Does this mean he likes me but suppressing right now?

[Anonymous]

I have a guy friend and we definitely have a connection whenever we look at each other and would dedicate our times to meet up. Recently, he got a job offer in the uk and will be leaving next week. We are both living in the US and yesterday was our final hangout. I confessed to him saying “you don’t need to reciprocate but i want to say this so i dont regret. During our times there were moments where i was a little confused about my feelings but i came to a conclusion that I liked you. I really like you as you and you sparked a feeling inside me.” He thanked me saying it’s admireable i was honest and confessed “I also got confused about my feelings and can relate but right now i don’t want to say anything or give an answer because sadly as you know, I am leaving to the UK next week.” We then brushed it off and he thanked me again and we hugged each other. But during our hug he squeezed me very tightly and didn't let go until i did after a minute of just holding each other. He then brought up my confession again saying “thank you for telling me. I just can't say anything much since i am moving away.” And we hugged again with tears in our eyes. When we got home, we texted each other saying how much we appreciated each other sending mushy things.

In my heart, it seems like he also had feelings but didn't want to say anything since he will be moving away far and starting his new job/life. We will still stay in contact and visit each other but his response sounded like he didn't want to start anything due to wrong timing which i completely understood.

or maybe i am wrong. Any thoughts about how this guy reacted to my shy confession?

[Summeroflove]

It’s possible that he is into you and he probably does have feelings for you but he’s decided that he’s moving and that he doesn’t want to move forwards.

I mean you can talk to him again and just try to at least get closure. But I would be a good friend to him the balls in his court now you told him you did the right thing.

You could ask him if it’s just wrong timing and if he just doesn’t feel it’s meant to be. If that’s what he says you have closure. You can begin the moving on process and at least you know so you’re not wasting your time. You’re not thinking something may come of it when it’s not.

[Asker]

Thank you for the thorough response!

Hmm, that day he brought it up again thanking me for being so brave and admireable. His response was “i have felt the same feelings but i can't give hou a proper answer right now. I can’t do much since i will be leaving soon. I hope this doesn't change our current relationship/friendship. But who knows. We will see each other again. Lets see.” And we had our long hug as mentioned above where he didn't let go. But after that night, his texts and actions has become more friendlier/feels more closer to me now. We have always been okay texting each other but now, it somehow feels we got 2x closer (maybe bc i broke the barriers lol) and gotten more talkative and we both send more mushy/sweet texts and support.

I am afraid to bring it up again bc i think i kind of got my answer that night. But for now, i appreciate he is not acting awkward but in fact more let loose/closer with me and intimate. Maybe this is a good sign he’s figuring out his feelings or wants to stay silent right now as it’s the wrong timing but I don't know, we’ll see!

[Summeroflove]

Yes I feel like you did get your answer but at the same time you can bring things up just about how you feel and respect what he says.

As long as you aren’t like begging to get with him because you’re not all you’re doing is communicating feelings

[Summeroflove]

But it also does seem like he’s wanting to put a hold on things. I do appreciate that he was honest and told it respectfully as it is.

[Asker]

Thank you for your feedback. Super helpful!

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[Asker]

Hello. I just wanted to follow up about this situation and get your opinion. Yesterday he called me “sister” which threw me off. It seems like he gave me his answer by saying this :/

[Summeroflove]

Yeah asker, it’s really a personal decision to make and you have to respect it no matter what the reasoning is behind it. Whether it’s not being attracted or he just isn’t going to act on it because of the risk.

At least at the end of the day you have a friend and closure

[Summeroflove]

You won’t wonder what it could have been and you won’t have to waste time it anymore the way he went about it was super respectful and you did the right thing.

Now you have closure and you know. You can move on

[Asker]

Yeaa. You are right. I feel like he is protecting both of us by not wanting to start something that can be difficult. I will just remain friends and keep him in my heart. Thank you for the response!

[Summeroflove]

Asker that could be the case and you’re welcome. At the end of the day if someone’s polite and honest that’s the best thing a person can do

[strateguy632]

Correct because he will move away