What does his response mean? having a hard time understanding?

[Anonymous]

What does he mean by “girl you don’t wanna date me” given the context of the conversation.

[Anonymous]

he told you twice he doesn't want To date you, first he tried to blame work then he said "you don't want to date me" like he's evaluating he'll be a bad partner due to his problems. he's trying to let you down easy

[Asker]

But I never implied wanting to date. I just said hang out haha that’s why I’m confused? I look at dating as something a little more serious. When I’m in fact not looking to do that.

[Opinion Owner]

guys assume hangouts mean date and they get freaked out. I even assumed you wanted to go on a date by your text. you should've called him bro or something lmao

[Asker]

Ugh, I guess i should clarify that I mean “have fun” not going on dates…. Haha

[sirderpsalot123]

Calling him bro is actually really good advice lol

[Asker]

I ended up asking him what he meant and he actually was poking fun at himself headed on a comment o made about him a few days ago. He was joking!

[spartan55]

@asker
Hmmmm... isn't that what I said?

[Asker]

Yes it is😭😭😭

[spartan55]

So now what?

[Asker]

All is good between us @spartan55:)

[Asker]

I think I’m going to let him decide when we hang out again since I already put it on the table that I was willing!

[spartan55]

@asker What was the resolution?

[Asker]

We texted all night. His last text was 1 this morning but it’s nothing worth responding to. I think I will put off going to the office though. I don’t want to seem like I’m smothering him

[spartan55]

Did you ever apologize?

[Asker]

Nooo I didn’t apologize because now I’m under the impression that he was never offended in the first place. But if we ever do see each other again I will apologize for making those comments.

[spartan55]

Yeah I'm sure you will.

[Asker]

I will. I’m not the type of person who thinks I’m above an apology. But I will be honest if I don’t understand why. In this case I do but the sum of his actions led me to believe he wasn’t (which turned out to be true) but even though he ain’t offended I will still apologize because i see how it was uncalled for.

[Asker]

I love how my phone autocorrected isn’t to ain’t haha.

[Anonymous]

He's saying he's so busy with work that you woile regret getting involved with him

[Asker]

I ended up asking him and according to his response that’s not what he meant by it

[Opinion Owner]

Then what did he say it meant

[Asker]

He said he was poking fun at himself bc of a comment I made to him a few days ago.

[Opinion Owner]

Understood

[shortster]

He knows that you two are a bad match.

[Asker]

I ended up asking him lol and that’s not what he meant

[KittygosMeoWW]

Simple, he’s not to be dated