Do most guys never get compliments from girls?

Question

I've heard guys rarely get hit on or even complimented by the opposite sex. Is this true?

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

The broadest study of its kind showed that less than 15% of women have EVER made the first move and a negligible percentage practice it as the norm.

I’m not sure what the stats are on compliments, but my experience suggests most men might think a simple compliment IS a “first move”. Therefore it’s fair to suggest less than 15% of men receive compliments. I can count on one hand the number of compliments i’ve received from women in my lifetime, outside of work. You can chop all of my fingers off and still count the number of compliments i’ve received in my lifetime from women i was neither related to nor in a relationship with. We quite simply are not socializing girls to earn their social status through deeds and words the way we socialize boys. We likely never will. And we will continue to struggle with why “equality” eludes us as a species.

Just one decently large meteor, god, please.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No sadly men don’t really receive compliments. There may be women who say no that’s not true I compliment my man all the time. Good for her. But that isn’t the overall experience for a majority of men. Whether women like it or not I think they’re more selfish than men. Ok wait, not all but a lot. They want you to be in touch w your emotions, but when you bring up things about how you feel in regards to how she acts or what she does that you don’t like, now you’re controlling, misogynistic, etc. Society doesn’t really care about men, but we do what we do regardless of compliments or not. A man isn’t going to cry or get upset if his girl doesn’t notice his haircut or his nails.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well my ex got my compliments all the time by me.

If he posted workout vids, I told him he’s a badass

After sex, I told him he had hero d-k

When he posted shooting vids I told him his arms look like soldier arms

All the damn time I complimented him. When he got tattoos I told him he looked like a badboy player 😂

Etc etc etc

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No, it’s not true.

I was seeing a guy for months and gave him affirmations (verbal and text) daily, and yet he still complained that guys don’t get affirmation or compliments. So either some guys are playing dumb or they’re not listening to white women. I ultimately got tired of feeding the guy’s insecure ego.

HawkPerception · Answer

There are many guys that don't receive compliments ever and they're not to be confused with the ones that get compliments and then say they don't.

Throughout my life (more so after my 20s), I've been told by girls (mostly friends and partners) that I have really nice eyes (the most common compliment I get), that I'm extremely intelligent and knowledgeable about a lot of topics, I'm extremely kind, and that I'm really attractive.

I choose to believe them when it comes to most compliments, but when it comes to looks for some reason, I just can't bring myself to believe them. I always feel like they're just saying it to be nice.

BikingTrail · Answer

I don't really, but Im used to it, I remember when i was about 20 working retail. I was at the cash register but turned to get something for a customer who was a girl. I was a few meters away and heard her say "he's got a nice ass" to another one, which I didn't mind obviously but i was quite surprised. A couple other times around this age, girls yelled at me in public but I couldn't hear what they said, but I can assume it was about my looks since they were'nt angry yells

About two years ago I was walking through a parking lot and a girl sitting in a truck saw me and yelled "looking good" semi loudly after i walked by and since there was no one else around it was directed at me

Other than that I've just gotten smiles, which probably doesn't count as a compliment other than she might like what she sees.. once in a while. vast majority dont want to say anything, at least to me

Darknut3 · Answer

Yes I dress very nicely and not once has a woman told me that I look nice. I was chatting with my boss which we are both married mind you, but the signals were there, she is all the time hair touching, doing a head tilt, having doe eyes etc. When we talk. Have to admit I really enjoy how she makes me feel when we do talk puts me in a real good mood the rest of the day. Anyways, that day in the 10 minutes we talked another coworker of mine come up in the midst of talking and she said eww I like that sweater. I like that color. Then the guy started chatting and what I say cockblocking my conversation about where he got it and stuff.

RyanR03 · Answer

Honestly most guys just aren’t or didn’t nurture anything from girls who did compliment them because they were too busy chasing women who never will compliment them. I am not some Adonis or paradigm male archetype. I am 5’9” (5’10” when I lie or with boots on 😆) and not bad looking but not top of food chart.📊. But still, hell I always knew women that would complement me or be flirty. It’s just that I didn't make special note of them. I was always kind about it but I don’t know that I regularly remembered those. But response to this post I can tell you that I have always known women who would treat me well. I like a lot of dudes just wanted attention from women looking elsewhere. If I can give any word of advise guys I would say if they like you, they will show you. If they do not like it, you will never see it. Dont be a schmuck. Stop fighting the process. Plenty of nice women out there and divas are not worth the price of Admission.

Damaged00 · Answer

I do compliment men once I get to know them. Complimenting a stranger has backfired many times. I'm genuine in my compliments and its not always about me being interesed but men tend to take it as interest and can't just take the compliment. I'm not saying all men. But in my own experience it has made me become more reserved with them.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I try give compliments where ever I can to everyone. Guy at work got a haircut? I tell him I like the new haircut as I would with the women. Got a new tattoo? Cool tattoo!

