If I like a girl and she is always never alone?

[Anonymous]

If I really like this girl and I want to build up a better relationship with her, but it's hard because she is always with her friends and never alone, how do I do it? Help me pleasee.

[TannerBear]

I'm sorry to say this but you're gonna have to break the bff barrier. This is not an easy task 😞 but you have options 😊 1. You could talk to one of her friends about her and get her to put in a good word for you, 2. You could assemble a group of your guy friends and ask the ladies if they'd like to hang out with you guys at the mall or something of that nature, or 3. You could take a deep breath and just dive right into the shark tank and talk to the girl you like while her friends are around. 😐

[Asker]

I find it hard to trust people, can't trust a friend of hers and I wouldn't want my guy friends to get to know these girls, they would just ruin everything lol. Diving into the shark, seems more appealing than all of those, but would be very difficult

[TannerBear]

You gotta get your confidence through the roof first. Listen to your "turn up" music, and do a couple "whose the man?, I'm the man!"s then just walk up with a smile and something funny to say. 👍

[Asker]

Dat some good advice right there! Would you say it's ok, just asking a girl out, infront of her friends?

[TannerBear]

A guy asked me out at my lunch take in front of all my friends once. He turned out to be the biggest a-hole I've ever met in my life, but that's a totally different story. 😐 Point is it's doable 👍👌

[Asker]

Sorry to hear! But wouldn't I come on to strong? And her friends going over the top and making cheeky comments and so on

[TannerBear]

You can converse without being over bearing, just be chill 😏🙏

[Asker]

Will try to be chilled as possible

[TannerBear]

You my friend, have potential. 🙉👌👍

[Asker]

Thanks tannerbear :)

[Anonymous]

I think you should just go up to her regardless of if her friends around. And if it still bothers you, just ask if you could talk to her in private. Then ask her out.

Or do you want to talk to her first then ask her out? In that case you would do things differently

[Opinion Owner]

Also, the guy below has some good points but as a woman, I wouldn't mind if you said would you mind if we talk in private if you were going to ask me out (because then you have good reason to ask for privacy). If you don't have good reason then yeah, it could come off badly if she isn't really attracted to you

[Asker]

You have good points, but I still need to get her attracted to me, I just haven't had that chance because, she's surrounded by friends all the time

[Opinion Owner]

You mean physically attracted? That happens naturally so you don't do anything for that. But as far as getting her to like you as a person (beyond looks) you just need to follow this advice. Either A) ask her to talk in private or B) not be afraid to talk to her when she's with her friends. For option B, just go up to her group and ask a general open ended question and make eye contact with her when you do it. Then continue the conversation naturally. If she doesn't answer you first or join in first then keep the conversation going until she joins in

[Asker]

That's helpful. Thankss

[Opinion Owner]

No problem

[hannahisrad]

Ask her to meet up like a week in advance and say you want to be alone with her, I'm sure she will have time

[Asker]

How do I ask her that, when her friends are around?

[hannahisrad]

Is there no way you can message her or text her? She can't be with her friends allllll the time

[Asker]

Is it ok, asking a girl out over text?

[hannahisrad]

Asking her out on date or whatever, yeah!

[Asker]

Ok cool, thanks Hannah!

[KDA20]

Toughie - Don't treat it like a hunt, isolate the prey from the herd etc - Get to know the group and if there is chemistry between you and the girl, you will drift into closer contact.

[Asker]

How would I isolate the prey, if they are always together, and how would you get chemistry, when you and her, are not alone together

[KDA20]

I meant DON'T try and get her on her own, thats trainee stalking - Be friendly with group and then if you ever met her on her own or with a smaller group, she would feel comfortable chatting to you and things might move on from there.

[Asker]

Ok I hope I can win her one day

[KDA20]

Friend it is not a competition - You are very young, if she is not the one there will be someone else - You are going to meet 1000s more women in your life - Anyway best of luck fingers crossed she is the one and it works out for you.

[Asker]

Thank you sooo much!

[smexiliciousss]

message her on a social site and tell her that you def WOULD approach her but she's never alone so she doesn't think you're a pussy

[Asker]

I can't really say that, because I haven't feally built up feelings or anything like that, for me to ask her out

[veronica44]

As in talking to her or what?

[Asker]

As in talking to her, and wanting to get to know her better, so that I can get her to develop feelings for me or ask her on a date or something