Gf will not put up a photo of us together on fb?

[shadowarrior99]

I asked my girlfriend to put a photo up of both of us months ago and asked her again, but she hasn't. She said Facebook shouldn't be a thing between us.

Why wouldn't she want a photo of both of us on there? She did before. She has been putting profile photos up of her and her friends.

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serious answers, please.

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8 months and we have relationship status

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She was cheating on me with her ex and is a pathological liar. That's why she didn't put a picture of us up.

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[bijinbijinbijin]

how long have you two been together? Are you really really in love with each other?

it is true that Facebook can mess up relationships but I believe that can only happen if you don't have a strong foundation within your relationship. It would totally suck if she is doing all this bragging about you and showing you off and you two don't even really know each other like that and then end up not lasting. If you two have not even been together 6 months then maybe she is trying to move slow with you, well at least that would be my reasons for not posting a pic of us up.

If I was really really sure about my man and in love with him then I would at least have one thing up on Facebook that says that I am taken and happy with my decision, but because I am the type of person who does not like people all in my bussiness I will not constantly brag about him in Facebook statuses and post every pic of us up on Facebook. I don't want people to know what good thing I have found, I just like to keep my man all to myself. But that is just me, I'm a private person, and maybe she is too. I also would not announce my man to the world yet if we have not been together a year, I would tell my best friends and family about him but not the world because I want to make sure that we have a strong relationship first and I'd just like to keep our building process private because I don't want anyone or anything to mess us up. But that is just me. I like to move slow in order to build a strong relationship.

If you really have faith in your relationship then I would suggest you not pressure her about Facebook and that you two should continue to build trust, but if you don't have faith in your relationship then you could take the weak insecure route and just assume she is not posting a pic up because she is afraid she won't be getting the same attention from her admirers anymore.

[bijinbijinbijin]

okay so I just saw down at the bottom that you have a relationship status together, well there you have it. She has told the world that you guys are a couple so I don't understand why it is bothering you now. but again, I am just a private person and I don't put any personal things at all on Facebook. If you would say to her "it would mean a whole lot to me if you had a pic of us on Facebook because I really love you and want to show the world" then that should work. But if you approached it diffe

[bijinbijinbijin]

but if you approached it differently then I might feel like you don't trust me. The main reason I am really private on Facebook is because I'm a bussiness woman and Facebook opens me to great networking oppourtunities. Its work for me, so I keep my work and personal life separate and I would need for my man to understand that's how I use Facebook, no flirting or lovey dovey mess goes on at work. Facebook is used differently by different people. Do you understand what Facebook means to her?

[Anonymous]

I experienced a similar situation. I dated a guy once and we took some incredible pictures in the mountains and he posted one on his Facebook (my friend told me, I actually don't have Facebook). After having it on there one day, he changed his profile picture and actually deleted it completely from his page altogether. So weird. He never put another one up there again.

I think it's weird, especially for a GIRL not to put pictures like that up. Most women post a billion pictures of them with their men. It sounds like she doesn't want people to know of your relationship, or maybe she doesn't want one particular person to know.

I say you're justified in feeling something is wrong. It may not be a big deal or anything, but there is definitely a reason she isn't wanting her Facebook friends to see you two together. Maybe try asking her about it, just saying it's weird and you don't understand. Forcing her to do it or giving her ultimatums isn't the way to go, but just asking for an honest answer why she won't post some is fine, and in your right.

Whatever happens, if anything, good luck!

[Opinion Owner]

@update - I'm so sorry :-(

[shadowarrior99]

Yeah, there was nothing I could do. I at least moved on. I should have trusted my gut instincts.

[Opinion Owner]

Our gut instincts can be wrong sometimes, so don't beat yourself up. I'm glad you've moved on - I wish you the best! You can find someone wonderful now, we're not all evil :-)

[shadowarrior99]

I know they can be wrong, that's why I didn't fully trust them. I know better and how to use them now. And yes, I am talking to someone wonderful at college. I'm hoping to sift through the evil girls. haha.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh good!

I hope things go well for you two! Sifting through the evil? Hahahaha! That's awesome, and smart!

[shadowarrior99]

I hope sift was the right word -_- lol. Thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

It's the perfect word, haha!

[vera123]

To be honest, this is not a very good sign. I stopped posting pictures of my boyfriend and I when I stopped being happy with him. He kept asking why, and I just said, "its just the internet, don't worry about it," But the truth was, I felt myself pulling away from him.

