Girls, What is a sign of interest that most Girls will usually do when they like a Guy, That us Guys usually miss?

[Shy_Steve]

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t think guys miss cues unless they want to. Basically, if they miss the cues (in my opinion); they’re not that interested to begin with and they feel lukewarm about you. If they return, you shouldn’t take them seriously, because they’re just saving you as their final option. That’s what my mum and my best friend always said and I agree. Not with everything they say, but yes to that.

[Shy_Steve]

Us Guys miss cues all the time, That's the Problem.
We usually don't recognise the Signals, I have missed plenty of signals because of my Shyness, That's why I'm still single so your Mum and your Sister are wrong about us Guys.

[HappyWoman34]

I’ve been considering what you said and while maybe sometimes it’s not always accurate to think this about all men, most men who say they’re not interested, or ‘confused;’ then come back, from my experience as well as advice from other women, come back because they tried to date someone younger, prettier and more innocent and failed to sustain a romantic relationship with her. I’ve had lots of experience with men and I’ve had several come back repeatedly, after I stop caring about them. It’s like men need to know and get off on the fact that I don’t need them and I don’t act like I do.

[HappyWoman34]

They were more than happy to reject me at the time when I was really interested and made that clear and didn’t seem to care. So naturally, I took that as a lack of interest and attraction and dated other guys. Then they’re back and I’m thinking; ‘it’s ok that I wasn’t his type, but now I’m starting to feel offended. That he thinks he’ll just settle for me; and he’s playing games and acting like a hard arse. Screw him.’

[HappyWoman34]

I’m not saying this to be cruel or to argue. I’m trying to explain how women think. Does this make sense to you, when you think about it? Would you want to date someone who is indirect about what they want and acts like they don’t care about you until it suits them to do so?

[Shy_Steve]

I have sort of had Girls sort flirt with me i think and then I have hardly even responded to them because of my Shyness so the Conversation didn't really progress.

I'm not sure if those Guys liked you or not, But I think the only way to find out is to be Straight with them.

[HappyWoman34]

That surprises me. You always seemed so confident and outgoing when I knew you.

[HappyWoman34]

They didn’t like me. My ex came back thrice, when he couldn’t get Heather or anyone else. He was too stupid to hide it. The other guy was just after sex. I know this, because his new girlfriend texted me to ask if I’d slept with him recently. I hadn’t.

[HappyWoman34]

I’ve pushed myself to be forward with men. I knew that if I wasn’t, then I wouldn’t find a decent man. I wasn’t classically beautiful or kittenish, so usually I’m the one making the first moves, with 3 exceptions to the rule.

[HappyWoman34]

But yeah you’re classically handsome and you have charm, so I imagine you’ll always be popular with the girls.

[Shy_Steve]

Thankyou, But I'm definitely not popular with the Girls so I don't know.

[HappyWoman34]

Oh I see. I guess finding the middle ground between trying too hard and not trying enough is hard. It was for me.

[HappyWoman34]

Funny thing is, Naomi and I were joking once about how if you and your friend modelled to make Asperger’s look sexy, the number of self diagnosed girls that would suddenly appear.

[HappyWoman34]

I can’t say I’m hugely popular myself. Every guy in our community has hit on me, but that doesn’t count. Simon’s really matured recently. I think he’s got a girlfriend.

[HappyWoman34]

1 of my friends said that you looked good in your bathing suit. I noticed that young girl hitting on you at movie night, last year, too. She really had the hots for you.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m just coming home from dinner with friends. I think you just need to find a balance between trying too hard and not trying enough. My point earlier is you have no trouble attracting women physically. Maybe work on your social skills?