How do you tell if a girl is into you when talking to her?

[Anonymous]

What are the signs that a girl is into you when talking to her? I usually ask her about herself but making an assumption just so I can get her talking and see what she likes. It always seems like my conversations are one sided and they don't ever seem to flow like they do when I talk to guys. Is the guy always supposed to start off and carry the conversation? I've heard of the 90/10 rule where the guy does 90 percent of the talking and the girl 10 but at what point does that turn into 50/50? Girls always answer me and they don't really seem to be annoyed of me ever but like I said, it needs to be a conversation not an interogation. None of the girls I talk to ever ask anything about me in return.

[Anonymous]

I don't know where you are meeting these girls - work, school, parties, hobbies, or what. But if you're meeting them somewhere where they can't leave - like you're talking to them on a break during class and they are not responding then it could be that they're not into you. But if you're meeting them at a party or something and they're not asking their own questions but are responding to yours then they could be into you; wouldn't they just wander away if they weren't? I would. I'd find some excuse to leave and say 'see ya.' I wouldn't stay around and answer questions if I wasn't at least a little interested (whether in friendship or dating).

Keep an eye on body language and her eyes - I tend to fidget and to keep looking around at other people if I'm bored/antsy for the guy to leave me alone (and waiting to find my excuse to leave). It's like I'm so uninterested and uncomfortable I can't even look at the guy.

These girls might also be self-centred. I am. I will happily answer a cute guys questions for a while and then realize later that I hardly asked him anything in return and barely learned a thing about him aside from what he volunteered himself.

[Tallblondie]

Hmmm never heard of the 90/10 rule! I am more of a 50/50 girl or maybe a 30/70 because I talk a whole lot but let me tell you this. I really liked this guy who worked the city's recreation center. I would go everyday to "swim practice" but actually just ended up talking to him the whole time. He was so cute that I was laughing, giggling, smiling like an idiot all the time. He at least thought it was cute and eventually asked me out. But for me I talk way way too much and since I liked him I actually wanted to talk to him more and more. One day I talked to him for 4 hours. So if a girl is only give you "10%" then I don't think she is interested in talking to you.

[Asker]

well the 90/10 rule is when you first approach her. I don't think you can just say hi and then expect her to do all the talking. lol Unless the guy is

[Asker]

super hot... sorry I hit the enter button accidentely.

[Asker]

So basically you're saying if she isn't trying to keep you around longer by talking to you and adding to the conversation and asking you questions in return then take it as she's not interested? Also will you do this even if it's the first time you've been approached by the guy?

[Tallblondie]

Oh gotcha but still the 1st approach is the initial attraction and whether or not you want to talk to that person. The very first time I walked in and saw that beautiful man I walked right up and said Hi to him but in my case it helped because he was actually working there and I knew he can never leave the front desk ;) so it was easy for me to chat him up. lol

[Tallblondie]

Yeah if she isn't trying to keep the conversation going then she isn't interested. When a girl is very interested she will keep it going. There were so many times where I (and him) wanted to talk to each other more and we would both say the stupidest things to keep the convo going. One time the convo died and I said "Oh look at that zumba class, people dance so funny." Wow stupid but he started laughing and we talked about zumba for like 30 minutes.

[Asker]

ok so this goes for most girls, not just the ones that are really talkative?

[Tallblondie]

Yeah I'd say so. Just put yourself in her shoes. If a girl came up and chatted with you and you didn't want to/didn't feel attracted/etc whatever the case, you wouldn't keep adding to the convo, would you? No, you wouldn't waste your time...

[Asker]

Thank you for taking all that time to answer my questions, Cute sunglasses btw! I'll give you best answer:)

[Tallblondie]

Thanks!

[sisterray]

You got to make the woman do most of the talking. A woman is interested in you if she is moving her hands while talking to you or touching you. Watch if she looks into your lips also. Watch if she adjusts her hair.