Why do women deny having one night stands when they are clearly sexually active?

[sunlight90]

Every single girl I know over the age of 20 is getting sex at least once a month. I have lived with female roommates and let me tell you that what women tell me and what they actually do are two separate things. I hear women say "Oh, I'm waiting for a nice smart guy with a good job and a sweet personality to marry me" (AKA Me), when behind closed doors they are gossiping about "OMG that hockey player/fireman/police officer is so hot, I want to rip my clothes off in front of him". This dishonesty hurts me because I feel like I could never trust a woman in my life.

Are there any women out there that tell men the truth about their hidden sexual escapades?

[Anonymous]

People talk about what turns them on all the time.
Yes, they may talk about finding the player/fireman/police officer hot and how they'd rip their clothes off for them, but would they ACTUALLY do that? Who knows, they could just be talking.
Talking about what turns you on and actually having sex are two very different things.

Also, saying both of those statements doesn't make them liars. In one they're talking about marriage, in the other, they're talking about who they find sexy/hot.
I don't see them as dishonest.

And they don't have to tell you everything they think about everyone. Women talk to other women, just like men talk to other men, some things they'd just rather talk about with each other or those they're closest to. Maybe they didn't feel comfortable telling you that they thought a certain someone was hot, maybe they thought you wouldn't like it (which you clearly didn't).

[Wondorous]

Women hide the truth behind their sexual pasts because they are either embarrassed or some part of them acknowledges that it makes them look bad. You don’t hide anything you’re proud of. Correct?

I’ll be honest…a ton of women go out and have sex with whoever whenever they want to then they try to act all “innocent” when a guy comes around who’s respect they value. They’ll talk about how it’s their right and only their business to go out and be highly sexual yet not have that same confident tone and boldly tell that to a guy they would actually consider marrying or seriously investing themselves in.

[BellendBob]

So they are frauds, i hope my next girlfriend/ potential wife does not fraud me like this.

I'll find out eventually though

[Wondorous]

BellendBob, I don't know that I would call them frauds but a ton of females are not honest about their sexual pasts.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

why should they tell u about what they do (assuming they're having ons) if all ur going to do is judge them as whores anyway. women will be more open when society and men stop punishing us for it. if u can honestly say u wouldn't care about a girls past and u would love, respect and marry a girl who used to be a ho then ur not the type of guy im talking about. but no girl wants to be negatively judged but we are still sexual beings with hormones... so, u lie about it or evade the question or just don't bring it up

[Rcjh1987]

Why because having one night stands is socially disgraced.. And most men think of us a slutty if we admit it.. Just saying... so we just keep our mouths shut...

[sunlight90]

There is no greater act of kindness and respect towards a man than complete honesty.

[Rcjh1987]

Like men don't lie.. Not saying all do. Just like women don't lie. Love the dreamworld

[sunlight90]

I do not lie, and expect my future female love interests to do the same. I also believe in a traditional marriage with no sexual activity outside the marriage. So it is likely that you wouldn't have the slightest chance with me.

[Koldhearted]

what she said. I'd rather not know if the girl I'm dating/married to had a one night stand

[sunlight90]

Well I guess ignorance is bliss for you then..

[Rcjh1987]

I didn't say you did lie.. Nor did I say I lie either.. Nor did I say I partake in one night stands I'm just saying the reason why girls deny or lie about one night stands.. and marriage should be a traditional and of course no sexual activity outside a marriage if someone wanted to fuck other people don't get married..

[shadowarrior99]

Dude, look up Tyler RSD on Youtube--he explains it well.

It's like women have two personalities--their conservative mode and their adventurous mode. Women usually run all over the guys who portray themselves as a provider and immediately enter conservative mode. So, a guy who activates a girl's adventurous mode can have sex with her in days, whereas a guy who activates a girl's conservative mode needs to wait months or years. Dating can be a fucked up game but you need to know how to play.

At the slightest sign of judgement, women will lie about any sexually promiscuous activities. If you are able to portray yourself as non-judgmental--not judging that woman AT ALL--then she will tell you the truth, or closer to the truth.

[BellendBob]

Get any girl and however many guys she says she slept with

times it by 3

so you better hope she says 0 because 3x0 is 0

[PrettyBama]

A one night stand is having sex with a person you never intend to have sex with again and you know you wouldn't do it again before you do it the first time. The fireman/police/athlete shit is all fantasy... probably won't really happen. People who want to settle down can have fantasies.

