She's so fucking confusing. What's her deal? Is she a playerette?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this girl for a month and got to hang out with her for the first time this last weekend. She stayed over until about 4AM and we fooled around. Here's more about her in this thread:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1149048-how-do-i-handle-this-woman

Anyways, things went pretty well when I followed the advice to let her text/snap me first. The next morning (yesterday), I was kind of upset because I received a snap that was meant for another dude. Sure she's single and what not, but that's still a slap in the face to a guy you're talking to. I confronted her on it and said I was done snapping, and if she made up her mind and decided to be with a man, she could call me or let me know when I could call her. She was a little upset, but this worked in my favor. I ended up calling her last night. She didn't answer at first, so I was like whatever, I'm done. To my surprise she called back. We ended up having a pretty good talk for over an hour. I was making her laugh and we were getting to know each other a little more. We talked about what each other was looking for relationship wise and we both agreed we didn't want to rush into anything, which is perfectly fine. She said I was making her "really want to be around me" (we really did hit it off pretty well again). We agreed to go on a date next weekend on Sunday. Success right? We texted and snapped before we went to bed. I was pretty satisfied.

Now here's the confusing part. She hadn't sent me anything all day today. I was waiting for her usual snap chat, but it didn't happen so I snapped her around 2PM. She opened it and didn't respond. I haven't sent anything since. I looked on her "best friends" in snap chat and I was no longer on there. 3 other dudes were though, which is pretty annoying. This girl seems like a player, but I really want to make her MINE. What should I do? Should I back off and not say anything to her at all? Should I call? It's really frustrating.

Updates

+1 y

BTW, if we do happen to hang out Sunday, I'm going to fuck the hell out of her out of anger and frustration. No girl has ever had me like this.

[lovemenow]

okay so I had the same thing happen to me but with a guy in your "playerettes" position. And in my situation it did not end well. In other words, I found a picture of him with another girl a few days ago.
However this may not be the case in your situation. I know that I am one of those girls who has a lot of guy friends which causes a problem in a lot of my relationships; but it's who I am. Girls get annoying lol. Needless to say, she may not feel emotionally towards those other guys like she does towards you. She did call you back which is a great sign. I would keep fighting for her only because I wish that is what the guy in my problem had done. Don't give up on her!!

[Asker]

I will try to take your advice, but I'm forced to play a game that is way out of my comfort zone. I'm used to girls that move at a fast pace and are crazy about me in a short period of time. She is very laid back and wants to take things slow, but gives me subtle signs that she's interested. Maybe that's why she has this appeal to me.

[lovemenow]

Yea the way you describe her reminds me of myself. Do try to not give up on her. She'll be worth it.

[Asker]

Oh I wont. I just hate it that she's ignoring me today all of the sudden. I'm not used to being ignored. Why the fuck would she do that?

[lovemenow]

Is Snapchat the only way y'all talk? Text her and ask her what she's doing.

[Asker]

She barely responds to texting. She responds to snaps a lot more. Last night she snapped me asking if I was awake, I snapped her that I had sent her a text 2 hours earlier asking the same thing. She didn't even know it and finally replied to the text after I told her that. I hate snaps to be honest. I would rather call her because I like hearing her voice, and talking has so much more personality than a bunch of written words.

[lovemenow]

calling would be a great idea.

[Asker]

I'm going to give it a day or two before I do that. I will not reward her behavior with my attention. (She obviously has it, otherwise I wouldn't be making these posts, but she doesn't have to know.)

[Azara]

hold up. you dont want to play games, but you think maybe her style of game playing might be why you're into her.. are you aware you know you said that?

[Asker]

@Azara

I'm typically a no bullshit kind of guy. I'm not comfortable playing games, but if that's what it takes to get this specific girl, I'll give it a shot.

[Azara]

yes that i totally understand... but thats 00not what you said. you said you think maybe the way she's pulling you along without being direct is why you're attracted to her.

[Asker]

@Azara

It certainly could be a reason, because I'm not used to this. I'm used to girls being quite direct and going crazy over me.

[Azara]

lol so you're discovering you like mind games.. you just never had a chance to experience that bc they usually fall directly.

[Asker]

@Azara

What determines if I like "mind games" is the outcome of this whole escapade. I'll be sure to keep you updated.

[lovemenow]

yea obviously wait a few days to see if she tries to instigate a conversation. But good luck to you! I hope it pans out better than my similar issue lol.

[Asker]

@lovemenow Thank you :)

[lovemenow]

You're welcome.! (:

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I hate when guys expect you to be all wound up over them and devoted to them when your not even a couple. your expecting privileges that your not even entitled to. you aren't her boyfriend so you don't really have a right to expect her to only talk to you. if you wanna make her yours then step up to the plate and ask for her hand in a relationship. if you aren't willing to do that then you have no right to be angry at her

[Asker]

You obviously hadn't read the questions at all. She said she was looking for a commitment. I made it known that I wanted to be that guy, or "stepping up to the plate" as you called it. She said she wants to take it slow. She says when she get's to that point, she is the most faithful girl in the world. We agreed to get to know each other through hanging out and dating. It's still frustrating that she's still looking. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Over the phone, she told me that she had hung out with another guy since we've hung out, but that he was kind of creepy and they didn't connect. Whether or not she was honest about the encounter is one thing, but she was at least honest enough to tell me that she did see someone else. The only thing I'm upset about is being ignored today after we talked all last night and hit it off. Most likely she's talking to other dudes. How can I not be upset about that? What the hell would you expect?

