If I brush his hand and make eye contact while giving him change will he think I'm dtf?

[Radiate143]

There's a cute, new cashier at a cornershop I frequent. He is quiet but I can tell we like each other.

It's always busy and there is always other staff around. They are all guys and have all shown signs of attraction but I don't like any of them. Except the new guy 😍.

I want to get his attention to let him know I'm interested.

I figured I would make sure to really rub his hand when I give him money or take the change. I am afraid he will take it as a sexual invitation.

I want to subtly let him know I'm interested. He had been staring a bit and gave me some free snacks but is all quiet now.

If I do that will he think I'm DTF? Is that slutty? I don't want to give the wrong impression.

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I won't be doing that. He is quite shy. I will just be really friendly and build rapport. No rush.

[dean53AU]

He should realise you are flirting with him and then hopefully he talks to you

[Radiate143]

Yes, i know but im concerned it will invite disrespect

[dean53AU]

True

[Radiate143]

So, he will most likely think it's a sexual invite.

[RedInnocent69]

Well, aren’t you?

[Radiate143]

I don't even know him. Of course I'm not. I'm INTERESTED.

[RedInnocent69]

ITF… LOL!

[Radiate143]

I'm not an alleycat. I want to know him as a person, his character, etc. This is a easte of words on you I think.

[RedInnocent69]

Brush is ok. Rub is overkill. Actually talk to him.

[Radiate143]

I will talk and build rapport first. Thanks

[Radiate143]

You made me realise that maybe I need to be more honest with myself. thanks period. I guess i have some shame about being DTF. Being DTF doesn't mean I can't put that on the back burner and investigate him and be f8ne that if he isn't respectful and compatible then I will have to accept he is sexy but I won't grant him sexual access. That's mine and so many other women's issue. We are to weak to enforce our personal standards then we bitch and whine.

[DrPepper12]

Slutty? No. Juvenile? Yes. Why not just ask him for coffee or a walk? If you're timid leave a note with your number.

[Radiate143]

Leaving a guy my number when he didn't ask for it... no. The environment is not conducive to speaking.

[DrPepper12]

Hmmm... Is there a visible chart of work schedules?

[Radiate143]

I know when he works. Makes no difference.

[Adogdog]

That's a hard one. Maybe write a note and give to him. I would love for a girl to do that for me.

[WhiteBoyChill]

definitely don’t do that

[Radiate143]

Why?

[WhiteBoyChill]

It’ll make the guy uncomfortable

[Radiate143]

It will probably make him too comfortable.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m a guy so I know these things better than you do….

[Radiate143]

Yes, however, of the hundreds of answers I have read on my searches today, you are the only man who has answered that it would make him uncomfortable. Actually, the exact opposite.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I answer from the perspective of an introverted quiet man….. like the very guy that was described

[Radiate143]

Who was staring at me and giving me free food...

[WhiteBoyChill]

Try your luck then

[Radiate143]

I am not going to. I saw him and got him to smile. (😍 gorgeous smile, perfect teeth and he hardly ever does it?) Then I said I want to see that smile everytime I c8me in and he said yes, absolutely. He had trouble making eye contact while before he was fine with it. Then as I turned off, I saw him rubbing his arm like which is total self-soothing behaviour. Not sure if he is uncomfortable with my mild flirting or likes it and is nervous.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I think perhaps maybe you are going to aggressively

[Radiate143]

Ok, well at a certain point, some people are just not ready to have potentially romantic interactions because there was positiviely NOTHING about what I did that was aggressive. He was the one who was fine to show interest initially.

[eagle1951]

what impression do you want to give

[Radiate143]

That I'm interested only. Not that im ready for sex.

[Radiate143]

That its fine for him to pursue me

[eagle1951]

as long as he doesn't want sex

[Radiate143]

He can want what he eants and I can want what I want. He isn't obligated to give me what I want and vica versa. It's called going one's separste ways.