Flirting with someone?

Question

What is something that you do when you flirt with someone, and no one would know or find out.

SometimesASiren · Accepted Answer

As I've matured, my flirting has become more mental. It's based on shared experiences and knowledge others don't know about, which is a precursor to intimacy. This can be as simple as quickly creating inside jokes and embarking on "mini adventures" together. From there, it's a combination of sexual suggestion and being the person they can emotionally lean on. I also do quite a bit of probing to find things in common.

I make a point not to be overly suggestive or sexual. I'll actually make an innuendo, and walk away, leaving them reeling, but the option of escalation off the table. That must be balanced with mentally and emotionally intimate connection to prevent him from losing respect for you.

Although there's more, the last one I want to touch on really isn't flirting, but more of a seduction strategy. Perfume. Actually, a specific perfume you wear every time you're around the man you like. Scent is the most memorable and recognizable sense. Once you get a man interested, your unique perfume becomes positive reinforcement. Spray yourself before seeing him. Lightly spritz letters or gifts. Good, clean, fresh scents are associated with happiness and relaxation. So much so, that Disney Parks and high-end resorts actually use something called "scent marketing" by pumping their facilities with highly specific, engineered scents to get people hooked on their services. You can do the same for yourself. But beware- this can drive people a little bit wild.