How to ask my crush for his number?

[Anonymous]

So. I like this guy. I want to ask him for his number. Does ANYONE have ideas on what to say to him to ask him? I just don’t want to embarrass myself.

[CelticCrusader]

Personally if a woman came up to me and asked for my number it would make my day even if i wasn't interested. Tbh im not sure woman realize how much men stress out over having to make the first move all the time, contray ro popular belief you make us just as nervious as we make you when. it comes to dating and were self concious about our appearence and being rejected too.

[Asker]

See? That’s what I want needed to hear. Here’s the thing I don’t know how to ask him? I want to say it that doesn’t make sound like an idiot. I tend to say weird stuff when I get nervous.

[CelticCrusader]

I actually get that too lol my recommendation is maybe sit down and walk yourself through it. You don't necessarily have to plan it out just come up with a rough idea of what you want to say and go with the flow when the opportunity presents itself.

[es20490446e]

You feel embarrassed because you are looking at it from the perspective of what you are getting from it, instead of thinking what good you can provide to him by doing so.

[Asker]

That’s a good point. What’s a good way to ask him?

[es20490446e]

Just talk to him about anything casual, and ask him later on: "would you like us to exchange contacts".

Probably he would be joyful about that.

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you 😊

[es20490446e]

Have a nice day 🦿

[genericname85]

do you think it is embarrassing for someone to be romantically or sexually interested in another person?

[Asker]

No. I’m saying I get embarrassed on asking a person for their number fear of rejection.

[genericname85]

yeah i'm just asking you that question to make you think about that. if it is totally fine to be interested in someone like this for anyone. then why is it embarrassing to ask? sure they could reject you. but that's just a risk you can not avoid. there's no other way to find out. so you're just doing what you gotta do if you don't wanna stay single forever.

[Asker]

Yeah you do have a point. I like him a lot. So I just have to make my move sooner or later. Right?

What’s the best thing to say to him to ask him?

[genericname85]

well i suggest better sooner than later, cause i talk from experience when i tell you that the possible rejection will hurt you more the longer you wait xD

as to how: just do it. don't think about it, cause your mind will just obsessed with thinking about it more and more rather than just doing it finally. you can just be straight up. like straight up tell him why you noticed him, why you are interested in getting to know him better or what you like about him and i think most importantly: leave him a way out. like be cool with him saying no.

[genericname85]

it's totally fine if you seem nervous doing it. that's cute. don't worry about it too much. and if he says no, there was nothing to be won anyway and you can move on.

[Asker]

Yeah I mean that’s right. I have to make the move sooner or later. I can’t be scared forever!

[genericname85]

yeah also you can't be a sitting duck waiting for him to come around xD we don't live in the 50s anymore. women can and should approach men that they want.

[sonkussg]

You don't need to be smooth about it you just need to ask like a friend get a bond with his as friends first and then go in later on

[Asker]

I mean we are technically friends. I just don’t how to ask him. I get nervous and then I embarrassed myself.