I‘m a university student and I give a tutorial for other university students. there is one guy in my class who I have a crush on. he‘s the same age as me by the way. can I give him a hint that I like him or should I just keep it to myself? how can I get over this crush?
Don't try to get over or past the crush. Just talk to him. Don't over think it. Something easy: "hey, want to get coffee after class today?" DON'T be vague like using the word sometimes. If he says yes, you have coffee and maybe it foes from there. If he says no, you've lost nothing and, no, in that case it's NOT because you asked him.
thank you :) but how do I get the opportunity to ask him? because the other students are usually there as well
Legit question. My first answer is going to be just ask him anyway. And I'm guessing your response will be something along the lines of that'd be mortifying. Which is also legit. So, another way is make eye contact and incline your head over toward the side of the room and walk there. Pretty certain he'll follow. Or, best yet, wait by the door and as he passes you, say, "Hey, got a second?"
okay, maybe I‘ll have the confidence to do this, maybe not haha. but thank you so much, you helped me
can I also just give him a note that says „text me <3“ and my number? or do I have to ask him out loud? 😄
Here's a better idea... just tell him straight up. None of this hint Morris code BS. Just flat out say that "I like you." And you wanna go out sometime
but what if he doesn‘t like me back?
true. how would you like to be approached if you were him? :)
Well every guy is different. But for starters, don't approach him with a loaded gun, aim it at him and be like, "You better date me or else!" Lol. But in all seriousness, a safe bet would be just to walk up to him on your own, be friendly, smile, make a joke or two to get him to laugh, and to ask him out. I promise you, the last thing ANY guy wants is to deal with a woman who seems unfriendly or salty or has a dry personality.
okay thank you! I already try to smile at him a lot and be really nice to him. I‘m nice in general but I try to be extra nice to him and show him that I am interested by asking questions etc :D and I think he likes me too, I’m just unsure if he likes me romantically or not. I‘ve never asked someone out but I will try to do it or at least give him a hint! it‘s just a bit difficult because I‘m never just alone with him, the others are there as well so I will have to wait for an opportunity where it is only him and me haha wish me luck
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You can but better to just tell him
I think it may actually be awkward for both of you in the class if it doesn't work out. How long are you going to have classes together for? I'd try to ask after.
yea that‘s what I was thinking. we are going to have classes until may, so next year. that‘s soo long!! I‘m unsure how to ask him though because the other students are obviously there as well. how can I ask him? can I maybe just give him a note with my number after the semester?
Do you add people from university on social media a lot? Maybe add him now, DM him later.
I'm not a big asker, though, so I don't know. I feel like people are scared to phone call nowadays. I know I would be. 😅
yes but only people from my semester. so do you mean I should ask all of them? there are 6 students in this class. because it would be suspicious if I only ask him, right?😄
I‘ve never asked someone out before either lol
Can't you just find him without asking? Don't be like "I need y'all's instagrams... for research purposes."
Or maybe you could go "new age romance" and instead of a note with a phone number, give him a note with your @ and say dm me. That way he can see who tf you are.
Honestly, if a girl that I didn't like gave me her insta that would be cool. It's just fun to look at. I might be onto something.
I already tried to find him thorough mutual friends haha but I didn‘t find him..
that‘s a really good idea :) I think I will do that. so until may I should just not do anything, right?
yeah... try manifesting him in the mean time 🤭
5 months is a long wait
or risk it? 🤷♂️
hahaha I‘ll try
I know, it‘s so long.. 😭 but I‘m scared that he doesn‘t like me the same and maybe he will tell the others and they will make fun of me or something 😭 how do I get HIM to ask ME out? haha
"how do I get HIM to ask ME out?" girls smh 🤣
nahhh, you can't do that
asking now is awkward, and waiting is awkward
distract yourself somehow i guess
hahaha 😂
yea.. I‘ll just wait. maybe I should just go with the flow haha maybe there will be a good opportunity so that I can ask him and if the opportunity doesn‘t come maybe it‘s not meant to be
oh come on, you will definitely ask him by may
I was in a similar situation where i caught a crush on a zumba class trainer at the gym.
