Do any guys here completely ignore attractive women?

Question

If I see an attractive woman at the store, at my college, or even at the gym. I just turn around and walk the other way. I figure there is no sense in talking to them when odds of success are extremely low. It's not that I don't like them, I assume the beautiful women are taken and I don't bother. Any other guys do the same thing as me?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I used to, but had zero success. I think the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result lol.

I've seen what some other guys are talking about. My friend is one of these pretty boys. Girls have strait up told him his face is like a 9 or 10, like they could just masturbate thinking about his face lol. He used to have an average body in high school, but in college he starting hitting the gym, the guy is a friggin beast right now. No homo, but you gotta give credit where it's due, and the guy looks good. To cap it off, he's a lawyer.

I remember we went to some out-door cafe' beer garden type of place, and I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. I also felt like sh*t lol. Man, hot girl after hot girl just walking right up to him and starting a conversation with complete shameless bullsh*t. Sh*t like, "Hey!" or "Hi, you're cute, I'm April." Inside, I was just thinking "f*** you!" to myself. But the truth is, if a guy is worth it, girls will notice, and the questionably attractive ones will sit back and wait for him to approach them, and the hot girls who know they're hot are just gonna walk up to him and snatch him up.

So, no. I don't approach hot girls. Approaching them isn't going to do anything. If you want a hot girl, you better make sure you're bringing some value to the table. You're not "entitled" to a hot girl just because you want one. Life is a give and take. You wanna take? You gotta be able to give her something back. So, I hit the gym, I think of ways to make money, take care of myself, keep myself, my car, and my place clean. And it's happened twice to me, where a cute girl just walks up to you and tries to find some BS excuse to start talking. If a guy is attractive and the girl is interested in him, she'll come up and talk him up.

Girls are much better at that sh*t anyway. I dunno, as a guy, I just feel so uncomfortable making up some BS reason to talk to someone. Like, if I'm gonna talk to someone, or like a hot girl, the most honest thing I gotta say is what? "Nice t*ts. Yo, I think you have a nice @ss. Damn, you have one hot body. Sh*t, you're so f*ckn' hot!" And we all know those don't get you anywhere. Girls are just more socially better than guys in that sense. They know how to start making conversation out of nothin'. It's working pretty well so far. I spend all that time I would have been spending approaching girls just bettering myself.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say I completely ignore them. I mean, I'm aware that they exist. Beyond that though, I'm not getting paid to be their therapist or self-esteem cheerleader. So, I'm not going to walk up to them and be all like, "Hey, I'm ___, what's your name? You're so beautiful. Wow, you look cute." Nor will I, as a joke, walk up and say, "Nice shoes, wanna f*ck?" Why? Because I'm probably one of 1,000 guys that's looked at her, turned his head for her, tried to talk to her, talked to her, complimented her, did her a favor, got her something, etc. That's like less than a f***in' fraction of 1%! So, 99.99% chance that I end up humiliating myself in public, feel horrible about myself, come off looking like a creep or just another one of those guys who wanted to hook up with her, and just receive a confirmation to remind me that she's clearly not interested in me. Why would I do that to myself, unless I'm masochistic?

If girls like that are interested in a guy, they walk up and talk to him. If she ain't talking to me, that means she doesn't find me attractive. End of story.

washize · Accepted Answer

Sometimes if a guy is super attractive, I assume he's already taken, but I don't ignore him or pretend that he doesn't exist.

I investigate that SH*T! lol Contrary to belief most attractive people don't get much attention, because its assumed they are overwhelmed with attention.

With guys, I've noticed the more muscular or in shape they are, the more they are single compared to guys who have a gorgeous face, but regular body.

I'm considered above average attractive, most guys tell me they think I'm married or taken. So didn't bother talking to me. So I figure the same probably applies to them.

Granted some guys are jerks about me approaching them, some guys are nice, some guys are ecstatic for the attention. Every interaction has been different. Because every guy is different. Some guys are shy, some guys are friendly.

They always let me know if they are interested or not. But I'm always glad that I investigated, whether my advances were accepted or not. Even if they're not interested romantically, Some of their hot friends are ; ) Talking to people in the gym during breaks is easy, everyones got that adrenaline pumping.

Besides, just because you find someone irritably attractive doesn't mean that person, or other people do. Its not healthy to assume that, because you find someone attractive, they are a bad, or unapproachable person.

fancykat1 · Accepted Answer

Have you ever tried to approach an attractive woman? How do you know she is taken unless you try. You might get rejected but it might not even be because of you. She might be having a bad day, got out of a bad relationship, her cat died,etc. If she rejects you, she might hook you up with an attractive friend of hers. You could also probably have a higher chance of success if you have a good amount of confidence.

