She makes me wait for several hours to get a response, should I let her wait to, reconcidering she seems to lose interest in me?

[Anonymous]

i texted her about something, , i bought her a small gift, some handgloves for the cold weather, she texted me back, thank you but i told you not to by anything for me, i texted back, dont worry, its my decision, i like to give, they are yours, so she did read my text, than no reply, she checked her whats app half an hour later, than i decided to let her text me, she did, now im concidering to let her wait or text her. im not really into these games, but recenyly, things were going fine and since 2 days she keeps telling me she doesn't want to see me, but she still likes me a lot. i feel like i should let her miss me, but im also afraid of pissing her off by not answering , untill she writes me again, just to get my attention. should i play these stupid games or not... concidering she is pushing me away even if she tells me she still likes me a lot

[ArchDruidMordred]

The average guy here would probably tell you something like, "she's not obligated to text you back" but Imma go ahead and say something different. I really think you came on a little too strong by sending her things that she didn't want. You came off as desperate and tbh that's gonna turn a girl off. She likes you but she kinda thinks ur creepy. i'm sorry to tell you this man but ya kinda blew it.

[Asker]

um sorry bro, but i think you are wrong. its like this, she was my gf, and last weeks have been very stressfull, she had a misscariage from me, her daughter is acting hard, at work a lot of stress. she tells me she likes me a lot, but the stress is to much. im actually one of the only relieves she has, being intimate, laughing, talking. but since 2 days she is saying its better we dont see each other for a while, or ever again, no idea. yet again yesterday she was cheerfull i was at her place, we danced a bit, than we kissed, i tried to see if she wanted more, than she said no not now. than that same day, not much later, i left and tried to kiss her and she turned her head away. tyesterday i was at work and i had to much to do, she asked me if i wanted her to help and she came help me. today i bought those handgloves , as a small thank you, she told me before she doesn't want me to buy anything but its my decision not hers. now she is texting me and so far i haven't replied

[ArchDruidMordred]

She's pretending to be cheerful in person so she doesn't hurt your feelings. face it bruh she needs a break from you.

[Asker]

well the problem with her, she is very indecisive, when im at her place, she tells me to go, than i put on my stuff, shoes, jacket, and then i kiss her goodbye, she pulls me in and we end up being intimate. thats how she is, she doesn't want me to come over, but when im at her door, and call her, if you want me to come, open the door if not tell me , ill go, she mostly says yes, as i can recall she always said yes

[Anonymous]

Why do you wait? When I text someone and don't hear from them within a couple of minutes I usually forget about them for several days. Then I might text them again to see what's up in like a week. If I don't hear from them immediately then, I generally forget about them forever.

[Asker]

i wait because she makes me wait, its a stupid game, i like her a lot and i want to keep seeing her but i feel like she is taking me for granted and she needs to miss me, ill text her back soon but i keep it cool

[Opinion Owner]

Correction, you make you wait. Stop bending to her will and live your own life. Why do you like her so much if she doesn't appreciate you for who you are and how you treat her? Does she deserve your efforts if she treats you like crap?

[becca123]

Do not be a Pester Texter. The only shot you have at winning her back now is to stop contacting her. If she texts you, short answers only. Making her wait won't make a difference if she contacts you, so whatever there... Just do not initiate any contact.

[Asker]

well she texted me , Hello, some question, i gave her a hello back , and a 2 word answer. should i ask her what she is up to this evening or... or should i just go to her tomorrow. call hr when im done working and asking her if she wants me to come over, if not ill go home. cya

[becca123]

No. Hard as it is. Do not ask her out. She HSS said she doesn't want to see you now. This isn't some girl code... what it means is she doesn't want to see you now. You need to back off and give her her space or you will blow any chance you might have.

[Asker]

i gave her 2 short answers, should i ask her if she is at home, without actually asking her if she wants me to come by. well im very impulsive, it just could be , ill not text her all day, till late in the evening, or call her when im done, and ask her, im at your door, want me to come over, here i am, if no, bye, have a nice evening. normally she gives in. why would she wait, or even write me without giving her a reason, im clearly on her mind if she writes me. my last text was not a question , i just told her, listen i decide if i want to buy somethint for you or not, no sweat, they are yours. now she tries to open up a conversation, so yes im on her mind, because if she couldnt care less she wouldn't even bother, i feel like she is opening up the door and does actually miss me, yes her opinion of me changes daily sometimes. i feel like, if i dont take the lead, i could blow my chances. at the same time i want her to miss me and the intimacy we have.

[becca123]

My friend, I am a girl. I have been one for quite song time. TRUST ME. Forcing your presence on her will NOT end well for you. Showing up at her door after SHE TOLD YOU she doesn't want to see you right now is creepy and stalkerish. Go no contact if you want to save this.

[Asker]

hmm ok , so for now i just send her a hello, and a 2 word answer. i feel like im not keeping the conversation open by doing so, so clearly takes an effort to start, so is she actually showing me this way, that im on her mind? i was actually thinking about giving her an ultimatum, tomorrow, i tell her, listen if you want me to come over, ill be here till tomorrow 14.00 if you haven't called me than, i ll drive home town. 1 evening, i can remember i went to her place, she told me she had no time went swimming, i asked her, i can drop by later, she said no, i asked her you home tomorrow, no, than i drove back to my own home town, hour drive, and not much later she started texting me, were are you etc... she wanted me to come over, so we dated next day. shouldn't i take her behavior in consideration? her flokkyness , im sorry i just suck at ignoring her or not writing her. and within 2 week she will be on a 2 week holiday, i feel like i dont have much time to lose.

[Asker]

so i shouldn't write her for several days, or just show minor interest, give short answers to her questions, no more smileys and sweet stuff, i really dont know, i went through this before with her, her flaking out, than i texted her, or calling her, i can be at your place , 5 minutes and she agrees. tomorrow i have that chance again or late in the evening , when her kid is in bed. pfff i hate this, why can't we just spend time, she tells me more than once she likes me a lot.

[becca123]

The difference is this time she is telling you she doesn't want to see you right now. Stop ignoring her words, they are not some code girls make up that translates to "please continue to bother me until I decide I never want anything to do with you at all.". I can see though that you are going to contact her and try to see her, so I just honestly wish you the best with her :)

[Asker]

well ok ill wait for some days, she knows i want to see her, i dont have to tell her that, maybe its better i dont inform her on my plans, just drive home, and see if she comes around, or i just send a question, you at home , not asking her anything or suggesting i want to come by, most of the times she asks me im home, and thats her inviting me over. ok, you are right i should give her some time to miss me

[passionoflove]

Let her miss you maybe thats her way of showing up again

[Asker]

so text her back today but later on, or tomorrow, or not all. I know she won't like it a bit, but she has been ignoring me for 3 days in a row once, i feel like texting her back now, I've already waited for 1 hour, im not that type of guy, but i dont want to lose her. or i should just text back in a different way, less sweet. or just not answer her questions and tell her, im done working, goodnight.