He told me that he’s born in September. I then told him I’m born in October. I then said” haha we’re both born on fall in that case lol”
Then he was like” haha nice , we’re both fall’s childs. No wonder fall is my favourate season :)”
No, that is not flirting at all. I think it was just a light moment you both enjoyed. Funny one also.
It’s like he was saying that he’s not suprisef that he likes fall season because I’m born on fall too
Yes.
Then wasn’t it flirting too?
To me that is not flirting but rather two friends enjoying a good funny moment.
However he may have indirectly indicated that he likes you ( as a friend)
We aren’t friends though that’s the thing
Okay, so maybe he thinks of you as a friend then. In that case his friendship will be one sided if you don't think of him as a friend or don't consider friendship with him in future.
Why are you assuming things? He’s a guy that I just started to talk on instagram. He said he wants to get to know me. I doubt he’s just looking for a friend.
No, it is not just assumption. Sometimes friendships can start very fast. It does not matter whether it is few days or few hours.
I suppose it is about connection and how comfortable people are with the other person. I don't know. I think.
I think this guy is interested
Maybe. It is possible.
Yes he was certainly flirting with you. (Very cute question by the way)
Other people are saying that it was friends like or it wasn’t flirting. Do you agree?
No, I do not. I disagree. I think that was flirting. I would interpret that as flirting if it were said to me. And I would never say that to a girl I wasn't intending to flirt with. So I suppose we simply have a difference of opinion here. But I 100% stand-by my answer.
It’s like he was saying that he’s not suprised that he likes fall season because I’m born on fall too
No... I understand exactly what he was saying. I am in no way mixed-up on confused about how this went down... or what it meant. YOU are mixed-up and confused about it. I am confident as hell that I'm right. (but then again, so are the people with the opposite view, I would imagine).
Why in the fuck would he say "no wonder fall in my favorite season" (since YOU and I are born in that season)... if it wasn't flirting. Nobody would do that.
That's clearly not something you say to anyone but a girl you're flirting with. Can you imagine saying that to a guy (this... does work both ways, it's not gender-specific)? Imagine you ask when some dude is born, he says the fall. You say: "ohh no way... me too! no wonder fall is my favorite season"
Now... why would you mention fall being your favorite season right after finding out that you were ALSO born in that season.
Let's say... you were born in March. So he asks when you're born. You say "March"... then what... do you think he was going to say: "Cool, well I was born in the fall; no wonder the fall is my favorite season"? That would make no sense. The ONLY reason fall is his favorite season: is because you are BOTH born in it. It does not work without YOU being born in that season too. If you weren't... then fall wouldn't be his favorite season... or at least he sure as shit wouldn't have randomly told you it was.
The only reason he mentioned at all that fall was his favorite season WAS BECAUSE OF YOU. You make it his favorite season. Or at least you HELP make it his favorite season (along with his ingrained bias having been born in that season himself). But he wouldn't have said it... if you weren't a part of the reason it's his favorite. (like in the born in March example above).
So... when a guy says that your being born in the fall... is a main reason... for the fall being his favorite season (along with his own birth... but again.. your being born in the fall is absolutely critical to this choice in favorite season)...
Then that guy is flirting with you. In what universe do you tell some girl that her fall-birth is a critical reason for fall being your favorite season unless you're flirting with that girl? That's a weird thing to say to a female friend, or to a female cashier. Because it's flirting. I don't know what else to tell ya.
Hahah thanks for your in depth answer
He then asked me” do you agree with me?”
I would take the "do you agree with me" as being FURTHER evidence that his previous comment was indeed flirting.
Imagine you're walking along on a fall day with a friend of yours on a crisp fall day. You take a deep breath, and say "wow... I love the fall. It's my favorite season."
Now, would you ever, in a million years turn to that friend and ask them: "Do you agree with me?"
No. You wouldn't. That would be a weird thing for you to say to your friend. It's completely unnecessary. The question is implied. Or at least the question is invited. You mentioned how much you love fall... which leaves things wide open for your friend to say: "me too" or "you're crazy... it's spring that's the best" etc.
But you would never actually ask them if they agree with you? That's some weirdly awkward shit.
So why did he ask you if you agree with him?
First, because he needed to get-moving ranther than leaving a horribly awkwared pause in the conversation at the very worst time. If he hadn't asked this at the end, then he'd be leaving things on SUCH a clearly flirty note (I love the fall because you were born in that season too). If he hadn't turned it into an actual explicit question... then it's super-awkward to leave a pause so that you can both reflect (in real-time) about the fact that what he just said to you... was very clearly flirting.
So he asks this, to keep from leaving things at a point where it's almost awkward if you don't openly acknowledge that a guy just said something undeniably, unmistakably flirty. By asking you this, it allows you to "pretend" not to notice how blatantly you were just flirted with. It keeps the conversation moving and most of all, allows you to both know... while pretending not to have noticed... that some serious flirting just went down.
What about when he said he though I’m younger. Then I said ” people usually think I’m younger for some reason” and he said ” I’m not surprised at all”
See... now I can't help but feel that you're feigning ignorance. I find it very difficult to believe that you need a second-set-of-eyes to interpret this.
Also... if he also said this to you... then how were you ever unsure that the seasons thing was flirting? Obviously it was flirting if the same guy says this to you. Context. It's all context. So the same guy saying both of these things to you, makes each of them unlikely to be some misinterpretation on your part. When someone gives you multiple signals, it makes the strength and meaning of each individual signal stronger and more certain.
I'm finding it hard to believe you genuinely are as unsure here as you're seeming.
I’m used that flirting has a sexual undertone
Alright. Actually, that's a valid answer.
So, then, his saying this was definitely him flirting again. (I'm not surprised everyone thinks you're so much younger than you are).
It's very much non-sexual flirting (which just means the man's respectful... not that he's a choir-boy or anything. This is actually a way better kind of flirting. It's more "I like you" flirting vs. "I want to get in your pants" type flirting).
So in that sense its in-line with his seasons comment. Just... very clear flirting. But not sexual. Nice. More meaningful in intention (in terms of what the flirting suggests he's looking for in you).
But put together there's zero doubt that this guy was flirting with you in a way you were meant to notice. He wasn't trying to keep it hidden. But was still flirting in a way that suggests he wants you for more than just your body. (don't quote me on all of that. This is what it suggests. I don't know this dude. Maybe he's an asshole. This is just "in general" I'm talking about here)
You're reading into it. It means you're probably one of his favourite people
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Yes my friend I think he is playing with your feelings and making brain wash and flirting
Sounds like friends like.
Why did he said no wonder fall is my favourate season?
Then wasn’t that flirting?
What about when he said he though I’m younger. Then I said ” people söusually think I’m younger for some reason” and he was lot ” I’m not surprised at all”
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