[Anonymous]

You can never really tell what a persons sex life is like, unless you are the person they are having sex with... and even then, it's not entirely certain.
I'm a virgin, it's not for marriage but rather I want to be in love the first time. But if you were to listen to me and my friends talk, you'd think i was a total slut. It's fun to talk big to your friends, even if you would never consider doing the things you talked about. I think sometimes, it's because you don't have that physical outlet but you still want to express your sexuality that a girl might enjoy saying stuff like that.
I will say though that, once in a relationship most women will be totally honest about their past if you ask them. But if you're just getting to know someone, it's understandable that you might not want to share the details of your sexual history with someone you barely know.

[Opinion Owner]

The thing to keep in mind is that in the end you want someone that is compatible with you. So if you find out a girl has a larger sexual history, you can chalk it up to differing values or attitudes and move on. It's a useful process of elimination, to help you find the right one. I think it's nicer to look at it that way (differing values) then to actually call a girl a slut or something mean.

[hereismyopinion]

It goes like this if a guy tells a girl that he had sex with plenty of people she will judge him off of that since females well let it go sine females won't. Now if a girl does it the same thing will happen. To me someone's sexual past isn't important because sex doesn't create a person but if it is important to you just try to be a comfortable person that a female can be honest to about their sex life.

[sunlight90]

Sex does not create a person, but it can most certainly destroy a person. I have seen it time and time again.

[DivaMonae]

Because there's a big difference than being sexually active and having one night stands.

You can be in a relationship and have sex, but when you have sex with a complete stranger or even worse a friend it's humiliating to walk out in front of people the next morning.

Who would just go and openly admit it so people can think you're easy?

[DivaMonae]

Oh and as for telling someone other than your best gal pals... Not going to happen.

Especially to another guy.

[Anonymous]

No I don't have one night stand and I'm honest with that, I'm waiting for the right guy. Most women who do is probably just ashamed to admit it. In my opinion, the best way not to let others know is don't do it at all.

[YvonneGonzalez]

I am 23, I only have sex when I had a boyfriend. The longest time I didn't have sex is 2 years-- because I didn't meet any guy that I love (there are guys who wants me or likes me but I clearly know they are not the one I love). I am honest with my partner and that's all I know since I am a young girl. I don't like talking or even think about those stuff that you quoted above, love and sex even kissing can't be separated for me otherwise it's only hurt.

[Creole_Flavor]

Not everyone has one night stands that are sexually active and nobody really wants to know about their partners sexual past let alone someone they just met

[Loveleigh]

I'm fairly certain that it is not "all". I can tell you that I do not believe in one night stands but that does not stop me from telling my friends about the things I would do to David Beckham...

[harakiri]

Lol. You can have lustful thoughts and still wait for the right guy... Are you looking to marry an asexual person who has no sexual urges at all?

[sunlight90]

It is one thing to have sexual thoughts and urges, something that all of us deal with in our day to day lives. It is an entirely different thing to act upon these urges by being promiscuous. A person who is able to suppress their primitive animal-like urges in favor of a higher moral standard or cause is a person with strong character and willpower. This is the defining property that separates us humans from animals, and is by far the most attractive characteristic a human being can possess. Male or Female.

However, few people uphold such values in today's world, much to my dismay, because it is very difficult to find a woman who shares the same values as I.

I believe in a traditional marriage, whereby there is no sexual activity by both the husband and wife outside of the marriage. This is a standard that has sadly fallen apart in the past century, and this collapse is facilitated by secularism, leftism, feminism, and the increase of single-parent families.

[harakiri]

Based on the information provided in your question, it seemed like you were criticizing those women for -expressing- their sexual urges. I do agree with you that being able to control those urges is something that separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom. I have a question for you. Do you view sexting, as in texting of a sexual nature, to be a sexual activity? Or by sexual activity, are you referring to physical acts only?

[sunlight90]

I am referring to physical acts, however "sexting" will often encourage and facilitate sexual behavior, therefore I am against it unless it is between a husband and a wife. The best way to avoid unnecessary sexual activity is to simply not acknowledge or think about it, period. If you do not think about it in the first place, you will not deal with urges. This can be taught through meditation, and for me personally, I have controlled it through my faith in god and belief in Jesus Christ.

Also understand the difference between lust and love. Lust is a sin, Love is a virtue, therefore, sexual activity with a foundation of love (aka Making Love) will be more satisfying and relationship-strengthening then simply "getting off" on the other person's body. Remember that sex is leads to the birth of a new generation, and what enables the human race to survive, thus it should be treated as sacred.

[Anonymous]

Probably because of people like you judging them for it lol. Just a thought...

[Anonymous]

I guess, it is because they can. They feel free to do what they want (in this case who) when they want to. Just like guys. Talk about double standards. P. s. Not every girl is a sex crazed bed hopper.