Delete Her Number & Move On?

[Anonymous]

I'm a nice guy, but I have a no nonsense philosophy when it comes to women. I get tired of women playing countless games with me. So, if I feel like they are playing with me, I remove them from my life instantly and don't allow them to come back in.

A few weeks ago, I went out on a date with this girl. The date went so well, we went on a 2nd date after that. Last week, when I was talking to her, she told me how sick she was and how she thinks she has the flu. I texted her back asking her how she was feeling, but got to no reply. Skip to a week later (last night). I shot her another text and she replied to me saying that she is still " very sick" but alive and proceeded to ask me how I am.

Honestly... she has been "sick" for almost 2 weeks now. Is she playing games with me? And should I just delete her from my phone and be done with it? With all the women I have talked to in the past, they never text me at all unless I text them. EVER.

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+1 y

I'm done playing these BS games. I'm going to text her right now and ask her how her Christmas is going and if she is feeling better. If she replies, I'm going to text her again and explicitly ask her what she thinks of me, how she would define our relationship and if I would ever have another chance at a 3rd date. If she doesn't like me, we will just part ways right then and there.

[ReneDS]

bro, do you really give up that fast? what if she is really sick, what if you would just show up at her place, or deliver her a rose or a small box of chocolates at her front door. the girl im seeing, went hot and cold with me for 7 weeks, blocking me on social media, but i never gave up, and i got back more than before those7 weeks when i was dating her. i still dont know were im at with her, but im not gonna give up again. does that make me weak, no strong, because i tell you this, emotionally im drained, but im not like any of the guys she is used with, im a great guy, and yes if she won't respect that, i will go but i will tell her before i leave, you just lost the best person in your life, one day you will realize that, you know were you can find me. dont be childish , dont block her straight away, etc.. invest some time. love isn't easy ok. good luck

[Asker]

It's not that I give up that easily. I just don't like games. Here is an example from 2 days ago:

-Set-up a date with a different girl. We agreed to go out and get some coffee.

-A few hours before the date, I text her to see if we are still on. She gets back to me and tells me that she forgot that she is spending the day/night out of town at her grandmother's house and won't be able to go out.

I get on social media a few hours later, and she stupidly puts a picture of herself at home with the caption that says, "Home alone and chillin' for the night"

Since she blatantly lied to me, I deleted her from social media and my phone.

NOW... back to the question and this current girl:

I am not officially dating this girl, first off. Secondly, if she is flaking on me and is seeing another guy how awkward and stupid would that be of me to show up at her door with gifts. And when I show a lot of interest in women, they stop replying.

[ReneDS]

what that first girl did was stupid, i would have texted, so you dont have time for me huh, cya. not delete her straight away, let her feel sorry. how would that be stupid, you like this girl, so you let another guy have the catch while you are sitting at home, give it some effort. so whats its awkward, its just awkward for 5 minutes, than you go and have a good laugh about it afterwards. dating girls is difficult these days, they aren't sincere anymore, the girl im seeing, well she tells me i think to much, yeah hello what should i think when you were pregnant from me, for 7 weeks, and maybe wanted the child. i dont want to share her with someone else but in her naieve world, its ok for her to be friends with men, who are interested in her, liking all her pics texting her all day, and she knows i dont like it. ill ask her out within a week when she is back and if she did something that upsets me, i tell her, you are about to lose the best person you have ever met, goodbye

[Michael-in-SC]

If you can indeed confirm you are being played, drop her and move on.

[Asker]

I spoke to her and was honest and sincere. She told me that she still likes me, but she hasn't been talking to me much or asking to go out, because she has mumps, sinus infection, ear infection and a throat infection. She said once she feels 100% she would be happy to go back out with me.

[kangy]

I was sick for 2 weeks due to cough and all I did was rest so there's a possibility she's indeed sick. We never know what happened at the other side.
despite that I feel she clf still reply text w ithin a day at least I did.
Give her one more chance and also ask why she never reply back but do it in indirect way.

[pyramid_princess]

Depends on her illness, some hang on you for weeks. Just wait to see if she does get in touch. Your doing the right thing if you think you are being played, i would do the same. Delete number, and never have contact again.

[Asker]

I don't mean to sound mean if she is really sick, but women try to give me the run-around all the time or just stop replying to me... so I had to strengthen my philosophy.

Here is a message I sent to someone below:

She can't be that sick though. She still goes out to work her 2 jobs. So, I can't tell if she is playing with me or not. And I forgot to mention. When I asked her 2 weeks ago, "let's go out on a 3rd date on Wednesday"... she waited all the way till Wednesday to tell me that she was sick and now she is still telling me she is sick. Is she just trying to prevent me from asking her out again.

[pyramid_princess]

Does seem strange, id be more inclined to think she's lying, if she is still going to work. To be honest she sounds unreliable too. My philosophy is " one doubt and im out" you dont sound mean, you have to guard your own heart, cos believe me , no one else will

[Asker]

I might have to put an end to all this bull-shit tonight. Pardon my French. I just can't get a reading on her right now. I may just need to straight up ask her if she likes me or not... and if she doesn't just move on to the next one.

[pyramid_princess]

Lol its okay i speak french too lol. I believe, if you dont know where you stand with someone, maybe its time to stop standing and start walking. Personally i wouldn't even get in touch again. Go with your gut instinct, people lie and deceive, but intuition never lies, it can be trusted more than people.

[Anonymous]

B: assuming you'll begin to figure out how to make her feel better, even if it's chicken soup delivered personally... NO details on what illness it is = don't care about her unless she's dateable

[Asker]

She told me she thinks she has the flu... but.. here are some additional details and I'll let you decide:

She can't be that sick though. She still goes out to work her 2 jobs. So, I can't tell if she is playing with me or not. And I forgot to mention. When I asked her 2 weeks ago, "let's go out on a 3rd date on Wednesday"... she waited all the way till Wednesday to tell me that she was sick and now she is still telling me she is sick. Is she just trying to prevent me from asking her out again.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, I'll decide
She's sick
2 jobs is NOT making her feel better sooner, in fact making it same/worse
Complement her for waiting until last minute to cancel, so she COULD take that date IF illness went away at last minute.
Now, if someone loved to be with me that much and was prevented, I would not whip her, ignore her, I would do everything possible (chicken soup, drug store, massages, errands!) to get her well and ready to date. Get over there. IF you have been played the fool (doubtful) you get to wear the halo and she will speak highly of you to others... more suitable to date.

[kittykatbrat]

I am a serial dater.
Stop initiating contact and move forward.

[JohnScofield787]

dont delete her... just see what happens. I mean if another week goes by, you know she is on death's bed.. but you never know.

[Asker]

She can't be that sick though. She still goes out to work her 2 jobs. So, I can't tell if she is playing with me or not. And I forgot to mention. When I asked her 2 weeks ago, "let's go out on a 3rd date on Wednesday"... she waited all the way till Wednesday to tell me that she was sick and now she is still telling me she is sick. Is she just trying to prevent me from asking her out again.

[JohnScofield787]

she could sure do it easier...

I would give it a week and see how she is doing. If she is still sick you can then say "That has been three weeks... everythnig OK? Need some help?" see how she replies. If she is better and gives another excuse then you know, otherwise you might get date 3