I suck at flirting? How do I do it? Can I get some tips pleassssseeee?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Let me just say straight out. If you’re cute you’re 90% there. You just have to speak. You don’t have to have the same type of game men do to pick up women. Maybe you notice he likes a certain thing that you have an interest in as well. Bring that up. Give him a reason more than superficial (looks) to take an interest in you. Most men are willing to talk to women, especially cute ones. We don’t react like women. OMG this creepy lady tried to talk to me. Why can’t women just leave me alone, etc, etc. Just speak. Most men don’t get attention from women at all because most women are chasing that small % of women.

[Asker]

That's true! I have noticed, that I can talk to a guy when we are doing things together face to face & we have a lot of fun! I've also noticed I don't ask too much about them, because I feel intrusive... so I'll probably let it come out with time, or later. But I talk more about what we are doing at the moment. I think getting too familiar scares me, cause when I do, I feel invested and I get drawn into the guy & I get scared of my balance after that. Cause when I start talking and I dive in, my mind already starts thinking, where is this going to go & pressure gets in and I can't be cool after that. I need to learn to stay cool and collected...

[Opinion Owner]

Ask away. A lot of men will talk to you about their personal life. Maybe not so much about things that hurt them or they feel emotional about. But you can ask things like sports, favorite food, have you traveled, etc. Will you get some resistance w simple questions? Maybe. But again most men would love to get attention from women because again most men don’t get that attention. If you’re working w someone and you two are talking g about what you’re doing there at that moment job wise, maybe ask him what he’s doing this weekend? Maybe he might say nothing, going fishing. Then go from there.

[normalice]

The whole trick to flirting for both genders is to find a reason to share down time with someone. Flirting is inevitable even if it is in jest to pass the time.

And if you are already around people under those conditions consider the possibility that they have been trying to flirt with you.

[Asker]

I think I worry too much about everything and everyone around me. If I just didn't care for anyone or anything around me, I'll go all out! Maybe I need to get tipsy ? hehe

[normalice]

That's usually what getting tipsy is for, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Definitely find a reason to compliment a man (or woman depending on your type). People thrive off of this and then find some common ground. Laugh at their jokes or any attempt to be funny. Keep eye contact, maybe touch their arm when you laugh. Tease them- gently. Offer to help them with something. Be positive and think of yourself as a breath of fresh air. Good luck!

[laly520]

its a skill u gain after trying many times

it won't happen in one night but its fine

look for some lines online (avoid cheesy ones)

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some say practice makes perfect so if you see someone you are interested in practice. Flirt with your eyes & eye contact is a powerful thing if you look with loving eyes. Be yourself, show off your wonderful qualities & be confident.

The next person that catches your eye go up to them & simply say hello.

[Asker]

I can never get up and go to a guy even I may have exchanged some non-verbal flirtatious gestures from a far. I somehow need a man to come to me or we are both next to each other. Do men expect women to come to them these days? (just asking)

[MrDaveAPSI]

Every girl has their own unique way to flirt, but there are some common ones that men sort of notice from time to time or whatever:
Prolonged and intense eye contact
Hair flips
Blushing, broad smiles, laughing
Pretending to avoid
Attention seeking attempts
Mimicking your likes and dislikes
Touching him
You pay attention to his social media, especially liking his posts

[Asker]

What if a man gives me:

- Prolonged intense eye contact, that when I look at him, its too deep, I look away?
- Says something to me pointedly to get me to look at him, when I have been ignoring him?
- Looks at me very confidently to show me his confidence and self assurance he has in himself?
- After handshake, he places his other hand on my forearm and doesn't take it away, and we subsequently lock eyes and he starts communicating through his eyes & assures me of his protectiveness and convey's he's there for me.

[MrDaveAPSI]

That you're just overthinking this

[Asker]

Lol, I just listed down almost everything you said hehe... Yes clearly I'm overthinking (eyes closed emoji)

[Huntingnfishin]

I like when a woman is upfront and honest. Like if they think someone's cute just go up to them and say so!

[Asker]

I did that long time ago! I'll never do that again. Cause this guy had told all his friends and i got checked out by all the boys from the department he studies at in College and he didn't get back to me. It was embarrassing!

[Huntingnfishin]

Putting yourself out there hurts sometimes I understand that. But I feel like you learn from those experiences and it makes you stronger, even if it doesn't feel like it. My theory is you take shots and chances even when you know they'll probably fail and eventually something works out

[Asker]

Yes you live and you learn indeed!

[NathanDavis]

me too...

just be yourself instead... that might work better

[Asker]

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I just ridicule her unmercifully. For some reason she usually thinks I'm just joking. I'm not, but it works for some reason. So that's what I use.

[Asker]

what are the ways you ridicule her?

[DryGermanGuy]

„Is this a banana in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?“ 😂😬

[Asker]

Hell No!!! lol

[virtualwasp]

no idea... if you let me know pass it intel to me.

[virtualwasp]

sorry if you if find out, pass the info to me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Press A on them when prompted, then choose the flattering choice from the list.

[Pterodon]

Wink, lick lips provocatively, bend over etc or you could just smile and introduce yourself and talk to him

[Anonymous]

smile, play with your hair

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ll pass