How can I tell that he wants to Flirt with me?

[katestar]

How can I tell my guy friend that I like him?

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I'm not going to. I'm not going to stop loving him. I don't care about what you said.

[Guy13]

Doe she spend longer than 3 minutes with you?-that is a long time for a guy !! Smiling, Waving, Staring, Can't look you in the eyes sometimes. ANY time a guy spends 3 minutes with you, he is in. He should ask you out if he is smart enough to realize that you too... were tolerating him so that he would ask you out ;-) I did not say we were bright when it comes to ladies...

[HollyK21]

You’ve already told him you liked him and said that he doesn’t feel the same way so now you’re trying to be his friend. What changed?

[katestar]

I don't know

[HollyK21]

It sounds like you don’t really want to be his friend and would prefer something more...

[katestar]

Yeah.

[HollyK21]

Maybe it’s better to move on then, since he already said he doesn’t want more than friendship Kate..

[katestar]

Wow. You're hurting my feelings

[katestar]

I don't care about that. I will try to convince him.

[HollyK21]

I’m not trying to hurt your feelings Kate, I’m just telling you what you’ve already told me.

[katestar]

It feels like everyone is against me.

[HollyK21]

I’m not against you at all, it’s just that you’re not being realistic or fair to him. You care about his feelings and opinion right? So why choose to ignore him on purpose just because you want a relationship? That’s not loving, it’s just selfish.

[katestar]

It's not true.

[HollyK21]

So then you lied?

[katestar]

It's not selfish

[katestar]

About what?

[HollyK21]

Kate, it is selfish when he’s already told you he’s not looking for a relationship, but you decide to keep trying to pursue one anyway. If you want to keep trying then go ahead, but you will only make him uncomfortable and ruin what friendship you already have.

[katestar]

Don't say that.

[katestar]

He knew that he wants to be friends with me. I accepted that. That was 4 years ago.

[HollyK21]

So you think it would be different now? You haven’t even talked to him in years, you told me that yourself. You also said he won’t date you because you have different backgrounds and you’re a ballet dancer. What’s changed? The situation is still the same.

[katestar]

That was before I realized that I was in love with him.

[HollyK21]

We’ve already talked about that too. But hey do what you want Kate.

[katestar]

I'm not a liar. I'm telling you the truth. My feelings for him is real

[HollyK21]

Go ahead and tell him, see how it goes.

[katestar]

You know what? I don't think that we're going to Talk about it.

[HollyK21]

You’re not going to be happy until you talk to him so go ahead. I think you need to hear his answer.

[katestar]

There's something I want to tell you. And I have to say it

[HollyK21]

Is that what you want to say to him?

[katestar]

Maybe?

[HollyK21]

Then say it. I think this will only hurt you but you won’t feel better until you try, so go for it.

[katestar]

Or "before you say anything. I'd like to say something to you. I know that you said that you can't date me and marry me. I've never stopped loving you since I first met you. We became friends. I care about you. I'm Really sorry about what I said. If you turn me down down again. I'm doing this for you. To impress you. I've had a crush on you since I realized that. If you want to date any girl. It's ok"

[Jennz6]

Kate, it’s time to move on , you are making yourself miserable.

[katestar]

I don't want to.

[Jennz6]

I know

[katestar]

You know? What are you talking about? Everybody is trying to tell me that I'm moving on. Why Everybody picking on me to move on? He's not even my boyfriend. Not yet. He will be my boyfriend

[In_Trance]

you're 32...