Hey, in my personal opinion, it's best to let her go. She's the cacti type: the more you hold on to her, the more she hurts you literally and emotionally.
If you want to help her, try to find some anger management courses that she can go to. If she refuses to go, then you'll have to break up with her, as difficult as that is to do.
Try not to anger her as much as possible. If you know she doesn't like something you do (if it's unreasonable), then don't do that anymore.
I also see another warning sign here: talking about her ex. Remind her that he's a part of her past and that she needs to let him go. If she won't listen to you and/or becomes more violent (or even continues being as violent as she normally is) then it's time to move on.
Go and find help from a psychologist or other mental health professional, they should be able to offer you advice on how to let her go in a way that'll make the process less painful for you. Most people who are violent cannot be fully cured. I know this because my dad has known at least two violent people in his lifetime who are still bad tempered and at the very least are prone to verbally abusive outbursts today.
When in doubt, it's better for you to separate, at least for 3-6 months. You need to recover both physically and emotionally.
I hope this helps. Go for it!
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I would never, ever, ever... be silent to a girl if she hits me. No matter how much i LOVE her; if there is no respect in the relationship it CANNOT work. If my girl lays a finger on me, i'm not gonna hit her, but i'l show her what i'm capable of doing and scare her. In the least, i would shake the shit out of her while explaining to her (probably shouting) that she better not disrepect me like that EVER again. If she insisted later on hitting me, i'm gona dump her and tell her COME BACK WHEN YOU LEARN HOW TO TREAT YOUR MAN.
Go to the police. Don't break up with her there and then because she will become abusive again. Call the police and let them help you through what to do next and breaking up with her. For instance, they can take you away and you can end the relationship as you leave, but don't end it while you still have to be there.
There's no excuse for violence like that. You haven't done anything, it's her with the problem. Her ex being violent is an excuse - if her ex was a mass murderer, it's okay for her to go kill loads of people? Of course not.
Good luck
You need to go to the police and report her. Break up with her and get a restraining order. She is a dangerous person and you shouldn't put up with her abusing you like this just because she's your girlfriend. She will never stop. Abusers don't tend to stop, ever, for anyone.
Sorry she deserves the shit beat out of her, it's just wrong what she's doing and she knows it's wrong too. Send her ass to anger management, and find someone else!
that is an abusive relationship, and I advice you get as much support as possible and leave.
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either give her a nice ass kicking or put her in jail for good before she kills you one day... i sympathize for you brothre but this woman is nothing but a trouble and she will either kill you or injure you for life she does not seems to love you the least bit... honestly this bitch need s a nice ass kicking on her and needs her jaw broken too... but i would suggest go to the police and get rid of her as you need not get dirty just cause she is evil... most domestic violence are faced by men its only seen as women face it more as men don't complain about it... such nonsense is our society which always favours women... if this woman kills you even then she might only get 6yrs tops in prison then she'll be free on probation and would start fucking some other guy... get rid of her or you will suffer and may be pay with your life one day..
BREAK UP WITH HER? or knock the bitch out... that's not the popular answer but I promise if you just bust her ass once, she will never raise her hand to you again...
Kick her the fuck out. Get away from that situation and get her out of your life. If you've got to defend yourself do it.
BREAK UP WITH HER!!! I know women abuse isn't right and neither should man abuse!
Soo she's the man in this sick relationship? Ohk here's the thing guy, if you don't leave right now.. she WILL end up killing you by "MISTAKE"and you'd be in the other world sending signals that you forgive her for the 100th time smh.
You need to grow a pair and leave, or this is probably gonna escalate til you end up dead.
Break up with her and call the police if you really want her to pay the price hide hidden cameras in your house when she abuses you.
that's really sad to hear. I think you should break up with her.
Holy shit... run bro.
Maybe you need to leave her
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