As dumb as it sounds, your Facebook is basically a depiction of what you want the world to know about you. If she is hiding something, it is because she doesn't want the world to know about it. Regardless of the reason WHY she doesn't want to show your relationship off, the end result is the same: closing you out.

People should be proud of the relationships they are in. I knew I wasn't proud of mine anymore, and I didn't want to post pictures of him, it just felt fake to me. I broke up with him.

Also, it drives me nuts when people say "its just Facebook," or "its just texting" or something like that. Anytime something seems to be wrong, even if it is through the medium of technology, it is because there really is something wrong. It reflects real life.

[shadowarrior99]

I totally agree!

"As dumb as it sounds... world to know about it." That's exactly what I thought.

And yes, people should be proud of their relationships.

[vera123]

I wish you the best of luck with everything!

[handsomejackk]

Good honest answer.

[vera123]

I am so sorry to hear that she was cheating on you, that is horrible.

[shadowarrior99]

Yeah, there was nothing I could do. I at least moved on and will be stronger from reflecting on things.

[handsomejackk]

It's one of those things that shouldn't matter... but it does.

I think Facebook is a huge waste of time. But very few women think that it is. It matters to them. Big time. If she is hesitant to show off her man to the world, something is amiss, my friend.

If I were you, I wouldn't mention it again. But it could definitely be a warning sign. Be alert, not alarmed.

[shadowarrior99]

of course. that's why I'm alert. I mean, why wouldn't she want a pic of both of us?

[handsomejackk]

Wow. I just realized that quite a few people who answered do not think much of Facebook. The times are changing!

[crazybastard]

maybe you because you are too clingy. or maybe you gained weight and became ugly. it could be anything. maybe the guy she secretly loves (not you) is on her Facebook and she doesn't want him to know that she is taken. girls are so f***ing evil man. confront her like a man.

[Anonymous]

One of my ex's wasn't into the whole relationship sh*t on Facebook either. He told me it was cause he didn't want everyone in his business between me and him. I didn't understand at first, but now I understand what he meant.

It's just Facebook, it doesn't really matter. you shouldn't really worry about it

[shadowarrior99]

ah, okay.

[CrystalMinds]

Friends aren't the same as boyfriends. Boyfriends can be stolen, gossip can ruin a relationship, ..

Does her status say she's in a relationship with you or single or anything at all?

I actually think it's a good idea, Facebook is such a relationship-ruiner! Then it'll be like: "oh, is that your boyfriend? I saw him last week at that bar with that girl", or someone who's just an acquintance will like the photo and it can cause drama, yes, just from a simple "like" button.

If she shows you she loves you, she meets up with you, you hang out, and your relationship is good, PLEASE, don't worry about a stupid thing like Facebook.

[KellyC]

Maybe she does not like putting her personal life out there at this stage in life. And besides, Facebook can be a destroyer of relationships, I know, I have had the experience and it is not pretty. So why no respect her wishes and just keep your relationship protected between the two of you?

[bettyboopdog]

nagging her to put up a pic of both of you won't help.. it comes across as needy.. I never had a pic with my ex up on my profile pic and I was in his and I really loved him.. I just didn't want to be one of those girls who is defined by my love life.. So don't ask her to do that or you'll smother her... If she tells you she loves you and wants your attention etc that should be enough for you to know how she feels about you

[shootforthemoon]

Though unlikely, she might not want to bombard her profile pic with stuff of you two , in case you guys break up.

More than likely, she either a) hates that picture because she thinks she look ugly or b) buddy, this relationship might not last much longer...

[Anonymous]

dude... you can't make her do something...sure it would be nice, but she doesn't want to for whatever reason... just let it be, you voiced what you wanted and it's up to her to decide what she wants to do. Are sound like you are making this into a bigger issue about the relationship... do you not trust her?

[Little-Hippie]

Because now that you asked her to do it, if she does, the terrorists win.

[shadowarrior99]

cant you be serious?

[Couldbe]

He's right. If she does it now the terrorists win.

[bijinbijinbijin]

What a bitch!

[shadowarrior99]

Yep. She isn't worth it, or worth anything for that matter.

[anon1111]

How long have you been dating?

[Anonymous]

You must not be truly official if its not on Facebook D:

[shadowarrior99]

we have a relationship status on fb though.

[Cam187]

What does it all mean?

[Anonymous]

Another example of ridiculous Facebook drama.

[Anonymous]

OMG! IDK!

[shadowarrior99]

what do you mean? :(