She says that I am her best friend, but she doesn't get angry when I kiss her or touch her intimately, what she is upto?

[rex007]

Ok, here is a girl who is in early 30 s and i am a guy in late 20 s. I asked her out and she didn't say anything, but then after few weeks, she goes out with me, but calls me as her best friend. OK fine :) so i moved on thinking she is just a friend. But she never was behaving like a friend. She allows me to touch her intimately. So one day when we were both drunken, i kissed her on her cheeks and chin. She was smiling and didn't say anything. So i tried kissing her lips and i did exert some force to kiss her. I thought she would get angry and thought she would ask me to stop doing this. But the exact opposite happened, she smiled and said my hands are stronger. So i attempted a few more times and all that she did was trying to play around closing her mouth and giggling. But when i forcefully kissed her, she didn't say anything and never moved. When i was doing this again and again, she was sitting next to me with our bodies touching each others. If she had felt embarrassed she would have walked away or would have been slapped - if it some other friend of mine. I also even thought what i am doing might constitute an assault. But the next time we got drunken the same thing happened again and then it continues whenever we get drunken. She knew for sure that if we are going to get drunk, i am going to kiss her. So she shouldn't have drunk with me at the first place, but then she loves to drink with me and we usually have good fun when we drink. So i thought it might be the alcohol that might be inducing us. So when we weren't drunken, i kissed her closer to her lips, she smiled and blushed. Didn't ever say a word "NO". I am not quite sure where this is going to end up. I could not make head and tail. Girls what should i probably do? My friends advised me to go slow with her. And a few more facts -She is too sexy and broke up from a long term relationship, ~1.5 years ago. But i am an average looking guy. But she always says looks are deceptive and inner soul is real.

[Forca]

If she's interested, it's hard to tell, there's definitely something holding her back. But what I can't understand is why you continue trying to kiss her when she obviously doesn't want and being forceful isn't going to help matters either.

If I go to kiss a girl and she pulls away or doesn't reciprocate then I won't bother trying again until I get solid signs that she wants me to kiss her.

Since you're good friends have you tried talking to her about what is going on?

[rex007]

Yes i do accept the fact that being forceful isn't going to help matters either. But she should have responded negatively, which she didn't. Yes she didn't reciprocate, but she was blushing so was confused. But i am not going to do that again my friend. And yes i now regret for what i did. Whenever i talk to her she pretends as if though nothing happened. And the last time we were watching a movie there was a scene from the movie that says it takes 5 years to move on with another partner after divorce and she said that is absolutely true. I thought it wouldn't be a cool idea to ask about her past life. If she treats me as a friend she would have told everything about her past life, which she didn't. Yes i do agree something is holding her back which might be her past life and i think so. May be or may be not. I don't know how to figure this out.

[Forca]

She's clearly not over her ex from what I've read and I think it would be wise to back off and keep things strictly platonic.

This would explain why even if she is interested in you, she's not going to take things further.

[Kuroyami]

Friends with benefits go for it my dude!