Urgh why do we get flustered over people we like, it's bloody annoying?

[19magic]

There's this super cute cashier in the shop and we had some very good flirty bantz we both liked each other's looks but he has a girlfriend and I'm not looking for anything anyway. But every time I see him it brightens my day and his smile is gorgeous but last time I managed to chuck a shopping basket across the room, which he did find amusing admittedly. But this time I was with little one and I managed to overturn a box full of cherry tomatoes on the floor on my way out. He did help me with them and said I'm not the first one to do so. But my god it's embarrassing, I'm not normally that clumsy.

What's your clumsy experiences lol

[Ευδεμονια]

I think honestly you should talk directly with him proposing for a date, so you can stop embarrass yourself and him… since maybe it has been evident you did that on purpose.


I have every day embarrassing moments when I meet neighbours on elevator, cringey silence.

[19magic]

Like I said I don't want to date him and besides he has a girlfriend, and even if he didn't he wouldn't date me as I have a kid. I was pulling the pushchair from the front rather than pushing it from the back so I have less control and it banged the veg. But he sure is cute and has a sense of humour lol

[19magic]

So just chat to then the weather and dinner is normally a good topic

[Ευδεμονια]

Oh ok, I misunderstood your intentions towards you, sure he has good personality since he helped you (a cashier who helps a client, neve happened) and he also spent time with you.

[GurlMaster40]

I agree! It is so annoying. When it is someone you like a lot and typically when they like you back you can feel more flustered. When you just date random guys you can struggle to feel a connection. When you date someone you have liked for a while and have been wanting to make moves or you have been wanting to tell them how you feel. Being around this special person in your life that makes you feel flustered is a good thing. Just don’t get to attached. I’m not saying that it isn’t ok to feel flustered around them. No not at all. Feeling we sometimes can’t even helps so don’t worry about feeling flustered. Just look for signs they might not be the best influence on you or you being around them and feeling to flustered can make you want to change who you are. If the person you like is a good influence on you, around them you can be yourself all you want!!!

[Guardian45]

I forgot what it was like to be that age.

[GurlMaster40]

@Guardian45 lol!

[Blackcosmo]

I feel you! I'm always speechless if I like someone and I do currently. I just avoided him and shut my mouth so I don't embarrass my self.
If he asks me a question I become so flustered and take a little longer than usual to answer. I try so hard to compose my face but good thing I don't blush easily.

[Guardian45]

Don't worry, you'll get better at it. Try taking assertiveness training.

[Blackcosmo]

@Guardian45 I have a really bad case of anxiety but I hope it gets better with time.
Thanks for the suggestion!

[Noodle_fan]

i would look for different shop , to help getting over my crush faster

[Anonymous]

Yeah I get all flustered too when I see a woman that I really like and try to talk I almost start to stutter and I don’t stutter

[bepis_]

Lol bloody. Are you like British or something?

[19magic]

Why is it that bloody obvious, oh hell I bloody did it again 🤣🤣🤣

[bepis_]

Blood is gross 🩸😩😫

[19magic]

It doesn't mean blood though... At least not in its slang term it basically means very but a bigger and/or more frustrating term- of it O' bloody 'ell is probably more how'd I say it but that's more my regional accent

[bepis_]

Lol are u Italian?

[19magic]

Nah you got it first time, born n bred British