How to flirt with a guy?

[h3yyou]

there’s a guy working in a bar downstairs, and I think I’ve got a crush on him. How do I flirt with him to show I’m into him? FYI, we always say hi to each other, so he knows me.

should I follow his IG or what?

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P. S. I found that he was on Tinder, but I didn’t want to swipe right, just not to look too obvious

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I swiped right his profile on Tinder, we didn’t match

[Summeroflove]

Smile and just I would say. Stop messing around and make a move on him directly.

[h3yyou]

I’ll try to smile more :D

[Summeroflove]

Yes but I would also directly make a move too

[h3yyou]

Like how?

[Summeroflove]

Well smile. Say hi. Then ask him hey I’m curious have a girlfriend? If he says no. Say you’re into him try to get his number and see if he wants to hang out sometime maybe

[h3yyou]

🙌🏻

[Summeroflove]

Wish you the best!!!

[h3yyou]

thanks

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[Aguy29]

Don't take advice from crazy guys like this. No. You don't do that. You flirt. You touch him you laugh at his jokes and maybe throw in a compliment. If he likes you back he will reciprocate. Simply jumping in and asking kills the fun in the whole thing and really just shows the guy telling you this is like most guys who struggle with girls and their wish is just for someone to come up and go after them which is their dream but why should you do that? You are a girl you can be picky and if this boy you start flirting with isn't into you you will get rejected and if he is interested in you and he's worth getting he would flirt with you and you'd end up where you want

[Summeroflove]

@Aguy29 bla bla bla. Go away stop following my account to argue

[Summeroflove]

@Aguy29 maybe if you quit playing games you would find someone. All this is great to see if someone’s attracted. But eventually someone’s gotta make the move.

Otherwise many times at least one person will move on. But people like you dude aren’t smart enough to understand it.

[Finchie40]

Start up a conversation with him instead of just saying Hi, say Hi how are you doing today , I was wondering if you were single by any chance and wondering if you would like to go out sometime , if he is attracted to you and in to you he will say sure , if he isn’t into you he will just say sorry I am seeing someone , even though he might be lying to you but just take it as a no and say oh well worth a shot and walk away

[h3yyou]

Thank you

[Finchie40]

One thing I learned in life is if you like someone and you are attracted to them , it’s best to just go for it and take the chance rather then walking away and kicking yourself in the ass for not taking the chance , and honestly guys prefer a girl to ask him out , it’s a huge turn on to him because he already feels she is into him if he likes her back the same , Most guys have a harder time asking a girl out because he feels she might be out of his league or she is probably already with someone else , which is stupid to be that way but that’s how things are for the most part , My thing is we don’t walk around with signs flashing above our heads saying what we are into and what are relationship status is so if a girl has the courage to walk up to me whether I am attracted to her or not I am going to be polite to her for taking that chance to approach me , When people are rude about it right from the start they are the biggest pieces of shit on this planet that think their shit don’t stink , I can’t stand people that are that way , they definitely need a wake up call that they aren’t perfect either

[h3yyou]

Omg, that was very impressive

[Aguy29]

Insane. Guys are the worst. They wouldn't take this advice because they would be afraid of getting shot down and can't comprehend girls feel the same way but are just wishing girls would be like this because obviously it makes it easier. You are a girl. You flirt. You tease him you touch him and you laugh at what he has to say. He should get the hint soon enough

[Aguy29]

I hate to say but you are much better off not listen to the boys. They are very clueless. Ask another girl. I'm a guy but I know better than this at least. Yeah it's a huge turn on when a girl they like asks them. That is no guarantee. Guys aren't as good with flirting as girls. Think of ways to occasionally touch the guy/laugh at his jokes/just flirt with him. If he likes you back it will be obvious. If he doesn't it's obvious too. Most the guys on here are essentially cave men who wish girls would do the hard part because they are used to getting shot down. Their dream is for women to throw themselves at them. The thing is it's always hot desirable women that they want doing it. They want the girl THEY WANT to do that. Well news flash most girls have options and don't need to throw themselves anywhere. They just need to go poke the one they like and encourage him to chase her. It's the smart way to do things and not get rejected. It's more fun and it's the way it's done. No you don't just go up to a guy and say he I like you. Thats insane. Flirt first.