Spread the love. People like when you notice things and they're more likely to reciprocate the kindness 😊

GeminiDiamond · Answer

False. Saying "Most" guys is patronizing to guys, nearly, by the way. You're not most guys. You have to have CONFIDENCE. And good guys are noticed above looks; a good heart and confidence makes you shine in an attractive light. So long as you aren't flakes and go ugly.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Never or rarely? Two different things. Try asking woman for their opinion on something about you. "Does this look okay? It feels a little... ? What do you think?" Some woman are out of the habit or they are cautious men will take a simple compliment as a reason to endlessly cling.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

It’s very true. Having been on both sides of it, I get complimented by both men and women more than I ever did before. The problem I find is that I know that men compliment me and they are hitting on me. However I can never tell what the intentions of other women are.

Pohjolan · Answer

Well not never but gals compliment a guy for making it to the podium in a championship competition while other dudes will compliment for just getting enough points in the qualifications to participate after one of the main players got sick.

And hit on? I have once witnessed a guy get hit on by a gal and he looked like Matt Damon and she was drunk.

Universaldance · Answer

I get a couple every year from my mom and sister every time I see them

But nothing else verbal

And as far as in public eyes maybe some gazing from younger girls or older married women but rarely in between

Stef12 · Answer

Well I've always had compliments. From girls on Facebook saying I'm amazing, my humour, my songwriting and musicianship, my looks. My personality, knowledge etc. And I've had girls come up to me in clubs and compliment me. I ignored it all because I didn't know if they were serious, taking the piss or joking.

Nirmroth · Answer

Ye I can count on one hand how many compliments I got from girls that aren't family, dates, girlfriend or a nice eldery lady.

So I have gotten compliments but its so rare that I still remember every moment and cherrish it.

Billlewis · Answer

We don't need 'em; we're wired differently. Just keep complimenting them and work hard to keep them comfortable, happy and satisfied. Easy stuff.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not true at all. At least not with women I know.

Dongie · Answer

I have to say that's pretty true for some of us. I haven't been asked out since the 3rd grade. I guess I was cute at that age. I guess that's a compliment. Actually asked to be her boyfriend since 3rd graders don't date.

just_a_potato · Answer

I have no idea I'm not a man. But when someone looks approachable I compliment them. I like making people's day.

RingOfFire · Answer

Guys are designed by nature to be the hunters and aggressors in the relationship. Girls are naturally shy about approaching. It's the guy's job.

Randomdude849245 · Answer

I've been complemented from time to time by women. Hell, I've even been catcalled by women (which isn't really as flattering as you'd think it would be, by the way)  But yeah it happens. Not much tho.

82lynx · Answer

I get occasional compliments on the wagon I use to haul groceries but that’s about it. Having customized it probably helps.

MisterWack · Answer

Depends on the situation, setting, etc. I’ve gotten friendly compliments from girls.

ManHater · Answer

I do all the time, start dressing nice and start to smile. I get compliments on women on my smile all the time.

bolverk · Answer

Its true that most Men have never received any compliments from women, and if any are given they given grudgingly,

TDDMS · Answer

I receive compliments for my abilities in bed. But out side of that, it's very rare for me to receive compliments from women.

genericname85 · Answer

i wouldn't say "never" but it's rare. much more rare than girls get compliments from men.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Most guys get no attention from women because most women aren’t attracted to most men. Additionally a woman showing interest in a male is a costly thing for her socially.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Correct. Most guys do not get compliments from women.

the29thhuman · Answer

I’d never compliment a guy online or in person. What for?  If I’m out and about, I’m doing something else, I’m not out prowling for dudes.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

I guess that's just how nature works. I do not get hit on or get compliments, except one or two times in my life.

blowfish1235325 · Answer

The egg is always more valuable than the sperm. A male is valuable only as long as he produces.

_Troian_ · Answer

As men we don't need compliments.. these won't make any affect on me, just focus to result.. is she into you? Yeah.. then you won it.

Anonymous · Answer

True. And when it happens it's typically because the woman WANTS something. So guys become conditioned that if a woman compliments him it almost never genuine, never with altruistic motives.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

It's not common, I think because it makes her look like she's coming on too strong, as in, we're supposed to be the ones chasing them

LiamJHayden · Answer

I get compliments and I am certainly not a Chad or a male model.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Cute guys get compliments in person. It seems everyone online gets compliments.

pethouse · Answer

From my experience you have to be pretty attractive or tall to get a compliment.

Anonymous · Answer

Yep that's the luxury for women since they're on the receiving end of sexual attention and that's how it's always been

Anonymous · Answer

women and girls dont go out of their way to tell compliment a random guy.

serious · Answer

I think that is false in general.

spartan55 · Answer

Well, you're a guy, you should know.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Most don't, but at 71, I still do.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I rarely ever do.

paledreams · Answer

That's me 🫡 honorary salutes

msc545 · Answer

Yes, very true.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yes this is true

_piotr · Answer

Yes. It is.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

We get compliments

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I NEVER DO

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