There's a reason why she's dating a guy that treats her badly and also a reason why she hasn't ditched him. Whilst what exists between you two are the things which she's missing from her relationship, these are the things that are more prominent in friendships and you are filling that void for her. The trouble is the things she is ultimately attracted to are not the friend-things you have between you-two The attraction-things are boldness, confidence & attitude, things which you don't have. She's also hoping she can change him to be more like you. In this circumstance you're in a no-win situation.
However what you should take from this is knowledge that what you are and what this guy is, are equally important in the scheme of relationships and if you can find a way to develop the other guy's attributes in addition to your own your chances of finding another girl as good as this one will be vastly improved.
As to you friendship, it's best not to have it to preserve your own sanity. The girl might be hurt but it's her problem to deal with her own issues. Because you can't fix people they can only fix themselves. The best you can hope for is she learns something from having known you.
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Boyfriend is nothing but a word, a title but the one she feels safe around and connected to is the one she truly loves!!! Try to muster the courage to ask her why she would stay with such a mean guy!! I can sense that you're a good man who deserves it!!!
Yikes, she shoulden't be dating this guy if she feels more attached to you, plus, she's leading you on if she "can't" have a relationship with you. Next time she talks to you you should ask her why she can't tell her boyfriend her complaints about him. It sounds almost like she's scared, because early she complained that he was controlling and she may feel that she can't leave. You should tell her to consider you more (because, she even said she feels better around you then her own bf) because of her attachment to you. Why would she be so worried about losing you if your just a friend? Would she be sad if she lost her bf? You should just lay it out because it's really weird that she would do all this and still go home to the guy she doesn't like as much.
It sounds like her boyfriend doesn't appreaciat (did I spell that right?) what he has. And I don't know being a girl you sound like a really good friend I think yo. Should maybe start talking again. But maybe keep your distance. So there isn't so much temptaion.
But if being arround her is hard and it hurts you. I would say don't. I know I'm probably not helping. Maybe try talking with her about her relationship with him. But other wise maybe staying away will stop the hurting.
I hope some of this made sense. And/or helpped. Good luck
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