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Different age groups have different preferences, and I think that you probably are too mature for your age, which is not a bad thing. Lots of people 18-24 like to party so try going to some. Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with the ladies or yourself. This just means when you find the right girl, its going to last. Don't focus too hard on finding a date because you'll find love at the right time without even trying! Good luck!
I don't drink, going to parties is kinda lame when you're completely sober.
Woah, very wise words coming from a 13 y. o. Kudos!
well, my last date was 3 years ago, no wait, that was my last relationship, i'd guess i'm like a younger version of you, i have these sorts of problems too, except i've heard very few girls say i'm cute, but hey, someone will come along and that someone will be great
Well that's how it was for me too, I didn't meet these older women until I left highschool.
I can really ask this same question - but about the fact that younger men seem to fall all over themselves to get a date with me, but guys my age just don't...
It's strange.
Maybe you just have that sort of chemistry they like and girls your age don't?
Maybe you dress very maturely and that's more attractive to older women?
Perhaps you ARE a catch, but mainly for older women.
Your personality seems to be more compatible with women of a certain age and 18-24 ain't one of them.
Bummer. I guess some people still like me at least.
Yeah... but hey, you're completely desirable to someone. That's also an accomplishment. =)
If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you won't give up. If you give up, you're not worthy... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for. Bob Marley (he is fucking right).
I think that stuff is all true most of the time but I've seen people who this wouldn't apply to. Except the last part obviously, that's true for anyone.
Depending on your age, it's likely coincidental. By a person's late 20's, if they don't already have a boyfriend/ girlfriend/ husband/ wife, they're probably occupied with something and are simply too busy to date, their career, a child or two (whether their own or not), college, or are simply just enjoying the single life. Don't sweat it too bad. All of us have been there and wondered that at one point in our lives.
I'm in my early 20's so most people I know aren't married yet.
You might be so mature that it doesn't appeal to people in your age group. Do you dress like most guys your age?
I don't have a specific style I buy a lot of my clothing at thrift stores but I'm picky so most of it is fairly stylish and well-fitting, even if it's not all brand new. I don't wear t-shirts too often when I go out to do stuff, I save them for when I'm lazing around or doing laundry.
Wear a fedora. It will make you a lot more attractive. When I do leave the house I have to hurry back or a gang of hot girls will try to have sex with me. I get laid every day now.
^ winning advice ^
Where are you meeting all these older women? It could be you need to find another place to meet girls more your age. By the way I would love to say it's awesome to see a guy who doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs. I'm the same way and many people who find out think I must be boring lol but oh well XD its not a bad thing.
I'm meeting them everywhere I guess but a good chunk are from work. I agree it's not a bad thing, but it can be awfully lonely sitting up here on our moral high horses lmao JK. It's just so much harder to meet someone when the bars aren't an option but I guess it also potentially means we get higher quality partners.
Very true lol since bars are not an option you could always try places like book stores or parks in the warm weather. I'm not sure how many younger girls go to book stores anymore but my friends and I still do so that represents something XD
Oh god a book store? I used to read a lot but I can't get myself to pick up a book anymore. I also don't think I could be so disingenuous as to pretend to like a book I've never read and don't plan on reading. As lonely as it can get sometimes I'm not worried about whether or not I can find someone of quality, which is something that all these party-goers have to worry about all the time. So we have that going for us at least.
Yeah :) lol our chances of having our non alcoholic beverages being spiked are very low as well. That's good that you're being honest that it has been awhile since you picked up a book, it saves you from the trouble of having to carry out some lie.
"Hey gorgeous, I don't actually read very often I just wanted to meet women"
Lol maybe leave out the "I just wanted to meet women"
"Hey gorgeous, I don't actually read very often I just walk around bookstores in my spare time"
Or "I don't read much but I enjoy quite places to focus on my deeper thinking"
I was joking both times lmao I don't think the bookstore would work well for me.
Lol I figured XD
That does sound pretty good though if I change my mind I may use that. I'm always thinking about physics and chemistry and other nerdy science-y stuff, so if they try to call me out on it I'll share some of my thoughts with them. I guess that's still a bit disingenuous but I'll let it slide because there's some substance behind it.
its because you are mature but girls your age are confused adrenaline junkies that dont know what they want. you seem like a good guy, and the things you say about yourself are probably true. if they are, its exactly the reason you dont find a woman. many bimbos i guess are intimidated by your smarts. well go for more sophisticated and smart girls. those might appreciate you more. and also its not bad if she is 5-6 years older. there are older women that look very young. well you shouldn't screwup your lifestyle for anyone. these dumb girls that had their livers destroyed until they reach 40 with all the alcohol and night life. would you really like to be a part of this? find a better girl. you can and you deserve it. i think.
