to give a f*** or b) for a shower. I do not do relationships.

[DonMichelle]

You really are a nasty, nasty peice of work aren't you! ;) ! Hahaha, ''I clearly tell them that I want nothing but a good f*** and then for them to get the hell out of my house''... fantastic attitude, I love it ;)

[SuperCurious]

Wow...thats sad :(

[StupidButCunning]

Threaten with a restraining order. If he does not listen, file a restraining order. Best you can do. His type doesn't understand how to quit and has somehow been convinced that if he tries long enough, he'll win. My friend, Becky, has had this problem with a guy she has dubbed PITA (Pain in the ass) for the past 7 years. He's not quite as stalker-ish as your case, but he still doesn't get that "No, I'm a lesbian" means there's no chance in Hell.

[Marciano1]

Tell a female police officer, eveytime he bothers you, you call the police about it..cos that's harassment. He will then understand that you seriously don;t want him around. Tell your friends and family as well.

Those people what your attention..don;t answer and ignore..if he keeps coming don;t warn him, call the police.

[dryad]

Lie to him about getting back with your ex-boyfriend whose a cop. Or that you have children (as some men don't want to get involved with a single mother, unless you already are). Or that you just came from the clinic and discovered you got an STD. Or that you're traveling back to Venus and never coming back.

[dryad]

(response to update) I wasn't answering the question. You brought me back here with your update.

[dryad]

I didn't answer your question

[Anonymous]

There are hundreds of bars in an average city. Go somewhere else, or call the cops. I have a pretty bad superiority complex too, but I'm not in to casual sex because I am waiting. I've encountered a woman like the one you described, she was very physically attractive and was used to wrapping men around her little pinky in her nerd social circle. When I showed no interest in her she started to Facebook stalk me and after awhile wouldn't accept the fact that I legitimately had no interest in her.

She went as far to accuse me of being gay and then made up something about me having a small penis and telling her friend that I had tried to molest her. Had to lay a guy out over it because he took a swing at me, and stopped hanging out with the entire group of people.

If someone is a continual source of negativity in your life, it's easier to just give them the boot.

[simples3]

Sounds like you rocked his world, that night. Maybe he just wants round two. cudos to you ;)

However there's an easy way to sort it out without involving cops etc, when your next out make sure you have a guy friend with you that wil play the part as your new date/bf. It will knock your stalkers confidence, and he will probably move on. gd luck

[Asker]

I already attempted that. I got my little brother to do it because he is one terrifying motherf***er. He is built like a tank and is extremely intimidating. But that impudent idiot can scent a lie from a kilometre away. And, he seems to know that I'm not one to date, little own date someone like my brother. But good idea, none the less.

[Anonymous]

ive had one of these before! girl.. all you have to do is ignore him. and when you run into him go to another guy tell wtf is up and he'll play along. its a good way to meet a cutie too lol but seriously I've had to do this sh*t before.. it sucks! but eventually theyll move on.

[Anonymous]

Tell him if he stops bothering you maybe you'll think of dating him, but if he continues to bother you then you won't even think it and only find him annoying and will probably not give him the light of day to take you out. Then block his number and don't go to that same bar no more.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

It seems to me that you want this guy to keep "Bothering" or "Stalking" you. Every advice that someone gives you,you come up with some bullsh*t excuse of how it won't work so it sounds like you really don't want to get rid of that guy, 'Nuff Said.

[Electric_Dreams]

Oh how about that! Guy'd have deep, passionate feelings to! So the stereo-type that they just wanna' bang as many women as possible in preferably one night stands isn't true after all... well how about that.

[Livvypuent]

Stupid f***er...I notice men are always bitching about their girlfriends being too clingy and wanting to spend too much time with them...I have often observed it can go both ways on that...this being an example