Flirting with friend that is in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that I’m into but she lives in another state. We flirt a lot and she said that she’s coming to visit me in a couple months which is cool but she has a boyfriend. I like her a lot but I don’t want to turn her into a cheater. What are your suggestions.

[Guy13]

Obviously, you should keep your penis in your pants. I am not sure why one would want to tempt fate in this situation. Clearly, you two will have sex and she will break her commitment to her boyfriend. I guess she can live with that, however, if they do it for you then they will do it too you as well. No chance of long-term success for you two. She will feel so guilty just for coming.

[Asker]

The reason why is cause my dating life is sub par. I do a lot to try to improve it and continue to but I feel like I’m a magnet for cheaters. I’ve been thinking is this all I’m good for? Girls in relationships hit on me a lot and I’m wondering if I’m doing something to warrant this. I’ve always declined cause I don’t want to be the “home wrecker guy”. In this particular case we were flirting long before I knew she was seeing this guy. I figured if she would break her commitment with her current guy she’d do it with me and the next guy. I care about her but should I end the friendship?

[Guy13]

What you say is part of the reason for my tone-I think. What is it with the married older women these days. Sexual Revolution since early 60s has messed up everyday life...

Yeah, being someone's side game or friend is not for me. I would let her be and explain that "you have a man"...

[Asker]

She’s not married and she’s younger than me. We’ve been friends for a long time but since last summer I noticed something was happening to the point where we kissed. I’m not expecting that I’m going to steal her away nor do I want to I’d rather her be single if anything were to happen. To play devils advocate I feel like she knows what she’s doing and I don’t want to feel responsible for someone else’s actions.

[Anonymous]

I've slept with a few women who had boyfriends. Whatever, who cares. I'm not their therapist, it's not my job to protect their relationship lol.
Do what you want bro. If she cheats, that's on her, not you.
Just don't be surprised if cheats on you too

[Mayo503]

Just be a friend can you do that

[Asker]

At this point I feel like that’s her choice. I can be a friend, I already have been.

[Mayo503]

Well you could say no ….
And tell her your concern about how you feel…?

[Asker]

I was going to ask her about why all this is happening now and not when she was single. I’m just curious why are all my opportunities for love and connection come from unavailable women.

[Mayo503]

Well could be that they know that and see what they can get out of it…
Or she likes women too so her partner don’t think too much into it ….