Thanks, your words of wisdom are appreciated. Now to find one without resorting to online dating, that's a challenge. But I'm up to it.
Man, all of these women our age really just want sex with a witty muscular man. But you can still get girls if you want. Just be nice and compliment them. Go up to a woman and just make a remark of how nice she looks in that shirt. Be real though. And start a conversation from there. Most likely they will talk to you and then you have your chance to impress. But I must say again, most want sex at this age. So make it a nice conversation but not too long and then go do something. After a nice short date, make some hints if you can tell she is willing and then you ate set.
You sound like you've just been unlucky with the girls around you. It seems all of the people in our age group, both men and women, are very immature. At least that's my opinion. I was lucky enough to meet my boyfriend in high school and we've been together for four years, but I would classify us as 'old souls' haha. The right girl is out there, I hope you find her soon!
I hope so too!
You sound a lot like me. I either get approached by much older or much younger guys. It's because I look young or because I appear more mature.
I'm getting over it, I don't really care for guys my age anyhow.
Just deal with the hand dealt to you.
Yeah I guess I don't have much choice.
They could be intimidated by your maturity and good looks and they feel they must be a certain par. On the other hand they might feel you are desperate. Women can sense when a man is desperate, and you might not be as desperate with the older women as the younger. Lastly, the girls might be so sick and tired of men who want sex they might think you are a playa and that is why some girls would give you a enthusiastic “no.”
I'm not a male model by any means but I look fairly decent because I do put in a bit of effort unlike a lot of guys. Like I try to dress well most of the time and I wash my face and keep my hair trimmed and I make sure that I don't have hair in weird places like my nose or between my eyebrows. I would really have to wonder about a girls sanity if she thought I of all people was a player lmao I'm not very flirty and I'm primarily interested in a LTR though I could happily accept a fling if it wasn't an option.
How do you do with slightly younger women? I have no idea what the problem is. Are you involved in hobbies that bring you into contact with women who share your interests? Where do you try to meet women?
I don't really 'try' to meet women, they're often just the women who I happen to encounter in life and get to know. I don't really have hobbies that require me to meet people.
I've had zero luck with anyone younger, my ex girlfriend was 4 years older than me.
Ok. First, think of a hobby that would be fascinating to you. Then pursue it. Make sure it is a hobby that is not male dominated. Women are attracted to men who have passions and interests. And if he shares HER passion or hobby, that is an extreme aphrodisiac. Also, if makes you seem like you have a life beyond pursuing women. Second, try online dating. But do it right. Read the books about how to effectively write your profile and how to sort of women who would be a good potential match before you date them. Then, the first meeting must be very casual and brief- coffee or a drink. Third, join Meetup. com and go to meet ups and have fun. Sooner of later you will meet the right person. By the way, my husband and I met online after being in the dating site extremely briefly (under a month). We have a very happy marriage and great sex.
I also meant to say that once you have picked your hobby, go to group gatherings for that hobby. Sincerely get involved. Eventually you will click with someone and it will proceed naturally.
I don't really want to do online dating, I'd rather wait and meet someone in person. And hobbies usually cost time and money, I'm trying to get an apartment and maybe a second job (part time) so I'd want spare time so if I found a girl I could spend some of it with her.
I agree completely, on the "interested that aren't male-dominated" (video games and sports, anyone?)
The key to meeting women, is just getting out of the house and work environments consistently. The more stuff you do outside of home and work, the more people you are around, the more likely you are to meet all types of people (including ladies!)
You might have my problem in that you look way older than you actually are. I looked 25 in highschool, and I look like I'm in my 30s now
Just roll with it. Date some older ladies. They're generally better in the sack.
I look younger according to most people, but not to the point of having a baby-face.
Yeah , it's common problem. You see that's why women who want "real " relationships date "older men". You'll probably have to do the sane for the next few years.
Sorry.
Yeah you're probably right.
I think you have to act a bit more immature to be more in touch with the women in your age group. If you don`t want to change yourself to a women, fine you could look for a similar mature girl in your age range which might be a little harder to find or settle with an older women.
That's a bummer but I suppose you're right, older women need love too I suppose they just aren't my first preference. I'm interested in one of them so I'll see where that goes.
That's odd. I have the opposite problem. Older women think I'm still in high school for some reason. Women who are barely out of high school seem to trip all over me. Women my age? Nothing. I'm invisible.
Why are women so confusing?
Usually guys who are younger are more confident to speak to me but men older than me or my own age are too shy 😕 it so bizarre
I might take a while sometimes because I can be shy but I eventually let my interest be known.
Biscuitboo90, you are not alone!
Maybe the girls your are, in your area, are more into the wild and immature guy.
You don't seem like the "wild, immature" type. Just keep on looking. You're just going through a dry spell right now.
Dating sucks but I'll live :/