Why do girls get distant after rejecting a guy?

[Jazz_92]

Girls, why do you get distant with guys you have rejected?

[artimis]

its usually becoz I would be shy and sad and uncomfortable around some1 who tried to bewith me and I rejected. so idont want to show up time to time to remind him ha ha I'm here but you couldn't have me!

its like a person loves a food very much, but for some reasons he can not have that food...so what do you think? its better to sit in front of him and have his fav food and torture him or its better to don't show up at all?

u know guys are in 2 groups in this situation( if they reallyy like the girl though)...after being rejected they are either so sad or so angry...in first case I feel so guiltily and sad to be around and see I caused him to be sad

in the second condition when they are angry they try to take revenge...like to show you they don't care about you at all and it was a wrong decision in first place and he was lucky that didn't happen...or even they might try to show up with other girls and laugh to show they are so happyy to say hey I'm happy and you didn't deserve me! :D

so in either of cases I prefer to not be around

[huntusa]

hehehe...this is very well put.

[nickel]

For my personal experience, I get distant because I know I'm a flirt, and I don't want to hurt him by doing that.

I'm an awesome person and if he started liking me based on me being awesome and be being flirty and such then I feel like I owe it to him the time to lick his wounds and not rub in his face how I don't want to date him. (Like if I watch movies with a guy all the time and then reject him, I don't want to keep watching movies with him because that may be the behavior that lead to the rejection and I don't want to encourage him to keep liking me because he make keep getting hurt)

Although there is also that really awkward time after wards. Sometimes I just like to avoid the awkwardness (though avoiding the dude doesn't actually help, it just makes it more awkward haha)

So I guess it is a mix of not wanting to hurt him, not wanting to deal with the fall out feelings of rejection or betrayal or fall out awkwardness.

[udolipixie]

Why do girls get distant after rejecting a guy? Possible reasons:

guilt

awkward

want to avoid giving him the wrong impression like he has a chance

things don't seem able to go back to the way it was now that he asked her out

Girls, why do you get distant with guys you have rejected? Me personally after I rejected you I see no reasons to continue contact with you.

You wanted something I don't want and since mot guys can't handle being friends with the girl and I have stringent friend requirements there's no need for me to involve myself with you.

[Jazz_92]

what if I tell its OK for me to be just friends, I won't hit on anymore bla bla bla will that change anything

[udolipixie]

Dependson the girl.

Even if you aren't hitting on her she still knows your feelings for he are there and that could just make er uncomfortable. She'll realize she can't really do the same old things if you were friends before or treat you like any other guy friend if you weren't friends before.

[sportdistant]

if I girl rejects me, I just obviously take it as she doesn't want to get to know me more, so from there I get turned off too and act distant too. I pretend as they don't exist anymore if we see each other in person. so I just move on and forget about her.

[huntusa]

Here is how it works:

Guys like to chase.Girls like being chased.

Guys like to propose and girls like being proposed.

Guys hate getting rejected and girls hate rejecting a guy.

It's just the way we are made.

[May31]

Personally, The only reason that I get distant is because I don't want to lead him on or have him developing feelings for me again. Sure most guys might not be that way, but you never know. Think of it this way, you know how when a girl tells a guy that she likes him but he doesn't like her so he starts to withdraw? It's like that.

[xzinax2]

cause it's awkward,what do you expect us to do? ''oh ha ha you like me and I totally shot you down,i'm gonna go and be totally adorable and friendly around you cause that's what you like about me and you can't have me lololol''

[CindiluvsFriends]

I'm the same situation except I'm on the receiving end...'met' a guy on a dating site,he liked me,I didn't like him,then after meeting him in person,I REALLY liked him,now he doesn;t like me and is being distant..like he hates me:(

[Blankname1]

Damn

[Rubzie]

Depends on the situation really. Maybe she doesn't like him, ashamed, guilty, awkward. Or maybe even a bit of hatered

[Jazz_92]

shes shy and geeky :P

[Rubzie]

Lol you bully. No wonder she rejected yu ;)

[Jazz_92]

lol what do you mean

[Rubzie]

You called her a geek. So in response I said bully, etc get it now? Lol

[Jazz_92]

shes too cute XD the only way id want to bully her is in bed hahaha

[Hey-you]

I would feel too guilty to keep up the contact. If I kept talking to them, I'd always feel like I owe them for rejecting them.

[Anonymous]

I rejected a guy. I tried to be caring and checked if he was okay. Which I wasn't sure whether it was a good idea. I stopped that a bit and waited until he contacted me again. I thought I may have lost a friend there. But, it looks like I didn't.

[Lovelocked]

we fell well rejected, and not wanted and that still waiting sround seems a little desperate or that your ignoring what's going on

[deej13]

awkward, guilt, the list is endless. mostly awkward though.

[Soph-3]

Rejecting someone isn't easy for some people.

[CarelessWhisper]

Neither is getting rejected

[Jazz_92]

i m kinda used to it

[dIO_oIb]

Sometimes it just gets awkward.

[decentusername]

Guilt

[Hey-you]

so true