I was just enjoying her classes while crushing on her, was going with the flow, like you said.
She quit, and I saw that as an opportunity to text her up and ask her out.
It didn't work out, but I learned a lot from that experience.
it’s so good that you asked her out :) what did you learn? to always use your opportunities?
my friend says I shouldn‘t ask him because men like to chase so if he knows I‘m into him he will not be interested.. but that‘s not true, right?
I learned that if you ask someone, don't keep asking them 🤣
And don't try to manipulate them into liking you by elaborately telling them how you feel about them. 🤦♂️
Just ask casually, nonchalantly once.
Is your friend single? Don't listen to single's dating advice of your own gender. They will come up with all kinds of rules, while people in relationships or opposite gender will be like "just ask lol."
haha okay I will keep that in mind 😄 if you were him, would you prefer being asked in person or is a note fine?
yeaa lol she‘s actually single 😂
LMAOOOO @ your friend being single and giving advice 🤣🤣🤣
but I'm sure she means well
I think a note is better. In person is kinda awkward, and you're forced to respond right this second. With a note he can take his time to think about it.
haha😂😂 yea she always means well but I guess she‘s not a reliable source 😂
yea that‘s so true!! but what do I say when I give it to him? because if I just give it to him it would be awkward as well 😂
I‘m sorry for asking you so many questions hahaha thank you for answering me!!
Nah, I enjoy this conversation. 👍
I don't know what you should say... You wanted to give him a note with a phone number. How did you plan it would go?
I appreciate that :)
I was thinking of giving all of them a small present at the end of the semester anyways, like chocolate or something. maybe I could just put it in his one?
A chocolate with a note? That would be sooooo cute. Dude, I want one wtfff 😭
awww I’m glad! I‘d give you one as well but you probably live far away from me 😂😂
but I will have to wait sooo long until may 😭😭
but then at least he will be happy about it, right? even if he doesn‘t like me back
I don't want just chocolate lmao, I want a chocolate with a note of a girl asking me out. 🤣
Yeah, that's really cute. I don't see how he can say no to that.
Hope he doesn't find a girlfriend by then. What if he already has one? 🤔
You got to scout it out.
try manifesting that 😄
yea that‘s exactly what I‘m thinking.. I just want to do it soon :( but it would be too weird for both of us if it doesn‘t work out.
how do I scout it out? I can‘t just straight up ask him if he has a girlfriend haha
You cheeky. 🤣
Plot twist: I try manifesting that, and I'm that guy all along. 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe Christmas or New Year's gifts will work if want to try that?
You scout social media, but that's too stalkerish. Don't get too invested.
haha 😆 and in the next lesson you reveal that it was you all along 😂
but it would be so awkward if he rejects me and then we will still see each other so much.. on the one hand, I don‘t wanna lose my chance but I don‘t wanna make things awkward. I guess I will have to give up until may 😭 you‘d wait too, right? like you said earlier
I'm not the most daring, so I would wait. Or manifest lmao. 🤣
But you do what you would do.
And, let's say, best case scenario, if he accepts, wouldn't that still be awkward teaching your "boyfriend"? 🤔😅
hahaha yes that would be weird as well 😂 I‘ll just wait.
you seem so nice :) can I follow you here?
Of course
You can of course give him a hint.
but howww
I will try that. thank you :) I‘ve noticed that he‘s always really nice to me, gives me compliments and listens to me. he also goes to the tutorial every week. but he often doesn‘t really look me in the eyes when he talks.. is that a bad sign?
okay thank youu!
why would you get over the crush instead of acting on it? it's nature's way of telling you to do something about it
I know but I‘m scared that he will reject me and then maybe it would be weird because he‘s still in my tutorial..
it's not a big deal. just go for it.
Just tell him in private and see what he says.
how do I tell him?
but what if he doesn‘t like me.. wouldn‘t it be uncomfortable for him to still come to the tutorial then?
okay thank you. I‘ve never done this before lol. how would you feel if you were him and a girl asks you for your number/insta but you‘re not interested in her? would you just feel flattered or would it be weird?