[Azara]

@ᗰIᑎᑕᕼᗩᑎ'm going to fuck the hell out of her out of anger and frustration. No girl has ever had me like this...

with her consent correct?

do you mean you're going to be rough bc you're angry,. or just that you're going to get a lot of sex bc you're pissed. I'm not sure what you were referring to.

[Asker]

I am not a rapist lol, but most likely things will get intimate again. If she lets me in, I'm going to fuck her harder and better than I've fucked any other girl before. I would be supposedly taking her virginity as well. Have to make that memorable.

[Azara]

you realize if she's a virgin fucking 'hard' will not feel remotely good. and fucking hard may not feel good anyway. why do you equate hard with good. i guess bc you're not on the receiving end. dont fuck her hard if you guys fuck if she's a virgin you have to be extra gentle., not just 'not hard'.

[Asker]

I know how to take a virginity. You obviously start very slow. It's a very passionate moment for both people, you don't just blindly ram the cock into her hole. That would hurt like hell. Throughout the process you can speed up a little bit though, which could make her cum. This part is what I mean by "hard", not redundant ramming that you see in hardcore p*rn. That shit's fake.

[Azara]

its rare a virgin is going to cum vaginal;ly the first time. and sex often hurts several times after not just for a few minutes in the beginning. look at the posts from girls here. it hurt like hell the first ten times... maybe bc their hfs thought good sex was going at it hard or' speeding up '. virgin sex isn't usually about cumin its about making i t not terribly painful. its not a time someone is going to remember as amazing sex, unless they've had other means of penetration.

from the way you expect it to go... if you've been with virgins they probably were not untouched/ unstretched / non penetrated vaginally--. just no penis entry as of yet.

how do you know she wants sex did you guys plan it?

[Asker]

I will definitely keep what you said in mind. You're obviously a girl so you know more about it than I do.

She said "You would have taken my virginity by now if I wasn't on my period" when we hung out all night. We dry humped in all sorts of positions, with her favorite being when I straddled her from behind when she was on her belly. I'm a lot heavier than her (I'm a pretty big and muscular dude) and she liked feeling my weight on her. She said "I feel like you could own me right now". That was pretty hot. I said "so I could probably do whatever I pleased with you right now?" and she agreed. That's when I pulled down her shirt and started sucking on one of her tits. She was a little shocked and said "I didn't say you could do that!", but I whispered in her ear and said I wouldn't do anything you didn't want to. She stared at me intensely for a second before she pulled out her other breast and let me suck on that one too. I'm pretty sure she wants it lol. But if not, that's okay.

[Asker]

Basically, if we hang out, I'm pretty sure we're going to get intimate again. I will only go as far as she will let me. If that leads to sex, I will try to make it the best experience for her.

[Fjords]

Wait a few more days... sometimes people are busy. One snap not being replied to doesn't mean much in my opinion. Give it two or three days and then try one more time. If you don't get a response then I'd say back off at that point

[Asker]

I think this is what I will do. In the meantime I will talk to other girls to try to stay busy. This sucks though because I'm not interested in them nearly as much as I'm interested in her.

[sexyasianboi26]

"She stayed over until about 4AM and we fooled around."- Did you give yourself any effort on seducing her?

Maybe she is just a flirt, its hard to tell.

[Asker]

Oh she was definitely into me, commenting on my physique multiple times even over the phone when I called her. That night though, we were so touchy though. I had her shirt off and was sucking the hell out of her tits and rubbing her pussy through her pants. She wouldn't let me in though (on her period/virgin). She did however touch my cock. First she started outside of the pants, then I took them off and had a blanket over it while she massaged it. When I started getting hard, she said "Omg you're kind of big. You're really thick" and took the blanket off and started massaging/jerking it. She told me she wanted to suck it but that she didn't do it because she knows I had slept with multiple women when she's a virgin. Over the phone last night, she said she was distracted by me because she "knew what I was thinking" and it made her horny.

[Asker]

Also, she sucked my nipples, which was so weird and awesome! No girl had ever done that to me before.

[LookatDuhDonkay]

Dude its pretty obvious that this girl isn't anywhere near girlfriend material. You smashed already... Thats good enough of a social connection as its going to get with a girl like that. If you want future headaches and possibly a broken heart after a few months then pursue at your own risk.

[lovemenow]

wow that was a jackass opinion

[LookatDuhDonkay]

Just being honest... Not like that girl is going to be any nicer to him by playing with his emotions.

[ZackRaines]

You've been a fool and a pawn. Fight back brother!

[Anonymous]

She isn't yours and she doesn't want to be yours