Have you ever heard the saying "We accept the love we think we deserve"? I did the exact same thing you were doing and through a lot of my self findings, I had realized that I truly did not believe I was good enough. I was insanely insecure and I went into relationships very damaged, which ultimately led to its demise because these men treated me like garbage and I was the only one putting in any effort. Once I realized how toxic I was, I made a point to stay single and I worked on myself. For a year and a half I worked on my self esteem issues, started walking everyday, eating correctly, the whole 9. I also worked on my anxiety and found methods of coping that worked for me. So after a year and a half I met this guy while I was at work (I worked at a Big Apple/Chester Fried Chicken). One of my coworkers told me she wanted to hook me up with her friend Matt because apparently she thought we would hit it off really well. She was showing me Matt's pictures and all of the sudden, I shit you not, he walked into the store with one of my other coworkers. Weirdly coincidental. I will still on the fence about actively dating anyone at that time so I didn't think too much about it. Matt, my two coworkers and I planned to hang out the following day but both my coworkers ditched last minute, leaving me and Matt by ourselves. Needless to say we have been together ever since (3years) and he treats me like freaking gold. Point being, you need to find yourself. Dig real deep and truly search for your insecurities and face them head on. Once you get past whatever it is that you are dealing with in that head of yours, you will realize your worth and you won't settle for less.
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Stop fantasizing about a version of him that he isn't. He will likely have used tactics to make you romanticize the future he never intended to fulfill. Avoid fantasizing about anything he never did, don't fantasize about trips ahead and judge a guy like he is in the moment. Also judge if he is being genuine with you when you talk to him, or if he is trying to please and win you over. Last but not least go for the cute guy you fancy in the corner, not the guy who practiced his ways that approaches you at the bar.
What exactly is disrespectful about your guy? What did he do/said? How did he not treated you right? Is he generally an asshole?
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