[Vikkrram]

So you swiped right on tinder he must have got notification so problem solved now he knwos what's goin in ur Mind.

[h3yyou]

Nothing yet

[Vikkrram]

Hmm that means he knows all the things and waiting for you to make a moove

[h3yyou]

Hmm, like what?

[h3yyou]

We haven’t got matched

[Vikkrram]

Means he might knows that you interested in him and might be waiting for you to initate a thing. I would say

[h3yyou]

👍🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻

[chilldude33]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN TO NOT LOOK OBVIOUS.

You just missed a super easy opener of "haha just so you here on tinder and swiped ironically haha (but actually for real though)" 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[h3yyou]

I haven’t ignored it😉 I still have the chance I guess

[h3yyou]

Wow, your idea was goooood

[chilldude33]

Do that. The ice literally broke itself for you. Don't even have to come up with anything.

[h3yyou]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[chilldude33]

Good luck 😉

[h3yyou]

thanks :D

[Aguy29]

Every guy on here is like just throw yourself blindly at the guy and offer yourself up. I bet they do wish that. What the problem is, is they are all picturing YOU as THEIR crush. They aren't picturing the girl they aren't interested in. You need to test a guys interest by flirting. Period end of story.

[slatyb]

Just ask him to meet you sometime. If he works later then find out which days he has off and invite him to lunch or dinner or whatever.

[h3yyou]

I’ll try😅

[DarkWinterNights]

I think finding him on Tinder would have been a great ice-breaker tbh.

[h3yyou]

You think so?

[DarkWinterNights]

I’m not the biggest fan of dating sites, but if you’re both on it, it could be easier to strike up a conversation. At least you know he’s single… well, hopefully lol.

[h3yyou]

Thank you

[churbleburble78]

He's a barman, he should be easy to pick up! Ask him if he wants your number

[h3yyou]

Hahaha, I’m really shy

[churbleburble78]

me too! But if you don't ask, you don't get!

I went from only sleeping with 4 women over a 20 year period from 1999/2000 to 2020 (I was 19/20 when I lost my virginity, so a late starter)... TO...8 women in 4 months in 2021, totalling 12!

I HAD to get over shyness, and I did

[h3yyou]

Wow, but you’re a guy. It’s easier for guys to approach girls… you know

[churbleburble78]

Ok, confide in a friend of yours - guy or girl - and they can be your wingman?

[h3yyou]

Hmm, not really. We always say hi to each other but sounds like a very difficult task lol

[Aguy29]

Horrible advice. Girls don't have to ask they just have to flirt. Your assuming this girl is this guy's crush. He may not be interested. If she were to flirt with him she will get her answer. If you are so good with girls you know you didn't get anywhere with them just asking randomly. You need to have her interest. You didn't sleep with 8 women in 4 months if it's even true by saying hey I want sex with you out of the blue you would of needed to flirt and find a women to show you some interest unless of course you went around asking every women in town or something

[panamared1]

do more than say hi, take time to talk, ask him things

[h3yyou]

I’ll try

[Anonymous]

Tell him dude you looking cool
Are you free on weekend for date?

[h3yyou]

That’s gonna be too obvious or too fast / soon

[Opinion Owner]

Darling go fast why to waste time when you know you're into him. ?

[h3yyou]

Hahahaha, I don't know. I don’t like to ask a guy out😅

[Opinion Owner]

Aww you're cute. .
Than give him hint

[h3yyou]

How about IG?🤔 or am I old fashioned?

[Opinion Owner]

You're old fashioned or shy
You find him in tinder right?

[h3yyou]

Shy😂
Yep

[Opinion Owner]

Bro talk to him why so much drama 😂😂😂

[h3yyou]

😂😂😂 thanks anyway

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