Also, try not to judge a person based on their looks. Don't think you will have a higher chance of getting a girl just because she is ugly and don't think because a girl is beautiful you will have little to no chance of getting her. I know it's easier said than done but it works.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I tend to do the same, even if they return me the smile or if they look back into my eyes I get shy and look somewhere else mainly because I assume they are out of my league, even if they're not, I just understimate myself a lot because I'm very insecure, I know I should be more confident but oh well, though I'm a girl I do the same you do, I tend to ignore attractive guys and any guy in general

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. Back when I was building up my sexual self-esteem and looking to have sex with as many girls as possible, or girls that were as attractive as possible, I'd do anything and everything to grab that kind of girl's attention.. I'd walk up to her, ask her a question, strait-up tell her she's hot, she's beautiful, and try and continue talking. It was a hit and miss. Had nothing to do with these girls being single or not. More than half of these girls were put off by that approach.

Now, that those days of chasing sex are behind, I wouldn't really approach the kind of girl you're talking about. I mean, I'm older now, more experienced, and know that she gets that kind of attention all the time, and it's repulsive. First, I wouldn't approach her, because "I" don't want to feel, or come off as, or be "that kind of guy." Second, I wouldn't approach her, because I don't need to. Girls like that get attention all the time. She could live without my attention. If she's interested in me, she really will come talk to me. She'll navigate her way through the crow of guys who are dying for her attention or to just get into her pants, and she'll find a way to start talking to me. Otherwise, me going over there and trying isn't going to change her mind about whether she's interested in me or not.

Kiran04 · Answer

Attractive women always complicate things.  Men assume, on principle, that attractive women are either taken or being pursued by many suitors.  Neither makes a very pleasing prospect, since your odds of success are significantly lower.  The real key is finding out whether or not they are taken or being pursued.  Finding out if a girl is single is easy once you get the small talk rolling.  You can either be direct, "Are you seeing anyone?" or indirect, "Is that your boyfriend you're texting?"  Both are equally as effective, one just has to know which is easier to work into the conversation at hand.  Breaking the ice is what separates the men from the boys.  Rejection is a dime a dozen in a man's world.  Just get used to it.

GoodManDave · Answer

It depends on the situation. Usually I have a tough time talking to them if I'm attracted to them and if I don't know them very well.

There was one a few months ago where I had difficulty talking to her, but I actually did pretty well, considering. But she had a ring on the "taken" finger; I did want to get to know her more (I still do, though I will probably never see her again); it's extremely rare when the desire to get to know her makes me able to blast through the shyness. The desire may be there if I think she seems cool enough, but it's usually not strong enough compared to the shyness.

For me, odds of success have always been low. Extremely low. At practically everything. Sometimes that makes it easier to talk to women, (If there's no interest, then there's little risk of rejection, as it's off the table) and sometimes, more difficult.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't approach, period.  I don't want to come across as sleazy or creepy.  The risk of coming across that way when you're talking to an average girl is pretty high as it is.  Now, if the girl is the way you're talking about, then it's almost presumed that by going up to her I'm: (1) sleazy, (2) creepy, (3) just interested in having sex with her, (4) only interested in her because of how she looks.  Plus, she's not blind.  If she's interested in me, she'll make it happen.  If she's not talking to me, it just means she isn't interested, so why bother approaching her?  What's the point?

stevo1 · Answer

No. I acknowledge their existence, but I don't ignore them. But by the same token, and a sad one at that, I don't approach. And it's not because I think that she may be out of my league, but I unfortunately remember what happened the last time. Just a bump in the road I need to get past.

Drowningkingfish · Answer

It seems like 85% of attractive women with average or good personalities are taken by attractive men, and 15% left are mean-spirited self-absorbed bitches. So with the 15% you'll either be shocked at how disgusting they are as a person or you'll be disappointed at the fact you got rejected by one of the 85% for not being good enough.

Fbdjjddnd · Answer

Some do. Some don't.

I don't. The reason is I see women as people and not objects. For me, a woman can be flat out gorgeous and I still may not want to ask her out. Usually its because there was nothing there beyond the looks. And I say there is nothing there as in I have no idea because there was nothing to make me go, "She's the one you gotta get to know." My brain does this only when I get a feeling about someone. Only then will I approach.

My default mode is usually not attracted to anyone. I'm apathetic. It's not that I hate people, but I view them as work. You have to entertain them, or actually show them a side of yourself that gives off your personality. The trouble with this is I have no energy to even think to talk to anyone, let alone care about them.

This is just me though.

I'm sorry you have trouble with this and I hope you've gotten better with women. See them as people. That's all.

Anonymous · Answer

'I assume the beautiful women are taken and I don't bother' seems like a good move.  keep your expectations low so you won't be crushed.  besides they probably would just ignore you anyway...

Anonymous · Answer

Many guys do. Heck, I'd say most guys do that to some extent.

tomfeltonforever · Answer

In the words of the New York Lottery, "Hey, you never know."

Anonymous · Answer

Actually, a fair amount of attractive women are single, in my experience. Just saying.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was single I did that.

Anonymous · Answer

i do but because I am ugly and they can get 3 billion better guys than me

Anonymous · Answer

I do the same thing, there's no point.

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