What are things girls like to hear when first meeting a guy or when going out on a first date?

[rosc074]

This question are for girls. I have met many girls and been on many first dates but I am interested exactly, One, what kind of things grab your attention and hold your attention when a guy comes up to you for the first time. Like the things he says? Two, What kind of compliments are pleasing and what ones do you ignore or "go in one ear and out the other?" I guess basically I'm asking, verbally what do you find attracting too?

[vmw2008]

It's all in the confidence. It's hard to find the perfect middle ground as I've come across many guys who were either a) not confident enough or b) so cocky all I could think was "wow, I don't know anything about this guy & he thinks it's my lucky day that he approached me. go away." Basically, you need to come across as very confident. It makes me uncomfortable to be around someone who is uncomfortable. I feel at ease with a guy that approaches women like people instead of objects. Mostly just introducing yourself & wanting to get to know me is the best thing. It sets you apart from the guys with the pickup lines and the guys with nothing to say.

I like compliments that are original. Not generic. Hearing, "you're hot." does nothing. It makes me think he's said it to every other girl that night. Having him say something I know was just for me is a lot more personal. (not to sound conceited here.) but I know that my best attributes are my eyes and my butt. So even though they are physical things, I know that if the guy compliments them, he was really looking at me. And not just using some compliment he used on every other girl in the room.

[jayjay3]

Tell her something interesting about yourself. Not something that seems like you may be lying to impress her, like you bought George Clooney lunch or made out with Jessica Simpson. Tell her about how you used to stutter as a child or your horrible fear of heights. Just remember to be honest. And ask her questions about herself, and if you have any common interests make them known. But don't lie, girls remember everything you say. Take an interest in her life. Make her laugh.

As far as compliments go, the most flattering are the kind that you can't give without knowing her. Like instead of calling her pretty, although it is nice, saying she has cute dimples is more personal. Or complimenting her movie tastes. Or calling her sweet or noticing her earrings means more to a girl then the typical "you look nice" crap.

[kipperlove3]

the thing that grabs my attention is if yes he comes up to me first and I really like when their telling jokes and he looks at you in the eyes, I also love when he doesn't take his eyes off of me it shows he cares. It's also very good when the guy looks at the girl and is like"wow you look amazing" it boosts the girls confidence because girls can be so self conscious about how they look. Also little things like I remember one time the guy I liked told me my hair looked really pretty today I was really surprised and I was really pleased he noticed and like it. It's nice when guys pick up on the little changes like changing my hairstyle. Also his word choice is important like I hate when guys say your hot I much rather prefer pretty it sounds and seems a lot more special and nice.

[Petertheniceguy]

please please please tell me you aren't looking for pick up lines! they don't work. just introduce yourself, and get to know her. its not that damn hard.

Ask her about where you are (bar or w/e, if she likes the enviroment.)

Get to know her as a person.

or, you can go with the classics.

"How much does a polar bear weigh? Just enough to break the ice!"

"I lost my teddy bear, can I sleep with you?"

"I lost my number, can I have yours?"

[rosc074]

Lol wasnt lookin for pick up lines but thanks anyways

[Petertheniceguy]

My girlfriend really likes the 2nd one.. lol

[lvrgirl2011]

Well, It's really easy to tell when a guy is trying to feed you bs. Compliments that are pleasing would be when a guy tells me that my eyes are beautiful. I know they mean it because I get it all the time lol. Pick up lines are stupid and won't get you anywhere. Guys can really get me with their confidence.

[Anonymous]

make sure you ask about her. ask her what she does, what she is interested in, what kind of music she likes...blahblah

then from there you might catch things you have in common to further conversation.

also you can compliment what she likes...for example if she tells you some music she likes you can say she has good taste

[emilyxo]

Just never say nice meeting you at the end of the date that seems/makes a girl think that your never gonna see her again or it might be awhile

[taytayjojo96]

i LOVE it when a guy says he likes your smile or eyes I also need a guy to tell me somthing about himself, not just trying to sound cool this is just what I li hope it helps ;)