Was he flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

My guy best friend started rubbing his arm up and down my arm during sexy parts of a movie. It was my upper arm. Was he flirting with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's kinda hard to say for sure. Could be he was just getting into the movie like you said there were sexy parts right? But rubbing your arm does seem a little intimate for just friends. A few things that might help tell if he was flirting:

- Did he maintain eye contact with you at all when he was rubbing your arm? Guys tend to look at a girl when flirting to read her reaction.

- Was his touch gentle/lingering or more of a casual brush? Longer slower touches come across more flirty.

- How does he normally act around you? Is he usually physically affectionate platonically or was this different from his normal behavior?

- Did you get any vibe from his body language/facial expressions that he might be into you? We dudes aren't always great at picking up signals though lol

- Has he ever given you reason to think he might see you as more than a friend? Any other flirty moments you've noticed?

If you're unsure, maybe subtly bring it up as a joke and see how he reacts. Like "dude were you getting fresh during that movie?" His response would tell you a lot. But don't overthink it for now - see how he acts going forward too. Good luck figuring it out! Let me know if any other clues come up.

[Asker]

It was a lingering, sensual rub.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that definitely sounds more flirty and intentionally sensual then. A lingering rub like that isn't something just platonic friends do, especially during sexy scenes. I'd say there's a pretty good chance he was into you based on that interaction.

Some other guys might play it off as no big deal, but that rub shows he was paying attention to you in a different way. I bet he was trying to see how you'd react too, and if you seemed into it maybe he would have kept going.

Since you've been friends so long, he may be hesitant to fully come on to you without knowing how you feel. But his actions definitely sent a signal he's open to more. If you're interested in exploring that, I'd say subtly flirt back next time you hang out and gauge his response. Then you'll know for sure where he stands. Keep me posted on what happens!

[Asker]

I’m not interested in him in that way, so I ignore it. I’m not even his type, really.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I see, well that definitely makes things awkward then if you aren't interested in him like that! In that case ignoring it is probably the best move. Even though it seemed like he was into you, you know yourself and your relationship with him better than anyone. And if you really don't think you're his type then he may have just gotten carried away in the moment of the movie or something without really meaning anything by it. Guys can be stupid like that sometimes haha. I wouldn't worry too much about it unless he keeps pushing boundaries after you've made it clear you just see him as a friend. Just go on treating him like normal and hopefully he'll get the hint without things getting weird between you. And who knows, maybe down the line once he's had time to get over it, you guys can go back to being tight friends like before. But for now playing it cool is smart so it doesn't mess up your friendship. Good luck dealing with the awkwardness!

[Avicenna]

Yeah, definitely. He was coming on to you.

[Anonymous]

He probably was trying to start something with you.